Thanks for all of the info. It was very helpful.
No tests yet. He wont go.
You are right. I was blessed with a beautiful son but I cant shake that feeling of wanting a child with my husband.
Thanks for your answer. No, I have not been trying. I just figured if it happened that would be great. But nothing happens.
Thanks, RR.
Anyway, to the o.p., if you can, you should see a fertility doc with your husband, and both of you get some testing done.
Annie, it's in her third post in this thread.
I didn't see where the first husband had kids by another partner.
Have you been actually tring to get pregnant or just relaxed and not preventing? I have a close friend that activly tried for 6 years and was so stressed out with not being able to do so. They both got tested and showed no issues. They had finally decided to adopt 2 children and had barely had them a month when she found out she was pg. Her dr told her she most likely stressed to much and once she was distracted and not intent on becoming pg it seemed to happen for them. They now have 2 of thier own and 2 adopted children.
Very often couples are infertile when each individual partner isn't infertile.
You're not infertile, and your first husband is also not infertile since both of you have children with other partners.
There are so many dynamics that have to work perfectly to result in a pregnancy - the woman's body ph has to be "safe" for sperm, the path to the egg has to be clear, etc. A man with slightly low sperm county and motility may not be able to get her pregnant, but a man with a very high sperm county that is very healthy, mobile and long-lived may be able to.
The same way, a woman with very "safe" ph for sperm and completely clear fallopian tubes who ovulates predictably with healthy, live eggs may be able to get pregnant with a partner with lower sperm count and motility.
At this point, if you want to get pregnant by your current husband, I agree with the others - you need to get tested to find out what's keeping the two of you from being able to conceive.
I hope you don't think I was being facetious, I was just saying that maybe the fault is not you, but your spouse. Does either guy have kids with someone else? It would be too bad to accidentally choose two guys in a row that have low sperm count, but having a sperm test done is relatively simple and it's def. the first thing that fertility docs will check. Don't blame yourself until you have to, or at least don't automatically blame yourself.
I have witnessed 3 people who went through the same thing. Married no kids and when they remarried they had many kids. Testing helps.
Have they done blood work to find out if there is a reason your not getting pregnant? I don't mean that rude. I have a problem myself I can get pregnant but can't keep it. They had to run all kinds of test on me.
All things haappen for a reason. Thank God you were blessed with a child.
My first husband is remarried and has 3 kids with his second wife.
Maybe you marry men who don't have a high sperm count.