why i am glad i had my amnio, maybe it will help some of you make your choice

[pertykitty]

my dh and i were talking about the pregnancy, the nt scans, diagnosis, everything the other day.  at the time we were given the option for an amnio i first said no.  i didnt want to risk a mc, and i knew i would keep my baby.  however i changed my mind and i am glad that i did.  

when we first heard the news we had many emotions.  sadness, some anger, grief.  i felt i had lost something that i wouldnt experience with this child like i will with the others.  then i researched and talked to others how people with down syndrome can lead such incredible lives.  for us it was a choice to get the facts and become prepared emotionally.  to have family and friends know so on the big day they werent saying im sorry.  

the birth of our dd was a joyful and happy day.  it was an experience i wouldnt change for the world, and i know if i hadnt had that info confirmed by amnio it wouldnt have been so.  all of those emotions (even though you say you will be accepting of the fact) would have made that special day sad and possible even ruined her wonderful entrance to this world.  we all celebrated and were congratulated and to us it was priceless.  people dont know how to act when they hear the news.  it gave everyone a chance to accept and become just as happy and excited as the births of my other children.

consider what you want from your birth.  understand that the most loving mom in the world will still grieve and have a time of "loss" of the idea of the child you thought you would have.  i have talked with other moms that have had the same exp and they too admitted to the very normal feelings you go through when you hear the news. i am not trying to talk anyone into anything more than to think everything through before you say no to an amnio.  everyone deserves to have a happy birth exp and great memories of that day.  

[blueeyedtabbycat]

I really didnt think about anything but how perfect Taylor was at birth, but it bothered me (not knowing) untill the day I had her. But honestly the day she was born the question never even crossed my mind. She was perfect and just so happened she didnt have DS, but either way I dont think she could have looked anythong less that perfect. But for peace of mind I kinda wish I would have had the amnio so that the pregnancy wouldnt have been as stressful.
Congrats on Macy she is beautiful!!!

[Helen72]

My hearty congratulations to you and your family!

[adgal]

Beautifully said Perty.  One only has to look at the pictures of Macy and read your words to know she is indeed perfect, and an incredible blessing.  

I too am glad I did amnio, although it was never to determine whether or not I would actually have the baby, that was a given.  I knew I couldn't terminate.  But reading your words makes me realize that all our children are special and perfect.  For me, you have removed much of the fear of trying for another baby.  Thank you for sharing your feelings and your journey.  Macy is just beautiful!!!!