adoption

[kazarion]

My Girlfriend  and I are having our first child , a little boy and she says she wants to give him up for adoption because she doesnt think she ready to be a mom and she still stays with her mom for now she's 17, and im not agreeing with adoption I Want to be in my childs life and watch him grow up.  This My First Child,, What Do Yu Think About If?

[aubreyann]

Im actually placing my baby boy for adoption. Its a very open adoption (as most are these days). Alot of people don't understand adoption. I didnt understand it fully till I was going through this process. I chose to place BECAUSE I loved my baby so much I want to give him all the opportunities possible. As much as I wish I was ready im just not. Its important to me for my child to have a married mother and father and are ready to have a child. I want to give him the best life possible and I know im not capable of providing that for him right now. The parents I chose for him all I knew was we lived in the same state. Turns out we live in the same neighborhood! We've developed such a great bond and relationship and I love then dearly. The adoptive mom comes with me to my dr appt and out families get together. Its such a neat experience and I can't wait till he's born in 8 weeks! We agreed ill be visiting every couple months and we will be texting regualary and I will be receiving pics and updates. She wants him to k now where he came from and have a relationship with me and br proud he was adoptive and know how much I love him. I love him already so much it hurts. Its going to be the hardest thing ill ever do but its a sacrifice for my sons happiness and all the ippurtunities he has in store for him :) don't rule an open adoption out. It really is a beautiful thing that alot of people do not understand. Its what's in your chills best Interest. Not yours

[Mrs_Baze]

Wow, you don't have much time left! It's awesome that you want to keep this baby so badly. I agree with the girls. Your child is irreplaceable. It's mother will either come around or she won't. If she doesn't then she doesn't deserve a real man like you anyway. Her youth is no excuse; plenty of young mothers sacrifice to provide for their children. Not as many young men do, but they are out there. My now husband stepped up when we found out I was pregnant; he had just turned 18. Now he is the best father I know.

Good luck, and kuddos for being a real man.

[baby2014]

If I were you I would speak with a legal aid to help you see what your options are and what you can do right now. I would also start buying diapers and formula now. 2 cans ever week or 4 cans biweekly however you get paid. And diapers I would buy 3 box's of newborn 4 box's of size one and 4 of size 2 and about 5 of size 3 to get you started and do not open all of the boxes for just in case you may need to exchange them for a different brand or if you run out and need another size. Buy 1 box of diapers per week luvs are a good brand and cheap you get a big box for around 15 bucks parents choice wipes (Walmart brand) are decent and the best diaper cream is triple paste. Sign your kid up for Medicaid if you don't have insurance because a doctors visit is expensive especially when it's time for shots. Don't buy too many newborn outfits I would say 5 maybe because they outgrown them so fast since you are close to winter get 3 to 6 month winter clothes. Ask for a baby shower to help you with a lot of this stuff. A parenting class helps too. Glad we took one. Good luck God bless you'll be a wonderful dad!

[neli2013]

Wow not every man thinks like you...you fight for wat u believe is right..best of luck.

[angelmrm2001]

Has she come around? how are things now? Hope all is well we need more dads like you in this world!!!

[kazarion]

She is 30 wks now and thanx

[a23mckee]

Dont let her threaten you with if you wanna be with me youll gove it up for adoption. Shed clearly not worth it. Thats your son and he needs you. My ex tried that. My daughters 10 and he never has even seen her. Shes amazing and mine. Besides he turned to be a repeat felon and wasnt worth staying with anyways. Theres lost of government help for free formula and diapers. You just have to look at your options. Also how far along is she around 8 months woman get really attached to the moving baby and mother instincts kick in. Just play it by ear and never give up your child the damage it will do thinking you didnt love him is irreversible.

[An293029]

hi.. happy to see that you are sooo responsible father..Keep ur kid with you..Defnitely one day she will come to u and kid.. After all she s a mother..

[kazarion]

Thank You Guys, Yall Helped Out Alot

[annat33]

I agree if u want the baby don't let her pressure you into giving him/her up. Dont sign if u can get help from family and friends if she can't handle it well there's nothing you can do about it. It will be her biggest regret. But if u want the baby don't give up I'm sure there are people willing to help. Also I think its so cool you wanting to be there i wish there were more fathers out there like that.stay strong good luck!

[cristina3065]

If you really love this child, then raise baby on your own. She will come around and want to see and be around this child eventually. Trust me. A mothers instinct kicks in and she WILL come around at some point and want to be in this child's life. If you really feel strongly about it-don't sign the papers. Continue to talk to her about it and hopefully by the time she has the baby she will have had a change of heart. If not, do what you need to do, and step up to care for the child on your own. Also, be aware that there is a lot involved so if caring for this child is something you want to do, start getting your ducks in a row now. Start saving for diapers&formula. Get a crib, car seat, clothes, and everything else you will need because the list is long!

[kazarion]

I told her I Would Keep Him But She Said She Doesnt Think She Can Be Around Him The First Time Then She Brought Me Papers Talkin About Adoption The Other Day and I Told He It Wasnt An Option, Then She Said If We Wanna Be Together As In If iKeep Him She Wont Be Around. I hope She Have A Change Of Heart After She Delivere and First Hold Him. I Loved My Child From The Moment I Knew He Was In There Growing and It Will Hurt Me Bad Not To Have Him.!

[cristina3065]

Well, if you are against the adoption and are in a position to care for this child you might want to see about raising this child on your own. Talk to her about it and see what she thinks. Also, if I'm not mistaken you need both you and her to sign papers for the adoption to go thru so if your not willing you need to inquire what will happen to the baby at that point. You need to talk to her, think about what you are willing to do and give up for this child, and come to some sort of agreement. Good luck!