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[mizzXx407xXlizz]

hey im 17 years old , and me and my boyfriend are having very unprotected sex, and the last time we had sex was 5 days ago and he didnt pull out , so i thought for sure i was pregnant but the i got my period yesterday which is one week early . does that mean anything .?

[mizzXx407xXlizz]

kk =]

[LosingMyMindInGA]

You do what you feel is right for you and your family.  Whatever that choice may be, we will be here to help you as best as we can.  If you have ANY questions or concerns...just ask.

[mizzXx407xXlizz]

thanks =]

but i been wanting this for a long time and the reason i didnt try was because i was scared of my parents reaction but since i really tought i was this time i told my mom and she was excited about it . and that just made me want it even more . bhut i guess not . maybe i will take dis time out and think will i have enuff to support my family . and i thank you because if i hadnt come on dis site i prolly would would have not thought of any of thee above .

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Apology accepted :) I had my first child at 18 and I know what a rough road it was.  I only want to make sure that ANYONE, especially someone with her entire future ahead of her, is making a very INFORMED decision.  

[mizzXx407xXlizz]

hey yeah like i said i appreciate all the thing that have been brought to my attention &&' i would like to apologize to losingmymindinGA i did take it dha wrong way bhut as i keep reading it i realize that wuh shannon said is true , =]

[mizzXx407xXlizz]

hey yeah like i said i appreciate all the thing that have been brought to my attention &&' i would like to apologize to losingmymindinGA i did take it dha wrong way bhut as i keep reading it i realize that wuh shannon said is true , =]

[mizzXx407xXlizz]

yeah i know .

thanks again to dha both of yuu . =]

[Shannon125]

I think if you become pregnant, just like losingmymindinGA said, we would all offer you any and all support that we are capable of giving. I don't think by any means that she was talking down to you or judging you about the life you may be choosing at such a young age. She was merely offering an opinion on the subject. The thing is, when you come on these forums and ask for help from perfect strangers, you have to expect to get ALL sorts of responses and opinions. That's the risk you take when you come on here. It doesn't do any good getting mad just because someone doesn't agree with you; or someone sees that yes you are young and wants to maybe help you based on their own experiences in life. Regardless of how ready you say you are or how capable you are, you have to realize that people see that you're only 17 years old. The majority of people your age are not ready for the responsibility and undertaking you are considering. You're right we don't know you but we do see how young you are. That is where the concern came from I think. I don't think she was in any way judging you. That being said, I noticed you said that you and your boyfriend talked for hours about getting pregnant. All I have to say to that is regardless of what you decide to do, please try and put even a little more thought into it. I don't think "hours" constitutes even one tenth of the things you should be taking into consideration. I am 26 and my husband is 34 and we are finally pregnant but even being married and VERY financially stable, we both talked for months on end deciding if we were ready. Ultimately, the decision is yours and no one should judge you for that but please just put a little more thought into it. Regardless of your decision, we will support you in any way we know how.

[pinkbelle]

Yea Im with losingmymind I doubt if you are pregnant if you got your period you are young so your periods are probably irregular if you are 100% serious about getting pregnant you need to start tracking your periods that way you know when you are ovulating

[LosingMyMindInGA]

To get to your point, or what I can make of it.  I don't really understand some of what you said but I think you're asking if we think your pregnant.  My answer to that is NO, at this point, with the information you gave I dont think you are....but the only way to know for sure is to take an hpt.  If you get a negative wait a week or two and test again.  

[mizzXx407xXlizz]

pinkbelle : thanks mama =]

nd losingmy mindGA : like i said i came here for help , nobody living muh life fa me feel mee ? i didnt mean to come off as being rude bhut dhas just wuh it is i appreciate wuh all yuu have said nd done bhut i just needed help knowin if i am . not uh lecture dhat i already heard ,

[pinkbelle]

As long as you have really thought it through and that you realize babies are not just cute and fun that they involve work and money and a stable home then I say if you have thought it all through best of luck to you :o)

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Well, you can take it as talking "down" to if you choose.  AS I stated, I'd prefer to make sure it's something you've completely thought through.  As for the opinion part, you came to a public forum asking opinions, if you can't handle them, don't ask.  That said.  If you have done as you said and feel that you and "your man" are prepared for this life changing step then I wish you the best of luck.  There are many women out there who are excellant mothers that started off very young...and there are just as many who don't.  I don't know you but I pray that you will be as you said a wonderful mother.  

