Two Missed Miscarriages

[woos]

Hi there,

I just found out today that I have had a 2nd missed miscarriage year.  I had a scan at 7.5 weeks and was so relieved to see a heartbeat but just 3 weeks later, today, I was told that the development has stopped and the heartbeat gone.  I'm absolutely heartbroken, I really thought it would be okay this time.

Has anybody out there experienced this twice and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy?  My husband really wants to try again and so do I, but I'm so frightened to go through this again.  I'm 37, I don't know if that's the problem?

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Sue

[Courtcoop]

"I am by no means religious"...sorry typo

[Courtcoop]

I am so so so sorry to hear that woos, my heart goes out to you. Have not experienced it although on my first pregnancy at age 40 (41 in 2 months) so I do not have much to give to you except the pain I have for you.

Keep trying sweetheart...god has a plan. (and I am by means religious)

[SommerGirl72]

I am in the same boat with you.  My husband and I have been trying for 16 months.  I have been pregnant twice in the 16 months and both have miscarried.  The 1st was at 12 weeks (I saw the heartbeat and had 4 US before the baby died) and the second was at 6 weeks (which was ectopic).  The second was in May and we are still trying with no luck.  I am 37 and wanting a baby so badly I cannot stand it.  You will come to terms with what has happened just keep trying, I think there is hope for us yet.  I too am trying to remain positive, it is so hard when I see people who are pregnant and don't want to be...we will get there.  Just keep praying, that is all we can do.

Lots of Luck to Everyone!

C

[7preg3b]

My heart goes out to you.  I too had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks,  we saw the baby at 8 weeks and all was well but at 12 weeks the baby had died.  apparently right after I saw him at 8 weeks.  It was so hard.. That was my second miscarriage,  I then went on to have an ectopic..  lost my right tube..  wasn;t gonna try again,  but found out two days before christmas I was pregnant again.  I was so scared.  I had a healthy baby 9/5/07..  he is my fourth.  I have been pregnant 8 times.  I am again pregnant, OOPS, and am now waiting my 12 weeks,  I am so scared.  BUt whatever God has in store for me I can handle..  I saw my baby at 6w2days..  I don;t know if he/she will be okay but I know each day goes by and I get more attatched..  Your time will come.  I am now on progesterone shots 200mg 2x a week and they hurt, but its all worth it..  after this my tube is getting burned..  lol

[fortysgirl]

I too have been down this road.  I had a missed miscarriage in February 08 at 8 weeks.  I'm 40 years old, but I've always been very athletic and healthy and never thought something like this would happen to me.  I know exactly how you feel.  It is like a nightmare, but it does get better with time.  I'm trying to conceive again right now and I'm hopeful the next time will be ok.

The ladies on this site are a great inspiration to me and a source of great support.  You can't loose faith so hang in there and know that you aren't alone.  

[tahariel]

Hang in there. It takes time to heal from your loss. It may not seem like it today, but eventually you will wake up one morning and realize the pain has lessened. I don't think it ever goes away, but it does get better with time . . . and it makes you a stronger person too. I've been able to help several friends go through similar experiences after going through mine and they said it helped to have someone close who knew what they were going through. If I had not had a miscarriage, I could not have helped them as well. Best wishes and take care!

p.s. I know so many women who have had miscarriages and they have had healthy babies afterwards!

I wonder with being over 35 if your doctor would make an exception to look into the causes now instead of waiting. Or find a ob/gyn who will. Good luck!!!

[leighanne143]

i am so sorry for your loss.  I too had 2 Missed MC's in a row, Oct 07 & Feb 08.  I am now 9 weeks pregnant again.  had 2 US so far and both showed healthy heartbeats.  But i am always worried that something will go wrong.  Try to have faith that you will be blessed very soon.

[carpediemforlife]

Sue-
Amanda hit it on the head..... there are many of us in your shoes.
I am 35.  I have had 2 miscarriages both on or before 8 wks.  And I am now very happy to tell you I am 22 wks pregnant.  BUT that was NOT without help.  I had to take progestrone and aspirin supplements and be closely monitored.  And each week for  me is a MAJOR milestone. Even today when I feel my son kicking and moving around I am in shock at where Ive come from with my past losses. I suggest that you deal with your loss and allow yourself to grieve proper.  However your process is...let no one judge.  And each day it does get better. I have never met Amanda but I hold a place in my heart for her.  She has amazing strength and determination to be a mother....and with that I KNOW God wont have it any other way.  So if you ever need to vent or cry....drop me a line. I 100% understand your feelings. And hope you can move forward on your journey as a mother. :-)

Ericka

[adgal]

Hi there,

I am so very sorry for your loss. Unfortunately this is all too common as I am learned from coming here, and talking to my OB. I have just had my 3rd m/c in a row, (Jan 08 at 10 weeks, March 08, chemical pregnancy, and June 1 08 at 8 weeks), the last one was also a missed,  so I understand your fear, believe me.  In my case they can't find a thing to explain it.  I too am scared, but am now in the process of trying to conceive again.  My husband and my's desire to have a child is stronger then the fear.  Take the time you need to heal emotionally, it does get a bit better every day.  I can't even begin to tell you the number of women I have met here that have had experiences like ours and gone on to have healthy babies.  I know some of them will respond when they see your post.  I lean on them for support, and although I am not happy they had the experiences they did, them sharing their stories has given me so much hope.  

My OB has said that the reality of women our age getting pregnant, (I am 39) is that we do have a slightly increased chance of miscarriage.  Its due mostly to egg quality, and can also be low progesterone.  You may want to talk to your dr. about the second issue, and can go on progesterone supplements.  I did the last time, and will be going on them again the next time.  They don't do any harm, so no worries there.  The great news is that women like us who have experienced 2 or 3 miscarriages still have a very very strong chance of going on to have healthy pregnancies. I can't recall the exact stat off the top of my head, but its something like 80%. Those are really good odds.

I wish you all the best and will keep you in my thoughts.  Please know I, and many others are here for you.   It has amazed me how suppportive "strangers" have been, as I think you need to experience it to truly understand.

Take care,  Amanda

[woos]

Thanks for your responses, at a time like this you're desperate to find peace of mind!

Unfortunately, they don't look into the cause of miscarriages unless you've had 3 here in the UK.  I read somewhere today that somebody was having miscarriages because of low progesterone levels so I'm wondering if I should see a private doctor for some kind of advice and tests.  It's reassuring to know that people go on to have babies after the nightmare experience of a miscarriage.

This morning, I was having a baby and tonight I'm not - that's really hard to come to terms with.

Thanks again for your best wishes. xx

[tahariel]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had one missed miscarriage with a heartbeat gone unexpectedly at 16 weeks. We've had 2 healthy pregnancies and babies since. Mine was diagnosed as a chromosome mismatch issue, which is generally uncommon and not repetitive. Has your doctor requested any testings to determine the causes of the losses . . . chromosomes, low progesterone, etc?  Best wishes to you. Hang in there!

[kelliestarr]

I have never had a miscarriage I am sorry for your loss. I do know a lady who sadly had 7 miscarriages before finally having her only daughter. Getting pregnant at 37 years old will be harder than if you were younger but don't give up. Give your body sometime and them try again. Good Luck!!!!!