safety of a boppy pillow

[mom2ariana]

i know the normal use for a boppy is to feed your baby..but we lay ariana on it for naps and sometimes when we feed her we just let her lay on it..and she absolutely adores it. she sleeps better on that pillow than anywhere else (with the exception of my chest)...were thinking about putting it in her crib at night and letting her sleep on it. right now she's on a positioner, but she kicks so much at night that she ends up falling off of the thing because its at an angle and it really is almost more dangerous than its worth.
but i wanted to get yall's opinions on having her sleep on the boppy before i did it..do you think it'd be safe? she's never fallen off of it before cause its not at an angle and its higher off the floor of the crib. what do yall think?

[Mommashelley1]

i think it just really all depends on the baby and your own circumstances.  

[mom2ariana]

i think there is a balance to it. just like with the issue of feeding i am going through. some pediatricians say feed on a schedule such as every 4 hours...while i think it is best to feed when the baby is hungry. most babies will have somewhat of a schedule on their own anyway.

but when it comes to things like blankets in the cribs and putting our children in their carseats properly, obviously we need to follow the experts advice on this one.

we are the mothers and we have instincts but we cannot be experts on everything.

[JoyRenee]

Mommashelley- just because nothing bad happened to your daughter doesn't mean sleeping that way is safe for babies. You're lucky nothing happened to her. Someone on this message board (I forget which person) lost their 9-month-old family member because they got wrapped up in a blanket and suffocated in their crib.

raquelplus2- some things require common sense. No one is telling her to put her baby in a bubble but to take precautions to prevent something irreversible from happening. I know of too many dead babies and mentally handicapped children because of things that could have been prevented if people used common sense. Babies cannot pull a blanket or pillow off of their heads so they can breathe. We can get in a car accident and die but if I buckle my children and myself using the safety restraints provided in our seats then I'm at least using common sense. Can we still die in an accident? Yes but at least I'm taking the necessary steps to hopefully prevent that from happening.

[raquelplus2]

well like someone said earlyr if we followed everythng they said well we might as well put baby in a bubble an then thy would find something wrong with that lol. jus like pertussis or watever that lead to whooping cough from holding your baby??? seriously wth can we do then?? its jus i think watever you feel is comfortab le with your baby n every mom knows what her baby needs and wants...

[Cassandrajane]

Well I told my other half that I wont be like his sister and goes out every night and gets drunk, it wont spend the first 3 months without us even if with Grandparents and it wont stay a night without us untill we go on Holiday, because I was brought up with baby sitters and being passed around and I didnt like it and I dont have a relationship with my mum and I dont want that too happen, I sounded very selfish when I said that, my other half aggreed with me though and thought it was fair. LOL. I dont plan to start work untill it starts pre schoool, again with sitters, and it wont be left with registered Childminders it would be left with Family. Because of my paranoia and I can trust family, just NOT my boyfriends sister, it wouldnt get looked after and my Boyf said that not me haha...
I seem really controlling and like I want it to myself... But really I dont want it to grow up like me! And my boyf's brothers girlfriend is doing Exactly the same as me!! So I cant be that bad? xxx

[Mommashelley1]

Babies tend to start rolling over around 4-6 months. Depending on your living situaion. My dad used to live with us and he had 2 big rotties. He had his own room but sometime he would let the dogs out into the living room to streth and i was afriad to put sophie on the floor with the dog hair so she didnt even start walking until her first birthday.

About the hours of sleeping and going past feedings. my ped. told us that if your baby is hungry they will let you know if they are sleeping and go past a normal feeding then let them sleep their body is telling them they are tired. never wake a baby to feed them they will let you know when they are hungry. I once saw on Discovery a woman wanted to put her DD on a schedual so she woke her ever 2 hrs to breastfeed. needless to say the baby never wanted to eat she always fell alseep when the momma was breastfeeding. SHE WAS TIRED! let them sleep. most NEW babies sleep between 8-12 hrs a day. its natural lol.

When we got my DD bedding set it came with a small comfortaer we ended up hanging it on the wall as decor. but got her a fleece like blanket from Walmart. she loves this blanket so much we had to get another. its usually in the bedding section but its in the kids bedding area and most of the ones ive seen have like tinkerbell of flowers or something on it its not really fleece but some other kinda soft soft material, its about the size of a small throw blanket for a couch. really lite bute then aging sophies like her daddy and swaets really easily at nite to so its just enuff for her.

[mom2ariana]

what age should they start rolling over?

cassandrajane: its not selfish at all!! my daughter is 6 weeks old and me and hubby are already taking a weekend to ourselves this weekend. she has grandparents and great grandparents that LOVE her and adore keeping her. and i would go INSANE if i didn't take time to myself. definitely not selfish. id be a ***** if i was stuck at home all day everyday. dh watches her when i go tan...and my parents watch her sometimes when we work out..weve had quite a few dates since she was born. we are very responsible and do not just dump her on our parents..we are reasonable about the time we take and careful not to overdo it. we don't go out partying either we just take some time to ourselves every now and then. everyone needs it :)

[raquelplus2]

also prolly if thry rolling over and what not i wouldnt but a newborn would be fine i do lay my babies with blankets and thyr fine...people over react or really dont watch thyre babies...