[mizzXx407xXlizz]

um . wow . 1st off lemme say dhat im here for help not to be tawked down or to listen to yurr opinon about the situation . we have been 2gether for 2 years . im out lookin for uh job . and i have parents who are willing to help me in wuh eva i need that i cant get myself , i dont go out i barley hang out with friends im dedicated to muh man as he is to me . i can pretty much handle anything the baby has to throw my way i been around children my whole life i love kids , &&' my boyfriends wants this as much as i do , i know wuh im doing we sat nd tawked for hours about this im not one of these dumb girl who go out nd get pregnant by mistake nd den leave the baby to whom ever. and i know he would be a great father because i watch him and how he loves his baby sister . he is gonna be great .

and again i thank yuu for the heads up on everything bhut i have made up my mind and i know i would be a fantastic mother to my future kids .

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Ok, at 17, you say you've been together a very long time?  Are we talking months or years?  Do you both have a job? Are you financially secure...can you afford to live on your own and pay all the child-related expenses. Are you willing to give up your friday night football games or whatever you do?  Are you ready for long nights with a child who won't stop screaming for no reason?  Can you devote 150% of yourself to the care and wellbeing of another life?  How does your b/f feel about this?  Is HE ready to be a father?  Have you discussed this with him?  If you wind up pregnant without his full consent, if he is not ready chances are he's going to run faster than the wind when he finds out.  Are you ready and willing to take the chance that you could end up a single parent?  

You are very close to being a legal adult and can make your own decisions.  I just want to make sure you have thoroughly thought this through.  There are many of us on here who had children at a young age...My first was born when I was 18.  It's a very LONG and difficult road...BUT if it's truly what you want it can be very rewarding.  This isn't a decision to be taken lightly.  Having a baby may seem "cool" and may look easy but it's far from it.  It's a life long commitment that is going to require more sacrifice on your part than you can ever imagine.  

Right now, I don't think you are pregnant.  I URGE you to really think this through before making any decisions.  Should you become pregnant we here on the forums will do our best to help you and support you.  But most of know the trials and tribulations of parenthood and want ANYONE who is considering it to be fully educated before making any decisions.  

[mizzXx407xXlizz]

yeahh im done wif skool . and yeah we really wanna have uh baby .

and thanks fha da support =]

appricate it =]

[miko_latte]

You're probably not pregnant since you got your period.  You can also get pregnant on your period as well.

[carissarae]

are you done with high school and everything? i am not against young mothers i had my daughter when i was 16(not on purpose, but the best surprise to happen to me!), the summer before going into 11th grade and let me tell you if you are still in school its a tough go..and might want to wait until you are done! :)

if you are out of school, and its something you and your boyfriend both really want and think you can handle good luck to you!

[mizzXx407xXlizz]

okay , to all of the pples who commented . thanks . bhut um yeah i do wanna have uh baby so stop with the bc tawk because i already know, me and him have been together a VERY long time and i am VERY much IN LOVE . i wanna have his baby as much as he wanna have mines , so thanks for the comments and help but yeah i am trying to have a baby .

[carissarae]

do we need a dislclaimer "caution: having unprotected sex MAY cause pregnancy!" if you dont want to be pregnant honey, as the other girls said, do down and get on some form of bc. if you arent willing to protect yourself you may have to deal with the consequences of your actions, and if you arent ready for that then get on bc now! good luck!

[Mamacita2251]

All I can say to you is that if you do not want to have a baby or a STD, get your *** on some birth control and use some condoms!!!!!!!  The next thing I want to tell you if you know the consequences of having sex and want to act like a adult, be one!! GET on BC unless you want to have a baby which for right now it does not seem like you are preg., but if you want to have one and you believe that you both are ready than good luck!

[danielle72007]

As LosingMyMindInGA said anything you have sex you risk pregnancy... I would also suggest that you get on some sort of birth control to prevent pregnancy.. its not 100% percent, the only way to be certain you would not fall pregnant would be to quit having sex all together.. but like she said above you would be making an effort.  Goodluck to you..

[marie1210]

You are most likely not pregnant.  Sometimes your period can be off by a week or so just because especially when you are young.  Just be careful.  If you do not want children or an STD, start using some protection and then you can have some peace of mind.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Regardless of having you rperiod....ANYTIME YOU HAVE SEX YOU RISK PREGNANCY.  I suggest that you RUN, not walk, to the nearest planned parenthood and get on birth control NOW.  My first suggestion would be to tell you that if you are not physically, emotionally and financially ready for the prospect of being a mother, then stop having sex...however I know that would fall on deaf ears as it does with most teenagers.  PLEASE, go protect yourself.  While NO birth control is 100%, atleast you will be making an effort.  Planned parenthood can also perform a pregnancy test for you as well.