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I'm smoking... feel free to judge!
I posted a couple wks ago that I was quitting smoking and looking for non-judgemental support. I'm 8 wks today and have relapsed, smoking 3-4 cigarettes a day for the past week. Now's when I want harsh truth, mean comments, tell me how terrible it is. I "want" to quit... but I don't want to quit. Help!
Actually I smoke.I feel guilty smoked w 4 out of 5 on baby 6.my midwife actually said its more stressful to my baby trying to fully quit.she said of course its better but the stress isn't good I'm high risk already. Don't beat ur self op to bad. Beet of luck
No one is being too mean. I seriously needed to hear all that. I appreciate all the honesty and all the comments! My husband still smokes (outside) and we had a nice long chat about it last night. He's going to change some of his habits to help make it a little easier for me, but mostly I'm just going to buckle down and do it. Ur all right - its very selfish. Why would I take the chance? Thank u all!!!
People are rude lol I myself am a smoker I tried to quit but I have cut back alot. I understand where your coming from its hard but doable. I have smoked tho and ppl give me a guilt trip...I already feel guilty but hey my choices. Jus don't smoke around baby when they are born. Goodluck me and my man plan to quit its something we have talked about.
U don't feel any guilt? Or do u even think about your baby health?
you need to get help because your baby health is in your hands, ur baby cant control what you take into your body and im sure it doesn't like what you are doing... put yourself in their shoes... im sure you wouldn't like it if your mom did it while you were in her stomache. .. just know that of your baby comes out with a health issue they will eventually throw it in your face later on in their teenage years
you need to get help because your baby health is in your hands, ur baby cant control what you take into your body and im sure it doesn't like what you are doing... put yourself in their shoes... im sure you wouldn't like it if your mom did it while you were in her stomache. .. just know that of your baby comes out with a health issue they will eventually throw it in your face later on in their teenage years
I used to smoke and quit as soon as I found out I was pregnant. Sorry to be harsh but I think people that smoke when pregnant are kind of heart less. I mean you obviously care some what because youre choosing to ask us about it but in my honest opinion and again I am sorry but I think its disgusting and incredibly selfish. I used to think it was so hard to quit but as soon as I knew I had a responsibility for not only my health it changed everything. I dont even agree when people smoke around their kids when they have been born but to smoke when this fragile baby is inside of you is torchure.. he/she will most likely have breathing problems not just now but after he/she is born. Look up the risks of smoking while pregnant and the possible things that can happen. Nobody is perfect and im sure you will be a good mum but you cant just think about yourself anymore. The risk of my baby getting sids and dying because of me would break my heart as im sure it would do to you as well. Believe in yourself but most importantly think about how much its not worth possibly killing your baby for.
I was a heavy smoker and I gave up as soon as I found out I was pregnant back in November, it's so so hard and every single day I crave one but I have never and would never smoke whilst pregnant so I have no sympathy for people who say they can't quit because it's BS you can quit I am proof you can you just need to stop being selfish, have better willpower and think of your baby instead of yourself. You will have many people (smokers) who say they smoked or know somebody who smoked during pregnancy and their baby is fine but the question is why would you even take that risk??
You don't have to go outside with them to smoke, that's your choice. If they smoke inside I hope they'd change that out of consideration for you and baby. Don't be selfish, give them up for 9 months
It's so hard I stopped with my first and I've stopped with this baby too! There worth it! Ur baby might or might not have problems but if u can know for sure it wasn't caused by u then at least u can't say "what if" for the rest of ur life! Put the cigarette down and put ur big girl panties on! U will be a mom soon and let me tell u some sacrifices will be much bigger then this! I want Nothing more then some beer and a joint, with a cig to finish my night but nope I have the will power to be strong for my baby! Count the days like I'm doing if it helps! Cause all we have is time in this pregnancy prison! Good luck ur going to need it!
