Just lost my sh*t on my husband- sorry long rant

[alid32]

I just flipped on my husband. I'm 33 weeks and have been nesting all day- cooking for everyone, cleaning, laundry and organizing. I planned the menu for all the meals this week and did the shopping list. I've been pretty busy all week as my daughter was sick, meetings at my son's school and taking care of his dad who lives with us (he was in the hospital this week with respiratory issues). My husband invited a friend over for dinner without asking me asking and then started asking when I was making dinner. Then the friend and his dad start complaining about not wanting to eat at 10 tonight.  I just snapped. My husband said I shouldn't be upset because I have all week to get stuff done and there's no need to try and do stuff all in one day.  Trying to explain that I've been busy with tons of stuff all week and at this stage I always have the energy was like talking to a freaking wall. And met with this statement "Look at you.  Already overwhelmed and you don't even have the baby yet. Ridiculous. " I know he works,  but then he comes home to a clean house, meals cooked for him and parks his a*s in front of the TV or goes to work out. Must be nice!  Ugh. I'm so pissed right now! A little understanding and help would go a long way.  

[m_r_p]

Oh he played the "you're being emotional" card by saying you're overwhelmed now?  I would be really upset. Like, how about a little consideration to the fact that I've been busy all day and not surprising me with another dinner guest, or help me by helping me out. Maybe you wouldn't be so "overwhelmed" if he helped out a bit. Ugh. Sorry you had to deal with that. Men can be so clueless. Not to mention insensitive!

[alid32]

Thanks ladies!  I appreciate the validation and support. Boy is lucky he looks good with no shirt, lol

[Expectingaprincess]

Men are a damn trip, they don't understand the **** we go through. I mean damn can we get a break...lol..but no for real it's hard enough you be busy and they be adding on more stress. It's crazy. Gurl I'm glad you snapped on his ***, cause I would of snapped on all they *****..you dnt wanna eat when I cook take you *** to Mc Donalds and have it your way over there lol..ugh.

[Nique5683]

I just went on strike. I told my husband I'm gonna do what I need to around the house and for my daughter but until he's appreciative I'm not cooking him squat. He works at night and I usually make dinner early for him despite being extremely busy and going to school, doing homework and taking care of my four yr old while I'm 26 weeks preggo!! He had the nerve to say "don't cook me anything if you don't want to"...I'm going to do just that...

[1NAMILLION]

I'm so sorry to hear that you had to experience that :-( . Unfortunately,  your hubby is being really inconsiderate and unempathetic...and however you spazz out on him, he needs it.  I totally get why you're beyond frustrated, but, unfortunately men go into self pity mode at times and feel like everything we do is the least that can be done since we're at home (my hubby can be guilty of this at times too), but, what they don't realize is that they actually have it easier since work at least gives them an outlet from everything and they have set hours of a work schedule but not the job of a stay at home wife/mom/in law caregiver/errand lady/ home chef/cleaning lady/nurse/therapist, etc. You are wearing alot of hats and all while pregnant,  he seriously needed whatever reality check you gave him.

I pray that all works out and that he will instantly have an epiphany and find more compassion and gratitude for all that you do and who you are. Congrats on baby and best wishes.

[mommyof3Ts]

I feel your frustration 100% men don't understand that we are making a human being! Which zaps so much energy. I've told my significant other I wish we could trade places for 1 day and see how much gets done on his post! I have 3 step children and 2 biological and one on the way. I'm 37 weeks today, we generally get the kids every other weekend. I asked that I be given a break until I have the baby because honestly I'm tired and have to muster the strength and energy to deal with my daily load let alone the additional, which includes an 16 month old and a autistic child. Needless to say the 16 month has been here since Tuesday and the other 2 we got last night. I'm at my wits end! Holidays are coming and I'm expected to cook, clean house, entertain, and have a baby at some point. Didn't mean to turn this into my own rant but just want you to know that your are not alone regardless of anyones lack of empathy there is a silver lining in all of this! We are mothers and can do the impossible! Sometimes it just helps to vent and move on! You are one person and can only do but so much, don't be afraid to ask for help. I pray for us all and know that it will be better soon!

[lkaykirk]

I'm so sorry. I don't blame you for flipping  out though.

[alid32]

*don't always have the energy