[raquelplus2]

honestly my son all my kids actually loved the boppy too. i do put my boppy in my sons crib n he sits in it or lays in it and looks at his mobile n mirror. as did my others. theyr alllll fine. and i think the tag means for you not to sleep with it while babys on your lap feeding. which i have done before lol. idk i dont thinjk its a big deal i have and alll my kids are great and nothing ever happened.

[Cassandrajane]

Yeah... everyone is saying its selfish that we are still going away... But its not like im my boyfriends sister who goes out everynight getting drunk. im going away for 2 nights... once a year, then a month later we are going back like normal and taking the baby.... But newborns and REALLY loud planes like the Eurofighter Typhoon..... NO WAY not a good idea not untill its about a year. Thats reasonable right.?
I wish we could.. if its a girl my boyfriend will... untill she's 92 LOL.
I will try to express... I also dont want my boobs to disapear... :( I am scared about this, BUT after my termination I got the lumps yo get in your boobs the milk and they didnt go down. But still... seee EVERYTHING I worry... and its pathetic things as well haha...

x

[mom2ariana]

yep my pediatrician mentioned a baby that had menigitis and was breastfed. sometimes it just happens. its unfortunate we can't put them in a giant bubble until they're 30.
i dont see why you'd have trouble pumping. take your 2 day trip, pump extra for about a week before and freeze it. that way whoever is sitting your baby only has to thaw the milk out to feed. and if you pump into a bottle your bf can feed the baby.
my mom was super for breastfeeding and not happy i decided not to. but my husbands mother didn't breastfeed and neither did either of his grandmothers and they all turned out just fine :)

[Cassandrajane]

My youngest brother and well 5 of the 7 were breastfed, and my youngest brother has NO immune system he had Meninjitus at 9 days old... and a week later had Pnemonia and has been in from birth..... He is breastfed... for the first week I plan too.. and then bottle feed, if i can express the milk into a bottle I will, but If i cant it will be formula... Me my brother and sister were bottle fed and one of my other brothers was too... But he was born half blind and Now has probably developed cancer because his mum too all these tablets and co codamol and Condiene whilst pregnant... Another reason why I wont take tablets during Pregnancy... Because of my poor brother....

My step mum says breast feed... But me and my partner go away the same time every year for 2 days... to an airshow and at the time we go away the baby will be WAY too young to come because planes and a new born NO WAY... and i cant leave my boobs with my dad to feed my baby. so it makes sense... I cant just take them off... and stick them on for my boyf  to feed the baby. Especially if its a girl he feels he wont bond because hhe is used to boys and feels he wont be a good daddy if it a girl so feeding her would heelp them bond, Although he will be AMAZING because he just will be.

You name it, I worry about it.
xx

[mom2ariana]

i was the same way and i thought it would get worse after i had her but it got better. hopefully that will be the case for you.
as far as breastfeeding goes, here is what MY pediatrician told me. he said that theres not a huge difference between breast milk and formula, EXCEPT the antibodies.
what i did is breastfed in the hospital. i wanted my baby to have colostrum, which is the most important stuff and contains tons of antibodies to protect against illnesses. once the baby has colostrum he/she has protection. what breastfeeding does is give the baby continued protection against new things you are exposed to. for example if you are breastfeeding and you come in contact with some virus and are exposed to it and your body builds immunities and then you feed your baby, your baby now has protection against a new virus.
but even babies that are not breastfed are protected for the first couple weeks after birth. antibodies cross the placenta to the baby and keep the baby protected for awhile.

i didn't want to breastfeed either; its just not for me. it's really not as big of a deal as people make it out to be. science has taken us very far and formula is very good for babies. i'm not saying it is better; but it is close :) don't worry about it!!

[Cassandrajane]

I have had alot of experience with kids but your own is different I guess haha.....
Im a worry wort as well... LOL...
I know for sure I dont want to breastfeed because I physically wont be able to wean them off... and My other half wants to feed as well... as he will be at work alot it would be the only time he gets sometimes and it means alot to him... and I dont want to breast feed, but its the best form of milk.. are im actually torn, I will feed for the first weeek and then stop.... I know that for sure.. I think haha.
I have so many animals as well.. They are all caged and will be out the way and when the baby is older it will interact with Animals and stuff and will be nice to them haha.