I was told that every time you take a hit of a cigarette its like covering your baby's mouth with a pillow and I would just picture that and I just completely stopped cold turkey
I'm sorry i can't judge you because I'm 16 weeks and have smoked the whole time i have cut back a lot and it is hard to just stop cold turkey I'm still trying to quit cause i feel guilty when i smoke but my mom his mom him his sister and all smoke rite in front of me so it's hard. Does anyone smoke in front of you? ? Just try your best and good luck
I hope we all haven't made you feel too horrible, my goal wasn't to judge you but just help you be aware it is more serious than you think. I know some other smokers on here are taking a much more casual stance on this, but it's for your baby, this innocent life you're creating that will pay in the long term if you dont. Plus, there is nothing more unattractive than a pregnant woman smoking. Take heart, find something that's helps you stay strong and someone to keep you accountable, I'll do it through here if I have to! You have it in you and you'll be so proud of yourself and feel great when you do!
Cigarettes have 100s of haul chemicals, tar and nicotine (which is an addictive drug) in them. They harm your lungs and have been linked to many cancers, including mouth, throat and lung cancer. Smoking also contributes to high blood pressure and constriction of your blood vessels.
SHort term: smoking can cause low birth weight and pre term labor. It can also cause high blood pressure which will accept you and your child.
Long term: smoking will affect your child's health for the rest of their life, whether it's chronic bronchitis, asthma, or other respiratory problems, it is something they will have to deal with forever so you could get your nicotine "fix"
Just some food for thought.
SHort term: smoking can cause low birth weight and pre term labor. It can also cause high blood pressure which will accept you and your child.
Long term: smoking will affect your child's health for the rest of their life, whether it's chronic bronchitis, asthma, or other respiratory problems, it is something they will have to deal with forever so you could get your nicotine "fix"
Just some food for thought.
Wow thats sad. You really need to think of your baby. If your not you might as well have an abortion. That many cigs a day will definitely affect your baby in the long run.
Look up babies/children having asthma attacks. I'm not a smoker, but I have two children with asthma and to witness your child unable to breath is the most scariest, helpless feeling in the world. Everytime you smoke it's a CHOICE your able mind and body is making, the baby has no choice.
I have a lazy eye. I believe it was due to my mom smoking while pregnant. I don't blame her for the past, but not having good vision has affected many things I would have wanted to do or could have done better at. Smoking is proven time and time again to cause problems to the child and shortened life of the smoker. It is hard to quit a bad habit, just like it is hard to start a good one. Try a reward for yourself. Make a goal, write it down, tell someone, follow up with that person and give yourself a positive reward. What motivates you?
Dont stress about it Im 10wks almost and still have the odd roll up instead of telling urself every day gotta quit gonna quit have to quit try doing stuff that puts that fag u wud of had off abit longer and cut down rather than cold turkey its hard very hard I stopped smoking with 1 pregnancy outta 4 and he is the only one with adhd!!
I'm also a former smoker. I was able to quit cold turkey, but I have an unstoppable will!
Hopefully, this can help motivate you. I try to picture my baby growing up and becoming a smoker "like mommy" and that alone breaks my heart. Smoking also prevents the body from getting proper circulation, meaning your baby isn't getting proper circulation. Smoking also stymies healing and can make your body go through much more stress than necessary. Especially post delivery. We want to bounce back and feel like our old selves after giving birth don't we?
Honestly, the best motivation for me is a sort of guilt and self hypnosis type of method. "Isn't my baby more important than a #%*¥& cigarette?" "Would i want to tell my baby he wasn't worth quitting?" And what if your baby is effected by the smoking? Imagine the guilt you will feel. My husband still smokes, and I've actually become very sick at the scent of the second hand smoke which im grateful for. Try and focus on all the negative, every time you light a smoke (or before!) And hopefully that helps you cut back, and eventually quit.
Also, smoking can lead to things like bladder cancer, or flat out rot your teeth. Pregnancy takes a toll on our pearly whites without proper vitamins, smoking can only worsen this.
I hope this helps! No judgement, just motivation.
Hopefully, this can help motivate you. I try to picture my baby growing up and becoming a smoker "like mommy" and that alone breaks my heart. Smoking also prevents the body from getting proper circulation, meaning your baby isn't getting proper circulation. Smoking also stymies healing and can make your body go through much more stress than necessary. Especially post delivery. We want to bounce back and feel like our old selves after giving birth don't we?
