Who will you/did you have in the delivery room?

[sweetangel7]

Just curious...I'd kind of only like it to be dh and I but I know that would break my mother's heart...AND I know my grandmother has already asked if she can come too...I'm fairly modest and the idea of anyone other than dh and the doctor seeing below my waist or whatever kind of weirds me out.  How do you all feel about this?  Who did you have with you?

[AnitaRFrith]

My husband will be the only one with me.  I would not want oters to see me like that.  LOL.  Anita

[amy0013]

Yup, DH was the only one with me.  I agree that it's all a little too personal for me.  Thankfully my mom never made an issue about being in the room.  She waited patiently outside with other family members until after delivery.  :)  If being alone is something truly important to you...you need to find a way to gently express that to your mom.  :)

[ashiepooh]

DH is all I want and have had in my rooms....

But I do have atleast 10 nurses, my doctor, the pediatrician along with high risk pediatricians in my room since my babies come early!

However let me tell you a story..omg...

Okay, I had told my hubby from day 1 with my daughter, well when we found out I was prego!  I am not the kind of person who flashes my vajaja LOL around to people i'm not married to nor are medically proven to have a reason to be looking there...  And you know my first labor kind of came and went pretty dang quick.  WELL his stupid mom decided she needed to try and be in the room, LMAO  LUCKILY I had my daughter before she got there...And with my son we didn't tell her I was in labor, because I didn't want her there, and she got pissed when he sent a picture after my son was born, saying he's born!  LMAO  

We had to get my doctor to make a lie up to her, as to why I was even in the hospital...ahaha...

But with her oldest daughter, my DH's older of his younger sisters, she marched Herself, her mom (their grandma), his 7 aunts, 3 family friends, and his other sisters in there...And his sister didn't even want them in there staring at her vajaja  

So You can tell your doctor you don't want anyone but dh in there, or tell your mom and grandma that if they are in the room, the only way they can be is if their up by your head, behind you, they wont beable to see anything because you'll have a sheet over your legs more than likely!!  =)

[KellyA74]

I'm only haveing DH in the room as well.....It'll be my parents first Grandchild and I asked Mom if it bothered her, b/c if I truly thought that it would upset her, I would let her....But she said that it was our choice.....So it'll just be the 2 of us......My MIL is mad about it, but it's our choice, my pain....LOL....People should understand that it's a private time.

[JoyRenee]

First daughter- just DH and a host of nurses (they kept coming in and out of the room as I was pushing, just watching or waiting for something- maybe to clean up?).

Second daughter- I invited my MIL, in addition to DH, to be there. She prayed while I was in labor and she really really really HELPED DH be an awesome labor coach (he didn't do so good first time around). She coached him to coach me. It was an awesome team. She took pictures once the baby was born!

Honestly you will not care when you're in pain and eager to see your baby. You could always ask that your grandmother and mom stand by your head instead of watch the baby crown. My MIL saw me in all my glory and I never really thought about it until I got pregnant again this time. It made me giggle! She's a woman, too. She knows what is down there.

[GRose]

There was no question about who I was going to have in the room, it was just a given. I had my Mom, my sister and Noah's dad in the room with me. I wouldn't have felt comfortable without all of them. Joe hasn't been through labor and my Mom and sister have, I was there for my sister's delivery too. I am also modest but when it comes to them I am ok with them seeing me nakey.
I plan to have all of them in the room with me again this time around.

[tarrah87]

i will only have my bf in the room with me.

[alaysha]

I only wanted my ex in the room and my mom because I'm a really private person. Even physical examines make me feel weird. Well when the big day came it suddenly became a party in my room... my sisters drove down 2 hours to met us at the hospital and ended up staying... then my dad came and when it came time to actually get down to business he left the room... but as soon as Aspen cried he came rushing in even though I was still all spread out. Kinda awkward. Also, my ex invited his sister-in-law who also does my hair which was weird because I barely even knew her... and she was the one that top MY camera and took pictures of Aspen coming out. REALLY awkward. Yeah but by the time everyone was in the room and everything was happening I didn't care anymore i just wanted Aspen out. Now it has made me closer to all those people since they were there to experience it with me. Even the sister in law.

[AnitaRFrith]

I'm glad I'm not the only one thats shy about having my vag out for anyone other that my hubby or a medical professional to see.  lol.  

[K1990]

My mom has made comments about wanting to be in the room when I have kids and I don't know how to tell her heck NO!  I'm worried my fiance's mom is going to want to also.  I can't stand that and I will get out of bed and lock my own door if I have to just to keep them out.  I know my mom will me upset when it comes time for me to have kids but I honestly don't really think she has a reason to be mad... my babies and my husband... my choice.  It just makes me mad when others think they have a "right" to be in there.  Daddy is the only one who may even come close to having that "right" lol.

[misslollipop]

I had dh and my sister and my 16yr old step daughter as well but i sent them out until i had the epi cause i didn't want my stepdaughter and sister seeing me in so much pain but they were all staring down there when i was pushing, but i also had, the midwife a trainee ob/gyn and a paramedic who was interested in doing a midwifery course. but by the end i didn't care who was in the room with me.

