Nuchal Screenings

[Huntmommy]

Ok, so this is my second pregnancy within a year.  I went and had a Nuchal Screening back at the end of July and it was tragic and terrible news.  My pregnancy had ended.  I was devistated that after 1.5 years of trying that it ended. So, now I am pregnant again and scared beyond belief.  I am scared that my pregnancy will have ended or I will have an issue of another kind.  I don't think I can handle either.  I would love some really encouraging stories about overcoming the odds and coming back after loss also.  I am so stressed out.  For the record she died of Triploidy and I was 13 weeks.  

[Huntmommy]

Thank you so much.  Hearing everything that everyone had to say made me feel a lot better!!!! I will celebrate each day and every week just like everyone said. And Adgal, I am happy for you and glad you finally got to where you wanted to be.  I thought about couseling also.  People tell me I should be over it by now but I am not nor do I ever think I will be.  In addition I am trying to stay positive and get excited,  I like to look at the baby stuff in stores and talk about names.  But then I hear from my family that I should not be excited yet and I should not be looking and talking about it.  It makes me happy to think about positive things instead of the negatives.  

[mommyin10]

I'm so sorry for your loss! ;( I've had a m/c, but it was vet early on. Still very difficult, so I can't imagine what you've been through. Congrats on your pregnancy & I wish you my best for a happy & healthy one ;)

[sue68]

Congrats !  

I'm sorry about your last pregnancy.  When you experience something like that it changes your outlook.  As my Dh put it, "There's always something to worry about".  Amanda is my "happy ending story" - I first met her when I learned of my first m/c. It was a dark time after that loss but, knowing that people can climb out of it and continue on inspired me.  

She's right - celebrate your pregnancy day by day. Week by week.  I'm starting my 12th week this monday.  We saw our baby twice and heard the heartbeat, saw it kicking and moving.  The memory keeps us going although once in a while some fears start to creep in.  40 weeks seems far off - that makes you worry too much.  Take it in small bits and hopefully you'll learn to relax a little.  Good luck - I wish you a happy and UNeventful pregnancy !  

[Courtcoop]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, I cannot imagine.
CONGRATS on your preganancy now!
Amanda is right, the odds of it happening again are VERY slim.
Good luck and keep us posted!

[adgal]

I absolutely understand your fear.  I too have been through miscarriage and had a really tough time this pregnancy relaxing and enjoying the way I should have been able to.  I am not certain if my story will make you feel better, but I had 5 losses back to back in the last 2 year.  2 went long enough to test the fetal tissue (10 & 8 weeks) and the second of those was a missed miscarriage, so I only found out at an ultrasound.  It completely blindsided me.  The other 3 were less difficult as they were very early on, usually referred to as chemical pregnancies.  Every single time it happened I was devestated.  After 3 miscarriages, your odds of miscarrying again to increase, so I really wondered if I would ever be able to carry. Although I was tested no reason was ever really found for what was causing it, other then my age and bad luck.  I had my last chemical pregnancy in April of this year.  I didn't even have a period and found myself pregnant again.  I am now 36 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby boy.  I will admit that at times I still find it really hard to believe that it's really going to happen, but I am so excited and happy all the same.  The best thing I can tell you is that if you really want a baby you have to just keep moving forward.  It's normal to be afraid, but you can't let that take over.  I had to seek counselling at one point and I am not ashamed to admit it.  It was hard, but I did it.  I am not the only one here with a story like this, and these women helped me stay strong and keep going.  Every time it happened I too felt like I couldn't go through it again, but it's amazing what we can handle when we have to.  I did it, and you can too. Take it in stages....celebrate every day you are pregnant and consider every milestone a victory.  I never focused on the end of the pregnancy, but stayed focused on "passing" each ultrasound and each screening test.  One step at a time.

I am hoping my story gives you hope and doesn't frighten you.  I can tell you that less then 1% of couples will experience multiple losses like I did.  Your stats of having a second loss are no greater then they were the first time.  Sadly, issues like you faced are a reality of pregnancy...it happens and more often then we think.  But for every loss there is a happy story, and so many of the women here who have been through situations like mine and yours do have happy endings.  You can too!!  Stay strong and take it as it comes.  Do not let the fear overwhelm you.  Odds are good that all will be fine this time.  Take care and I truly wish you well.