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[wannabamotheragain]

I want to become a mother again. I have a 19 y/o. I am a newly wed. My husband has no children we are considering IVF but it is so costly. Not sure if I am able d/t high FSH. didn't get result for AMH as of yet. But if its not possible for me to have one biologically we are considering using DE. My question. Is it cheaper using a family or friend as a donor in comparison using an anonymous donor. Where I am living, it cost $16,500 for DE...IVF cost almost $20,000. We don't have that kind of money...Has anyone used family or friends as their donor

[ennya0301]

I knew my comment would cause some to be upset and immediately asume that I have no compassion..the fact remains that the baby will be your sister's baby...biologically 100 percent your sister's child.....if your sister is ok with that none of my business. ...but I was trying to warn the lady who asked the question about possible future problems.....when the donor realizes the fact...that is my child

[hudandharp]

You have no clue. Egg donation isn't something you go into without a lot of thought. My sister offered to donate her eggs to us after we found out that we had little to no chance of getting pregnant with my eggs. She has three children of her own and is 7 years younger then me.  We went to counseling and made sure that we knew what we were getting into. But it is my baby with my husband.  I am carrying this baby and giving birth to her. My sister knows what an amazing gift she has given to us. She is nature, smart, beautiful, and a very thoughtful and giving person.  I hope my baby gets lots of her traits.  We also are open and honest about it and plan on being that way with my daughter as she grows. Yes, it may be difficult, different and hard to understand, but this is my baby and our family will be complete when she gets here. Thanks for that opinion of yours and you are definetly entitled to it.  But you have not had to seriously consider this option, so you have not given it months of thought and consideration. as my sister and my husband and I have.  

[hudandharp]

Oops typo.. I meant. Something you DON'T go into lightly...

[hudandharp]

I did IVF with egg donor. My sister offered to donate her eggs.  We had our first with no problem. But we could not get pregnant with #2. We tried for over 6 months.  I was 36 going on 37.  So we started fertility treatments and testing. After all of that and trying with my eggs without success.  They told us that my eggs were weak and I was not ovulating regularly anymore. Then we started to look at adoption and then my sister offered to donate her eggs.  She is 7 years younger. She has 3 children and is all done having babies.

Anyways - it is not something you go into lightly. We had to go to see a counselor and make sure that we all talked about concerns and feelings.  My sister is smart and mature. She understands what it is all about. I am sure she has moments and will have moments were she feels different. But she understands that I am the mommy. I get to carry her for 9 months. She will have parts of me, parts of my hubby, and parts of my sister.

It was less expensive to go with a donor that you know.  I was glad to because my sister looks similar to me and we have the same family medical history.

Everyone is entitled to there opinions - but unless you have gone through this or been told you can't have kids, then you have no clue.(ennya0301)

Good luck wannabamotheragain!!  Do what makes you comfortable and make sure your donor is comfortable with the decision. We are 36 weeks pregnant with a little girl!! Yeah! So excited to meet her!!

[ennya0301]

Since nobody wants to tell you tje truth...here it goes....you are about to ask waaay too much of your family and friends .....if you are going to ask them to donate an egg...that's really like saying wanna have a child with my husband and I get to keep it.....and even if some of them do decide to donate when the baby comes and the person realizes it looks just like her good luck with that....

[angelab2012]

Exactly in agree ask good friends and family. I'm sure they'd be honored to help you.. Good luck :)

[carissa_rae]

I think its nice you want to have another baby i wouldn't be ashamed or embarrassed to ask your close friends and family. best of luck

[KDQ]

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