idk what to do

[Hannah_sweg]

Im 19 weeks along and things with the father are getting bad.
we are considering adoption more seriously because a couple counselors advised we at least look into it.
but he's chnaging a lot and things are getting bad BECAUSE of the baby.
and im getting really insecure about things and I'm getting clingy and stuff and idk what to do.
im terribly depressed and idk what I'll do if he leaves me.
the depression is getting me to think terrible things like eishung I aborted or something and I dont wanna feel that way.

[rebeccaann11]

you need to stop worrying about this boy and worried about you and that innocent baby. I'm sorry hun but you and this guy will not be together for the rest of your life. If he's acting like this already and you guys are at the age of 15 why would you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Kick him to the curb and worried about what's important. That baby. If you can't handle baby that's fine give the baby up for adoption to a loving family.

I truly do not mean to be rude about this. I'm just going to be honest but I don't think you're ready to be a mom. If you are still struggling to figure out who's Important, the baby or a guy then you're not ready.

[jamie2464]

Ok let me get this straight on ur post u wrote about adoption and ur bd ur clingy to who the child u are caring in ur belly or the b.d???? Are u changing ur mind about keeping the baby or only doing it because his telling u to do it and ur those type a females that if ur dude says jump u ask how high???? Am not trying to sound mean at all....if u have not notice the way he is treating u is because ur p.g and he knows if u keep the baby he will b trapped and u will have a power over him...do u not c that men who do dumb s h I t like that is because they are trying to drop u...and do not love u...

[Ftm1990]

I have an answer to your statement about what you'll do if he leaves you...YOU'LL SURVIVE!Just like every other woman that has been abandoned or let down by a BOY.im not trying to be rude but you need to hear this..sit back and really listen to what all you keep saying and really read and take in the advice you are given.that little boy you call your boyfriend just sounds like to me he's looking for a way out whether a baby is involved or not..if he's not man enough to take care of his child that he created he dang sure isn't man enough to take care of you!its time to grow up and stop letting this  it control your life a decisions.this child that you are carrying has so much more potential than this person you call a boyfriend.another thing..if this guy loved you don't you think he'd support you in whatever decision you made?um duh!but no instead he's forcing you into doing something that you will regret for the rest of your life..I can tell you love and want the baby or you wouldn't be so concerned.so ask yourself..is this guy worth a lifetime of hurt?do I really want to give up my own flesh and blood bc someone told me to?if this guy is this childish,can he really ever grow up to be a man and take care of me?the answer to every one of those questions should be a NO!women make decisions with their heart,girls make decisions with their heads.you know in your heart the right thing to do,your just scared of the future,but so are so many others that have taken the chance that you wot seem to take.be strong and do what you KNOW is right.youll have a better life in the long run and this guy will just be a phase.good luck and God bless Hun.

[missmossyoak92]

He got you pregnant he needs to man up to his responsibility but like the other girls said if he wants to leave let him my sister did by herself because he wouldn't man up yes its hard but she did it and you can to :)

[junebby2014]

Girl im never rude but seriously its been plenty of post just do whatever your bf says i guess his the one who only has a voice seems to me whatever you do his going to leave you , you cant tie a man down but you dont know yet your still young . Theres women out there that will die to have kid but good luck on w.e you do

[irixix]

I say stop putting him ahead of the baby he is not the world you think he is but he's not ... There are centers for pregnant women and a network if people willing to help you... That's what you will do.... He is not worth it use your head.. And I am being mean about it because the truth hurts and that's what it takes... Leave his *** .. Be successful and raise that child like god knows you can

[jess-ann5]

Do you know any woman who has given up their child and was content with themselves afterwards?? This isn't like deciding what kind of burger you want from the dollar menu. This decision will effect the REST OF YOUR LIFE. If your boyfriend really loved you then he wouldn't put you in this position. Point blank darlin. A MAN takes responsibility of the child he creates, a BOY runs from his responsibilities. You are so young and yet to live your life. You will find someone better who will want to take care of you and your baby. You will overcome your anxiety and doubts if you dedicate yourself to it! It will take time and yes it will hurt. But your dude may not stick around, but that baby will be your world! You know what you want, just follow your heart and everything else will fall into place later on.

[rebeccaann11]

have you talked to close family members about this? None of us on here can help you because everyone of us on here says to leave the father of the baby.
don't get depressed though. Its easier said than done

[shinieshoes]

Things are not getting bad BECAUSE of the baby. They are getting bad BECAUSE he's a D.O.U.C.H.E.... You will carry on with life and forget about him if he leaves. And when he does leave in the future, and he probably will because he's an immature boy, you will be stuck with a decision that you regret and I promise the depression will be a lot worse. Not trying to be mean hun. I already stuck up for you once before. You can't blame am innocent child that didn't ask to be here for your idiot boyfriend being an a hole that would actually say give up your baby or I'm leaving.

[kjohana011]

I'm sorry if I'm going to be rude but girl come on now. You prefer your boyfriend that you may not know your going to stay with in the long run then the child you are going to have. My baby father left me at 5:36 in the morning. I was with him for 2 years almost 3 and I'm 35+1 I prefer more for my daughter then him. No guy is worth it. If he wants to leave let him leave. Your bf is not a man but simply a boy. You think you got it tough I do to. I cried for my baby father not to leave me in the past but now it ain't worth crying for him. You'll probably thinking she doesn't feel depressed or anything well guess what I do but I find way to cope with it I go outside play with my puppy or I watch soccer or just read a book. Your young boys come come and go but ain't no real MAN will stay with you and care for a child. Don't make a mistake and regret it later in life. Bc in the long run if you and your bf do break up and you really gave that baby up you will be asking yourself this question "What if I kept my baby" sorry if I came rude or upset you but a lot of people been given you advise like what we spanish people say " if you don't take advice you never get to be old." It sounds better in spanish but you kinda get what it means.  

[mamaMcAnulty]

People have given u the advice they thought was best.  We can no longer guide u. Seems you still are so concerned with the boyfriend not child. Men can come an go as they please... baby or not. Just remember one thing.... whether u were pregnant or not doesnt mean he will stay with u. He is being selfish in his own way. My ex didnt want me to have a baby before I miscarried because he didnt want to be stuck providing for a child or be trapped. Also they know if the relationship didnt work out down the road and a child is involved they are stuck paying child support because its a law and they dont want to be forced. Just think about what u truly want. Seems u want ur baby and that is understandable. Stay positive and do what your heart tells u not ur head

[haaleyskye]

Do not have an abortion. There are other options. No matter what is going on that baby is innocent and has a whole life ahead of itself dont take that away from it because of something youre going through at the moment. Whatever is going on between you and your boy friend will pass. Really hope it gets better for you two.