How do you get through this?

[sugamomma]

No heart beat....I am scheduled for a D and C tomorrow.  I didn't plan on this pregnancy but I sure wanted the child.  I knew the spotting meant something bad for me.  Good luck to everyone one of you.  I think it's time to have my tubes done.  It's very sad to lose a pregnancy even at ten and a half weeks!

[LESLEY0920]

IT *****!!!!  i did too lose my baby and it everyone around me is PREGO!!   but its for the best .. Now to KEEP trying. best wishes

[Irishmammy]

Hi Sugamomma,

I didn't know I had lost the baby until the 13th week scan, then it was revealed there was no heart beat. It is devasting news, and sometimes people don't take it to seriously as it was "so early on." It doesn't matter, an attachment was formed. I put off trying for a year, then after approx 9 months of trying later, I got pregnant with little boy and am pregnant again with no.2 due this year - June. Don't tie your tubes just yet. 1 in 5 pregnancies end in miscarraiges so we are not alone, sending you big hugs from Ireland x

[Faith138]

I have also been where you are, and no one can understand unless they have been there!  I got thru it with my faith.  I was actually "angry" at God for a while.  Then I realized I would not be able to get thru this without him.  I am so very sorry for your loss.

You will be in my prayers..please keep the faith,,XO

[catbaloo]

oh my angel, there is nothing that anyone can say. i have been there five times ranginging from 10 weeks to 19 weeks. i always did it the natural way, i dont know why i think i wanted to punish myself in a way. i still hurt about every baby and love them dearly. really think about having your tubes tied as i was commenced on baby asprin due to blood being thicker when your older and i am presently 22 weeks pregnant with a healthy little boy. please wait and consider what you really want. i was ready to pack up and was making this my last fertility cycle.
u r in my prayers.

[VASusan]

Those are such terrible words to hear. I know the hurt you are feeling. The only way I dealt with it is by the grace of God. He has brought us through this hard time a day at a time and comforted us in our sorrows.

Even though our baby was unplanned by us,  God planned her from all eternity and we were so joyful about having a daughter, even at our age.  I know I'll never get over losing her, but accept that this was God's plan and He knows what is best. I know that she is with the Lord and is safer and happier with Him than any baby on earth. I believe that your baby is safe with Him now too and that the Lord will give you the strength to get through this sorrowful time if you turn to Him now. "The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit". He's rich in mercy to all who come to Him in faith. May He comfort and heal your broken heart.
~Susan

[40smama]

I've been through two d&c's for m/c's - bless your heart.  Take care of yourself - I too think you should hold off on having your tubes tied until you do some grieving for this pregnancy - all the best to you.

[adgal]

I'm so sorry.  I too have miscarried and one of them was at 10 weeks.  I know how heartbreaking this is for you.  Please take care, and know we are to support you.

[rdh1981]

I am so sorry. A little over two years ago, I lost my baby at 10 weeks. No one should have to go through this pain. I am sending you a big hug and I hope you are blessed again really soon!

[lynda544]

I've been in your shoes. I can still remember the pain. Take good care of yourself and I'll be thinking about you today.

[PamelaBee]

Oh, I can only imagine what you're feeling.  I'm so sorry.  Please take good care of yourself, and if I can say this without sounding intrusive, please hold off having your tubes tied.  I know you're feeling terribly disappointed right now, and in a sense feel hopeless with the pregnancy experience, but you may change your mind after a little time passes, and wish you didn't have the procedure done.   Be well, Pam