sad and confused

[amia3]

Gm everyone. I'm 38 yrs old I have 3 children and i am 33 wks and 5 days pregnant. I found out my baby has a unilateral cleft lip and palate. Ok now that was something I could deal with Bcuz he is going to have surgery at 3 mnths, ok I was fine with all of that but now my baby has abnormalities: monosomy 18p. Now I was thinking I know I can't handle this. This has me soooo depressed and nonchalant towards my family. My doctors got me on Zoloft and xanax, but I can't get myself to take that Zoloft. I do take the xanax Bcuz it calms me down. But my real question is should I put my baby up for adoption? Right now I'm so overwhelmed, stressed, very very depressed.

[amia3]

I just wanted to say thank you to you ladies for the advice, I think I'll keep my boy. I'm thankful for god for blessing me with him.. Much love

[Lucy_Amor]

I agree with lilcelinerose14, once your baby is born you will love him or her just the same. God will not give u burden that we cannot handle. Praying for u and your baby.

[lilcelinerose14]

You will love your baby no matter what, if something happened to any of your other children (accidents etc that affected them mentally or physcially) you would be there for them and stick with them right? It may be hard but im sure it will be worth it in the end. Your lil one needs you more than ever. Ultimately it is your decision, just make sure if you choose adoption that you can live with that decision because its one that will affect you the rest of your life.

[jellis32010]

Do what you feel is right. No one can help you make this choice. Like someone else said she had bad it is first. I would also take your meds as they will help you. I pray you are able to find peace and make a choice your happy with mama.

[kra225]

First, take the Zoloft. Seriously, you will start to feel better in a couple weeks. Second, know that whatever you decide you have made the right decision for you. What other people think doesn't really matter because they don't have to live with the decisions they make for you.

[Peachy1584]

There are varying levels of severity so maybe you should wait and find out what you're up against. I hope and pray you will find the strength because your baby will need it.

[TMMB]

Are you married? If you are married, I would say no; keep your baby and provide the most stabke healthy, environment possible. If you are single, things will be much more difficult;  consider an adoption plan. Take care.