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old fashioned or new school?
How many old fashioned females here? What I mean is are there any believers that stay in the house until their 6 weeks are up! I am young but I've have a couple of ppl my age maybe younger that has had their baby and out in the streets the nxt week?!!! I was always told one foot on land and one in the grave. To each its own but I feel a woman AND HER CHILD needs to be in the house. Its sad cuz u can't tell ppl how to raise their kids these days or give advice. I just feel bad for the baby in the end cuz the mother dnt want to knw better! The fair and shopping just toshow off your baby isn't a good look. Smh and I wanna help but what good would my words be if they dnt listen? Now both her and the baby sick??????
Exactly 2 days after my daughter was born we traveled to Florida from Houston via car for a work trip. I went with my husband because I don't have family down here of my own and with my post partum depression I cried thinking of being without my husband. Granted we made many stops on the way and we stayed at the hotel for a week. We stayed at a hotel that was a block away from the beach and I took my baby for a small walk there. Another night we went out to eat all 3 of us. I think it was harder on me than on the baby, I tore a little and had stitches one of the days was horrible for me, pain down there. But I was better by the next day. So far my baby and I are perfectly healthy, I am breastfeeding her which has really helped me get my body back to normals sooner. Currently I am debating whether to take her to the renaissance festival this weekend, as long as people don't come into contact with her I don't see what the big fuss is.
I just dnt get ppl. I really dnt. The judgment is so really and ppl are calling themselves bad parents cuz it won't come from my mouth.
Right! Just leave it where it is..it's actually kind of funny that people have time to ppst their negativity anyways im at work lol
Happybaby2015, u r absolutely right some of these ppl just make me think how old they are. I remember my mom had a set back from trying to bounce back too early and almost died. It is very important but whatever she was just telling HER story she didn't judge anyone
Thanks, I just dnt knw why as woman we pick out parts of a story and turn it into something soooooo negative! I ddnt get on her and said your a bad mom and you and you and you! I just wanna knw who is old fashioned and who isnt?! Simple but everyone cnt stay home and u I grew up with a single mother so I knw but I love my nephew and just a lil concerned for him cuz anything said to his mother is taken as negativity! My mother trys suggesting putting a hat on the baby head its cold out..attitude. Put on a undershirt..attitude. I'll go to the mall for you what all do u need..attitude. I dnt think the fair at this time of night is good for u...attitude. Little things . and now I feel bad for both of them because they both are sick, he has an upper respiratory infection and she has a cold.
The attitudes of some of you are uncalled for. I'll be in the house with you @Shyease unless going to the doctor or church. We have everything we need & if anything comes up my husband will go out. ESPECIALLY because I'm giving birth in flu season & people are not sanitary these days.
Everyone plz be sure to keep your child away from All germs and People that way they develop no immunity and get sick all the time great idea. Btw cold doesn't make you sick germs do lol ppl are so dumb.
This is stupid what nonsense. So I guess my husband and I are bad parents bc were going to take our daughter home from the hospitol at 3 days old after my repeat cesarean and to see her pediatrician at 6 days old as when you are breastfeeding they want to see them in the first week to make sure they gaining weight and healthy etc. Y the he'll should you sit in your house alone couped up for 6 weeks!? That just sounds damnably depressing. You have fun sitting on your *** in the house for 6 weeks straight :-) im sure my daughter will have gone to the grocery with us at least 2-3 times before she is 6 weeks old. We're already skipping both. Husband's grandmas Christmas this c yat as they each live 2 hours away and she will only be 1 and 2 weeks old them nitv trying to drive two hrs with a nb baby esp while establishing breastfeeding. Hope that is good enough patenting for you lol sry I find this whole nit taking mom or baby out for 6 weeks thing a joke.
To shyease hun these ladies on here always look for some type of argument! You're absolutely right it does not apply to everyone and for ME it is a southern thing.my grandmother would kill me if I was out before my 6weeks lol she didnt call ANYONE a bad parent bt to ME this was the most effect way..my mom did it her mom and so on so no circumstances and some jobs prevent you from doing this so if that was the case she wasn't talking to u. Cheers to being old fashioned!! Everyone is just different. .gosh no need to get an attitude with her!