See Im worrying about EVERYTHING already and im only like 11 weeks haha.... I just cant seem to stop worrying. It drives EVERYONE mad.

xx

[mom2ariana]

thats crazy..i have never heard that haha. i think lots of different people have different opinions.
like just today i was talking to a pregnant lady at my nail salon and we were talking about how ariana sleeps from 12 to 5, and she was surprised i let her sleep through feedings because the book she reads tells her not to..but my pediatrician tells me i can up to 6 hours.
you will find TONS of different opinions out there. another example? my MIL says cereal in the bottle is okay at 5 to 6 weeks but my mother says wait till about 12 and the pediatricians say don't do it at all. haha you will learn that as a mom MOST of the time you're going to know what is best for your baby; trust your instincts :) if something doesn't feel right or safe to you, don't do it. otherwise try not to worry too much!! you're going to be a great mom!! ask all the questions you can think of, but when you bring that little one home a lot of it is going to be a learning-as-you-go experience!!

[Cassandrajane]

Neither had I, untill my SIL said it...I was likeOH? Because the Midwife put a new born baby 2 hrs old next to an open window now she has a cold LOL.
But yeah, they can have blankets just not HEAVY quilts like us for the first year or something because I duno LOL>... This is what my book says but I dont understand!!!
I feel so rubbish that I wont be able to do this properly and Im going to fail as a parent....
ARGH! im reading EVERYTHING researching everything and everything... I havent been booked into any classes, I am going to ask my midwife about that at my apt on thursday. because I wanna do the classes and stuff, I would like as much help as I can... because although I have so many brothers and sisters, Im so scared and stuff, i wanna know as much as I can.

xx

[mom2ariana]

i think its okay as long as its balanced out...my daugher sleeps in her crib for some naps and at the beginning of the night..she usually has a 12 am to 5 am sleep stretch where she is in her crib and then shes back in it at 5 or in our bed..depends on the morning. she is fine in her crib either way..she just sleeps BETTER in our bed at that part of the morning so i get my extra hours. but at night she has no problem sleeping in her crib.
you will learn quickly about how to take care of your baby :) schedule a prenatal appointment with the pediatrician you chose for your baby and ask tons of questions. ive never heard of the window thing.

[Cassandrajane]

Ohh, because I know they cant have a duvet like us adults... and proper pillows because of suffocation and getting tooo hot and things, I know nothing aha.
My brother who used to sleep in my step mums bed now and again when my dad went to work.... Now doesnt sleep in his own bed, Because he liked geting in with my step mum and things on the occasion (When he was sick and when my dad was at work) So he sleeps on a matress next to them, He doesnt like sleeping in his own bed.... Which is why I wouldnt do thhis myself... fromm birth, but my other brother, gets into my real mums bed at like 2 am and stays there,,, but at first I couldnt do it..


xx

[mom2ariana]

the safest way for them to sleep is on their backs and they aren't supposed to sleep with anything in the crib at all that is why i posted this :)

cassandrajane: i didn't fall or anything..its very strange. no hospital yet, still wearing my back brace and waiting for DH's medical insurance.

[mom2ariana]

they say they cant and she doesn't sleep with anyything in her bed...actually we came up with a solution...i took the side wedges that keep her from rolling off of the positioner (they are velcro) and just stuck them to her bedsheet and she sleeps in between those. since there is no incline and the bedsheet i guess has more static than the positioner she doesnt slide and its working out great!!
she eats on her boppy though..and loves it. i know your not supposed to prop their bottle but i prop her's up with the comforter ( i keep an eye on her when i do this ) and she ***** away and im hands free.
joy: she does sleep with me in the mornings..i dont wake up until 10 or 11 ish so around 8:30 when daddy leaves for work i put her in our bed and she sleeps with me...she sleeps tons better in our bed and it lets me get my last couple of hours!!

[Cassandrajane]

But I am a very paranoid person and a VERYYYY heavy sleeper so I couldnt do it anyways. LOL. Cause I can sleep through a firealarm in my room and school bells and church bells, and a megaphone in my face and at a discoo next to the speakers, I can sleep and through Hawk planes and things like that haha...

But I thought they couldnt have Pillows annd quilts untill they was over  year.


xx

[tsie]

ok, can someone please explain he safest way a baby is supposed to sleep.pliz

[Mommashelley1]

i know i may be going aginst all these ladies advice but i did eveyone of these. I bought a bobby and my DD did just as yours does lays on it and eats on it. I have a positioner i bought thats at a slight incline. i put the bobby around the positioner to level it out and my DD slept on it until she was 6 months to sleep in a crib. during out naps i coslept with her. and she slpet between 2 pillows granted hse had pletn of room inbetween to wiggle all she wanted she never had trouble breahting. never did anything wierd. now 22 months and she sleeps with a pillow and a blanket in ther crib. she cant sleep without them. weve never had problems beffore. it just all really depends on the baby she never kicked like you say yours does. she alwasy stayed on her side and to this day thats how she still sleeps.

[JoyRenee]

And PS- I get BETTER sleep cosleeping than other mommas. It also nurtures our breastfeeding relationship. I'm a huge advocate for bedsharing BUT it isn't for everyone.