Gender

[Nikki148]

i have a question for all.. When I went to doc last night we had a scan we saw our Lil baby wiggle around we were excited... But then my husband ask is it too soon to tell what it is im 10w. I said yea as well as doc. But then I said we waitn TIL it comes to find out. I knew early with my other 3 n just wanna be surprised this last time around... He then says to doc he wants to know n wants her to tell him. I said to her I have patient rights and wish we not be told no matter what he says. He then says no way but she said I was right! Does anyone think I'm wrong for my decision??? I know he wants a girl n I a boy but don't wanna feel like he will favor a girl more if he knew early and don't want him TELLN me by mistake......advice PLS!!!!

[Nikki148]

It's not a stressful situation im carrying the baby and it's really my choice I have considered his wants and choose not to let him know bcuz he will spoil the surprise for me by gettn things in a specific color. I don't think he's really that upset he's not that kinda person. We have talked bout it and I explained y i didnt wanna know and he understood but he just wants to know just bcuz he's impatient.  And MAYB we will try that party sounds fun!!!

[PrettyPatty_22]

Having the same disagreement in my house I want to know he does not.So he think I should not find out or tell anyone else because he does not want to know. I don't think it's fair. I'm a planner so I want to know so I can prepare. So I won't tell anyone it will be my secret and everyone suprise

[slm39]

He's as much the father as you are the mother. Why can't you agree to him knowing and not telling you or anyone else, and you not knowing. I love @LoveCakes suggestions too. It just sounds very very sad that you had to have this argument at such a happy time. Please try not to let this get huge. This is an emotional time for you both.

[LoveCake98]

Uhh, this seems like a strange argument to have with your husband.  And it sounds like a power struggle if you're already playing the patient rights--I have the control card.  Sit down with him and explain your reasons for not wanting to know and take the time to hear him out too.  Maybe you could plan a gender reveal party together as a compromise and the whole family could find out together. Plan it for late in pregnancy as a compromise?  We had one with our first and the aunts & uncles had a blast. All the guests dressed in pink or blue, suggested wacky names, and we cut into a specially tinted cake. It was a great family celebration.