[Tracy21]

when i had my son i had my mum and dad in with me which was great
with my daughter i had my fiancee and my mum in with my because it was my fiancees first child so i wnted someone with my who new what to do thats y i asked my mum
and when i have my son who is due in april i will have my fiancee and my little sister she is wanting to bacome a midwife so i thought it would be a good idea to let her see what goes on so she can make the right decision with here career

i dont mind whose in with my and who sees my bits lol because at the end of the day no one really cares what your bits look like just get the baby out lol

[sweetangel7]

Hmmm...I'm glad that I'm not the only one who wants this to be a 'private' matter...I'll have to start feeling my mom out about this more and more...I already kind of mentioned to my grandmother that I wasn't sure I wanted anyone in the room other than DH...I'm not concerned about him needing another person to help him out...AND I'd rather him up by me than seeing the baby crown...I don't even want pictures of that lol  There will be no shots below the waist!

[motherofan18month]

DH would have passed out....while i was in labor he was nervous, shaking all over, and dry heaving....i would have hated for him to pass out on me so i told him he could sit in the waiting room. my mom, sister, and sil were with me! i felt a little weird, but i was in the room with my mom just 9 1/2 months earlier when she gave birth to my lil bro, so it wasn't really that bad!

[Kattie87]

Im going to have my SO and my mom in the room. Other then that no one else thats not suppose to be in there.

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I didn't read all of the responses, but only DH for me.  Now, they will allow anyone you want in there up until you start pushing, so it's not like your mom couldn't be there for all of the labor "stuff".  But she could just leave for the actual pushing.  For me, that is just something for only DH and I to share.  With one of my kids, I did invite my mom for the ultrasound though to try to share the experience with her.  But she would be allowed in there almost the entire time.  They will only ask people to leave when they are checking your dialation progress.  Once the baby is born, they will clean you both up and then they can come back in the room and hold the baby, etc.  So, she would really only miss the actual birth but she could be there for everything else.

It's kind of personal for me and you will share every other milestone of your kids with others, such as birthdays, holidays, etc.  This is the only thing that would be for just the 2 of you and I am modest too.  Always have been.  I wouldn't let my mom see me without a shirt on from the age of like 9 :)

[GRose]

huh, this is kind of surprising to me. Not only did I have mom, sister and DB in the room with me they all saw Noah crowning, saw my episiotomy (except DB he was by my head for that)  and they all saw him come out.
I never would have thought to deny my mom seeing her grandchild being born and my sister wanted to be there and I wanted her there too.

[Jame0223]

I want my df(or dh lol) and my mom in the room whenever I give birth! My mom has been there for many births throughout the family. She was there for 3 of her sister's kids, and two of my cousin's births. I know that df wouldnt know what to do! So having her in there will help me and him out lol. I know she'd want to be there and honestly..when I give birth I think all I would care about is getting the baby out lol! Not whose looking at my whoohoo...but she's a big comfort most of the time to me..I can imagine myself screaming I want my momma! hah

[kennedydp5]

w/ our first i told dh i wanted him and my mom in there.  he didn't want her in there (not b/c he didn't like her...  just b/c he wanted just us 2 in there).  but i didn't have to make that decision b/c i had to have an emergency c-section so dh was the only one allowed anyways!  and the next 3 were scheduled and so dh has always been the only one w/ me!

[mamaofonetrying42]

Like someone above said, when it is time to push and you are there, you really dont care who is seeing you. It is the most wonderfull thing in the world!

With my Ethan & Hunter I had my hubby, Mom and Mother inlaw. I wish I could had more because my sisters would had love to seen it.

If we have a 3rd, I think we might ask the godparents.

[Rosa20]

I had the dad and my mom in for my first and this time the df and my mom will come in!! I got mad at my mom when she looked at the babys head coming out!! I dont think shell look thius time....i was in soo much pain and i kinda yelled at her for her to stop looking!! HAHA

[LittleMissBeatz]

OMG sweetangel7 I am so there with you on that one!!  I was like hmmm who should be in there with me I know for a fact that I want DB in there and my mom but I was even skeptical about my mom seeing down there.  I mean I still am to be honest!! LOL

[Mumita]

I definitely would like my privacy, I'd probably want just my dh there.  I'm sure my MIL who's a nurse will want to be in there too and maybe my dad and stepmom because my mom can't handle it!  I don't know how I would get them out of the room, I might just let them stay.  
My dh says that he'll stay by my head cause he can't watch the baby crowning, he said he'd be traumatized.

[krushing]

I've expressed my feelings with my mother and mother-in-law, that I just want it to be me and DH.  And they are both okay with that.  Also, the nurses will help enforce whatever you want.  That's their jobs and they did that for my brother and sister-in-law.  Her mother kept trying to come in and they did not want her there and the nurses put their foot down and took care of it.