I disagree. With my first i was a single parent so i was the one that had to go shopping and such to support. My new born baby and myself. Yes im the type to do it myself and not rely on someone else to support me when they shouldnt have to.
and with my second yes my husband n And i planned for a baby but i was still the one not to rely on anyone for anything. In my eyes i think the women should care for kids while the man works. Ues.my husband stayed home for 2 weeks to help out but i felt horrible
and with my second yes my husband n And i planned for a baby but i was still the one not to rely on anyone for anything. In my eyes i think the women should care for kids while the man works. Ues.my husband stayed home for 2 weeks to help out but i felt horrible
I don't think you should keep baby in home for six weeks. I keep hand sanitizer in my bag so I can clean my hands before I care for baby and keep baby covered so people can not touch or get close.
I do however get a little t-ed off when people have children especially small children and they don't have them dressed appropriately for the weather or a young baby uncovered. I seen a 6 month old little boy in less than 30 degree weather wearing shorts and a short sleeve shirt with no socks and shoes no blanket and at the public park on a baby swing.
I do however get a little t-ed off when people have children especially small children and they don't have them dressed appropriately for the weather or a young baby uncovered. I seen a 6 month old little boy in less than 30 degree weather wearing shorts and a short sleeve shirt with no socks and shoes no blanket and at the public park on a baby swing.
Military doesn't have this luxury. Sure, I would love to stay home for 6 weeks and just spend time with my new baby, but guess what? Husband has to go in the field and I have to hold the house together while he's gone.
You said that you wanted a general conversation, but the way you worded your post definitely sounds like you were telling people they were being bad parents.
You said that you wanted a general conversation, but the way you worded your post definitely sounds like you were telling people they were being bad parents.
I think it really just all depends on the time of year you have your baby, where you're going, if its peak season for colds, flu etc. I mean obviously I don't think that taking your child out before a 6 week mark makes you a bad parent. I grew up with a single Mom so I understand circumstance. I do feel for the first couple of weeks I won't be doing my normal running around, I'll be sending the man friend to do it, or we will take turns. But, I have that lugory. Luckily, my little girl is due in April. So, I plan on getting as much fresh air as we can with small walks around the block or just outside relaxing. I guess I'm more new age? All for their own though, like I said I think this whole thing varies from situation to situation. (:
Where is the bad parenting coming from?????? Goodness I am speaking out of the concern of my young nephew for goodness sake! I just totally did agree with him not being dressed properly in this weather its not ok and when we say something we are mean and tryna run her life. I am not speaking for ppl who are UNABLE to stay home and DONT have help. She has plenty of help but rather do things her way.. Its fine that everyone has an optionbut after hhaving a csection u should rest just a little but YESS u have to move around to heal but all the parties and gathering with multiple ppl is pushing it for me. NOT everyone understand where I am coming from which is fine. BUT I NEVER said anyone is a bad parent for taking their baby out!
Pediatricians often give guidelines about this. I was told that I should not take my child to super public places in winter but that spring/summer was less of a concern. We skipped a family party when my baby was a week old and my mother in law wanted us to come--- but there were 30 people there and we didn't want to risk our baby getting ill. Of course, that was our first baby. LOL By the second, you just cart that baby everywhere.
But I definitely was given the advice to keep away from crowds and if others came up and wanted to touch baby to direct them to touching their feet and never hands.
However, really, as I said, for my second child, you just go a lot more and nothing happened. And others bring their little ones everywhere and those babies are still alive.
I was very cautious with my first and 'careful' with my second. But people aren't bad parents if they take their kiddos in public. good luck
But I definitely was given the advice to keep away from crowds and if others came up and wanted to touch baby to direct them to touching their feet and never hands.
However, really, as I said, for my second child, you just go a lot more and nothing happened. And others bring their little ones everywhere and those babies are still alive.
I was very cautious with my first and 'careful' with my second. But people aren't bad parents if they take their kiddos in public. good luck
And again I said speaking from MY OWN personal experienc! Everyone cnt stay home I am speaking from a place I knw the fact and see it daily. But its no need for me to continue because I see my point is being missed and flipped into something different.
It must depend on where you live because my ob and peadiatrician encouraged me to take baby out on little trips and he didn't get his first cold until he was 14mths old. Unfortunately, the 2nd one wont get the pleasure either as there's no way my son would stay home for 6wks.
I don't think if makes you a bad mother for taking your baby out when you have to. There's some of us military wife's thay have no other choice. My husband is going to be going to the field alot so I will be lucky if I stay a full month in doors. To each their own.
I am very traditional I an staying at home the full 40 days. I am also doing the body wrapping. That is just me and how I am. I won't mind taking my baby out the second month just because there's things I have to get accomplished for my baby such as doctorwiw
All I can say is have a deployed husband, live far away from your family and then tell me how easy it is to not go anywhere for 6 weeks. Its very rude to judge when you don't know everyone's situation and why they are out of the house with their baby.
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