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baby daddy problems
My baby daddy what's to name our son after himself he's a jr so our son would be the third. I don't want to name our son after him one of the reasons being we're not together I have other reasons but that's the main one. We're also arguing on deciding if we should get our son circumcised. I want him to be circumcised but my baby daddy doesn't because he's not, I'm tired of arguing and I'm willing to give into not having him circumcised because after doing some research it doesn't seem to be that big of a deal but I don't want to give into naming our son after him. Any advice?
advice is he is both of you guys baby but im guessing he will live with you you'll be getting up in the middle of the night and you give the most time and everything else.not saying hes a bad dad at all. But the doctor wont listen to him its honestly your decision if your son is the 3rd because you write it on the papers you sign the circumcision papers not him so the decision is ultimately yours .if you give him some permission to do something you still have to be the one to do it.
advice is he is both of you guys baby but im guessing he will live with you you'll be getting up in the middle of the night and you give the most time and everything else.not saying hes a bad dad at all. But the doctor wont listen to him its honestly your decision if your son is the 3rd because you write it on the papers you sign the circumcision papers not him so the decision is ultimately yours .if you give him some permission to do something you still have to be the one to do it.
You do what you feel is best, you are going to be that babys main care giver. I personally would have my son (if I ever have one) circumcised because I feel that the benefits health wise are well worth it.
My first child I did give her dads last name because most women change their last names later in life anyway and I wouldnt if it were a boy because I feel that is something men should earn, not automatically be given, again names can be changed later on. I have a friend who has 3 kids by the same guy each time she got pregnant while they weren't together, and the son is not named after him, and none of them have his last name.
My first child I did give her dads last name because most women change their last names later in life anyway and I wouldnt if it were a boy because I feel that is something men should earn, not automatically be given, again names can be changed later on. I have a friend who has 3 kids by the same guy each time she got pregnant while they weren't together, and the son is not named after him, and none of them have his last name.
My advice is he both of you guys baby but im guessing he will live with you you'll be getting up in thr middle og the night and you give the most time anf everything else.not saying hes a bad dad at all. But the doctor wont listen to him it honest your decision if your son is the 3rd it because you write it on the papers you find the circumcision papers not him so the decision is ultimately yours if you give him some permission to do something you still have to be the one to do it.
Thank you ladies for the advice :-) and I was planning on give the baby his last name
If u are a single mom and your not sure if u want your son circumsized think of other people that might change his pamper and how well will they clean him and whats the way with a chance of less infection? Its what your comftorble with and whats the best interest of the child. As far as the name is concerned.... think about all the "good" and "bad" reasons of him being a 3rd and if one outweighs the other then theres your answer. . Happy mommy happy baby.
lol I agree with @bebe5709.. if you give into the circumcision, I think you can pretty much name that baby what you want!
lucky for me, my fiancé hates his name.. idk why? but he's not crazy about it, so I don't have to worry about that.. and we both agree that if it's a boy we want him circumcised.. personal choices I guess. we just don't see why not. some people believe in not doing it for religious reasons, but it's not harmful.. and it's easier to do it now than later. the majority of men who end up getting it done later in life (due to just not liking it or being embarrassed by it) typically wish they'd had it done as a newborn.
anywho - I also agree with @arlandonbloom: baby daddy's come & go AND you two aren't even together!! I love my fiancé, but what I say goes.. I don't care how long you carried this sperm in your "sack" as some men argue, try carrying it around for 9 months the way WE HAVE TO!! he has no argument there! he's even said he couldn't do it..
name that baby what you want, of course he at least deserves the child having his last name, but geez.. you should get some say-so on the first name.
good luck!! (((:
lucky for me, my fiancé hates his name.. idk why? but he's not crazy about it, so I don't have to worry about that.. and we both agree that if it's a boy we want him circumcised.. personal choices I guess. we just don't see why not. some people believe in not doing it for religious reasons, but it's not harmful.. and it's easier to do it now than later. the majority of men who end up getting it done later in life (due to just not liking it or being embarrassed by it) typically wish they'd had it done as a newborn.
anywho - I also agree with @arlandonbloom: baby daddy's come & go AND you two aren't even together!! I love my fiancé, but what I say goes.. I don't care how long you carried this sperm in your "sack" as some men argue, try carrying it around for 9 months the way WE HAVE TO!! he has no argument there! he's even said he couldn't do it..
name that baby what you want, of course he at least deserves the child having his last name, but geez.. you should get some say-so on the first name.
good luck!! (((:
My husband and i argued over and over about our son's name. I wanted one name and he wanted to name him after himself (who is also a Jr. our son being a 3rd) well... He got his way and I am still pissed at him for it. I love our son to pieces but I regret naming him after his dad and grandpa. Not that they are bad people but mail gets mixed up, phone calls get mixed up, I feel like my son doesn't have his own identity and we are married... You are the mother, you are the one who has been with this baby from the beginning and will be for a long, long time. Baby daddy's come and go, but you are the mother, name him what YOU want. As for the circumcision, I left that to my husband since i don't have a penis and don't have to deal with that but whether you decide to circumcise him or not, it's really no big deal. My son is circumsised and I still have to clean under the head of his penis during each diaper change. I wish you luck, and take my advice. If you really are not wanting to name your son after his father and grandfather, don't do it.
It seems like men who are circumsized want their babies circumsized and those that aren't, don't. We have the opposite argument. Hubby is all for it and I'm not convinced.
As far as names, if you're giving in to cutting off body parts, name him what you want :)
As far as names, if you're giving in to cutting off body parts, name him what you want :)
He is the father maybe just the last name most men want there kids to have there last name
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