Miscarriage

[Ange855]

Hello:

This is the first time I am sharing my pain. I am 42 and was pregnant with a beautiful little girl at 40 , I miscarried at 20 weeks.   Then at 41 I became pregnant with another little girl and once again I miscarried at 20 weeks.  I have now been diagnosed with an incompetent cervix.  Both of these pregnancies were through IVF.  I am loosing hope and very depressed.  Are there any success stories out there after such miscarriages?  I am scheduled for my next IVF in October. Any valuable tips?

Ange

[usuk]

I just wanted to say that I was touched by your story. I do not know anything about cervix incompetency but I've had 3 losses and just wanted to send you good luck.

[Miranda9]

I am very sorry for your painful losses.  I've had several miscarriages but all in the first trimester and can't imagine the pain of losing your babies at 20 weeks.  I pray that you will find the answers and support that you need to finally have your baby.

[Pum]

I am so sorry to read of your losses. Hard times indeed.

[sherrysb]

I am so sorry for your lost.  When your dr. says incompetent cervix, is he saying that when you are approximately 5 months your baby is too heavy for your cervix? If that's the case then he should have followed with, when you are pregnant again we will do a cerclage.  I had a friend who successfully had a baby boy after many miscarriages because of an incompetent uterus.  She went to a new doctor with her info and when she conceived, they arranged for the procedure.

And Jen is right, I believe Tanker Chic (on this forum) had the procedure done as well.  
Good luck and get to making that baby.  I have faith that everything is going to work out well.

[40smama]

There's a lady on this forum who had a cerclage - Tanker Chic - I believe her cervix started dilating quite a bit at the 17th week mark but luckily she's okay and is now more than 33 weeks pregnant.

Really, really urge your doctor to do this - obviously there's something going on especially since you lost both of your girls at that same point.  In fact, I would talk about this w/both your re and the ob that's going to take care of you after you "graduate" from the fertility clinic.

I'm so sorry for your losses!  I had one 2nd trimester loss so having two must be really devastating.  I pray that everything will work out for you this time and you have  a wonderful pregnancy - jen

[etts00]

I am so sorry to hear this. Wow, 20 weeks with 2 little girl. I can't imagine myself how you handle the pain. You're such a strong lady. Since you already know the problem, talk to your doctor and do ask him your chances of carrying full term. Don't lose hope. I myself had 2 m/cs in a row but both at 8 weeks and now I am pregnant again 11 w5d right now and still a bit worried. Good luck!
Etts

[joal]

I am so sorry you had to go through that. I wish you all the best and hope that this time everything will be ok.