What To Get After Birth, If Adopting

[BeautifulButterfly87]

With me doing adoption, I wouldn't be having a baby shower. Since a baby shower is only for mothers keeping the baby, and needing supplies for the baby. I've decided to have a "Mommy Shower". So that I can have things for myself after my baby is born.

Since I know I'm not going to be in the best mood for a while after the baby is born, I would need stuff to help me get through that first year. Like books on depression, and books on experiencing giving a baby up for adoption. And other books to help me.

But like always, I'm not sure if I should even have it. My mother says no one does that, and I told her that's why I'd be doing it. And she just gives me a look of confusion and makes me feel like I'm making another mistake. That everything I do, should be the way she would do it. Even if she doesn't tell me what she would do. Since she's not the type to REALLY HELP.

I don't even know if people would come, since I know certain people, they don't think I'm making the right choice, or they won't even talk to me anymore, and just treat me like ****. And I know I can't hear what people are saying, I know they are, since I'm used to that. Been happening to me for most of my life. Just wish I had actual friends. I only have one really close girl friend helping me through this, just because she knows too, since she's pregnant too. But I just wish I had more help, I feel like I'm doing this by myself.

The father won't really help, way too immature. And having to move back home, that's not helping things. Since I won't be able to go online when I move there, since I don't have a job. Ugh. I need to get away.

That's why I want to do this Mommy Shower. To be able to get things for myself to cheer me up, cause all I do is cry each day. By myself, and I know It's not healthy for the baby, so I start to bottle it up, and that's not a good idea either. I just can't be or get happy. Dammit!

If anyone is in the type of situation, or has experienced it, please help. :-(

[bbm1188]

You do whats best for you, I remember your story when you came to this conclusion. I think the mommy shower is not only a good idea but I dont see why people havent thought of this before. People may be sad for you, you may be sad to but Its also a joyous time, you can celebrate or be celebrated that your giving someone such a precious gift. And for me personally Being told id never get pregnant, had to try for four years on and off, all while feeling miserable my body didnt work like it should, it made me soo depressed. So that gift your giving someone, will probably help heal them and bring so much joy in their lives. And you get to redefine yourself, find your purpose if you know what I mean without the pressure. I understand how hard it would be but you seem like a strong girl Who should be celebrated for doing such a selfless act. Do the mommy shower invite those who you think will support you. If I was there I would gladly go for you. I wish you luck. :)

[dreamersleepy]

You keep saying my baby...are you sure you want to give the baby up for adoption...by no means am I judging you...if you think its the best for you then do it... but if you know it going to make you sad then you shouldn't do it...however, a mommy shower would be wonderful to have...I say do it...forget what everyone else say... be a trend setter..:-)

[reilymom]

I think a mommy shower is a great idea. Don't let anyone put it down. Thank you for the very brave and selfless choice you are making.

[hutch2996]

Just sent the info in a pm on here

[BeautifulButterfly87]

I do have some good news on the internet. I was able to find out from my brother that he's gonna be getting internet at the house. Yes, I would love information on the support group on fb. Thank you. :-D

[hutch2996]

I think it's a great idea! If you ever need to talk/vent msg me on here. I have found a great support group on fb. I know you won't be able to use the internet  once you move but its all birth mothers that can offer support and advise. If you are interested let me know i will send you the info

[BeautifulButterfly87]

Thank you. About to exercise. I think if I exercise when I'm upset, it'll help EVERYTHING. Me, my baby, and my mind!

[jgarner1018]

I think its a  wonderful idea to do the mommy shower. Congrats to you for everything your doing.