Honestly, the best motivation for me is a sort of guilt and self hypnosis type of method. "Isn't my baby more important than a #%*¥& cigarette?" "Would i want to tell my baby he wasn't worth quitting?" And what if your baby is effected by the smoking? Imagine the guilt you will feel. My husband still smokes, and I've actually become very sick at the scent of the second hand smoke which im grateful for. Try and focus on all the negative, every time you light a smoke (or before!) And hopefully that helps you cut back, and eventually quit.
Also, smoking can lead to things like bladder cancer, or flat out rot your teeth. Pregnancy takes a toll on our pearly whites without proper vitamins, smoking can only worsen this.
I hope this helps! No judgement, just motivation.
I use to be addicted to ciggs.. And had about 5 more after finding out about the pregnancy then I got the balls to quit while still in my first trimester... I didn't do it for me I loved smoking, but Ii did it for the innocent child growing inside of me.. You weren't born smoking so stop being selfish, find the will power you once had and stop creating a toxic environment for your child... Your excuses hold no value to not being able to stop something that is potentially doing harm to something you claim to love.. I'm sorry but if your not willing to cut out this addiction for these few months then maybe you should've aborted your baby because your not fit to be a mother seeing that you already care about yourself more than you do him/her.. I pray you don't have other children because I'm pretty sure ur puffing cigarette smoke in their faces.. Matter of fact when you birth your baby, Y don't you just blow smoke in their face, I'm sure they'll appreciate it seeing as he/she is inside of you getting addicted anyway...... Mean enough for you?? lol.. Sorry but you asked for it.. That's the harsh reality, no sugar coated needed
I don't want to be mean, but do you realize how many chemicals are in each cigarette? Many of them are used in the making of formaldehyde and embalming fluid. My mom was not a smoker with me but my dad smoked a pack and a half around her when she was pregnant with my brother and then me. We both had horrible asthma, I grew out of it but my brother had many respiratory problems still to this day. I understand how hard it is, I quit last year and for the second time in my life. When you are down to 3 cigarettes a day it's all psychological at that point. My cousin just gave birth to a little boy and she smoked with him the whole pregnancy, when I was holding him as he was falling asleep he would give these short, rapid shallow breathes and needs to go in for breathing treatments at only 4 weeks old. You increase the risk of SIDs with smoking to. I know how hard it is to quit, take it seriously and kick those to the curb. Go for walk or do something each time you feel the urge to smoke and think of how your little guy will pay for it if you don't.
I don't have anything mean to say lol but it could definitely cause problems for the baby like asthma which will affect their everyday life not to mention if they want to be active in sports and so on. But good luck hope u can kick the habit to the curb for good even after babies here ! :)
Hi.. well done for trying, and I'm sorry you relapsed. I'm 32 weeks and still smoking. I have tried everything from patches to electronic cigarettes and nothing has worked. Although I know my baby is fine I feel guilty about it.
If you want meanness I'm afraid I can't do it because I probably deserve it more but just think about your little one each time you spark up, and try to keep busy. Electronic cigarettes are very good ( my partner sells them for a living) and you can get so many different types it you might find something you like. My dad managed to quit after 25 years using a tablet but I'm not sure if u can have whilst pregnant. Good luck hun! X
If you want meanness I'm afraid I can't do it because I probably deserve it more but just think about your little one each time you spark up, and try to keep busy. Electronic cigarettes are very good ( my partner sells them for a living) and you can get so many different types it you might find something you like. My dad managed to quit after 25 years using a tablet but I'm not sure if u can have whilst pregnant. Good luck hun! X
Sorry I'm not judgemental but I can point out the facts and that is that it's not good for the baby. I don't know for sure but it could probably cause some sort of birth defects that may make your life and the child's life very hard to deal with. I say try talking to your doctor and see what are some low risk alternatives that may help you. The reality is the child does deserve the best of you! :)
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