A little bit freaked out...

[JuneBaby17]

So here's the deal: my mother in law has custody of her son's two girls (6 and 8). Now I know this is rude but his family is trashy and there is no other way to describe them (I have no idea how my husband turned out so normal). Well, we went over earlier tonight to give the girls their Christmas gifts and the whole time my husband's mom is screaming at the oldest girl about how "Them is $50 jeans. What are you doing wearing them jeans to play in? Them is school jeans." First of all why get her $50 jeans if she isn't allowed to wear them? Little girls jeans are $15 at some stores. Second why would you yell at her in front of everyone on Christmas eve? When I was 8 something like that would have ruined my night. The worst part however, is that I hear my husband talking to the girls like his mother does and all I can think is "I'm going to kill him if he talks to our kids like that". Do you think it will be different once we have our own kids?

[soon2bmamma]

I know your fear about your way you want to raise your child vs how he will be, my hubby is the same, his son is 2 and I swear that kid could get away with murder and he just laughs...I know he's 2 but he still needs 2yr old boundaries...I get crazy cause I'm like you realize when we have our baby that crap like that won't fly with me! But you guys just gotta make sure you get on the same page and there will be things you disagree on, just gotta make sure that you communicate lots to make sure your child grows up happy and healthy with a good head on their shoulders :)

[First_Time_Mommy22]

Reguardless of who's children they are no 8yr old shud be talked to like tht even if the jeans cost 50 bucks..I hate wen ppl yell at lil kids like they are stupid wen they are simple still learning the difference between right nd wrong..just sayin

[RoachLee]

Have you ever talked to your husband about it? Maybe it's just different because they aren't his kids.

[mummytwobee]

Im 18 and ive only  ever paid 15-20$ for nice jeans and they last me years before they start to get holes!

[JuneBaby17]

I understand the whole school clothes/play clothes thing but she is always "borrowing" money from us because she can't pay her bills yet she buys an 8 year old $50 jeans... I'm 23 and I can find nice jeans for myself that are cheaper than $50. I just hope I'm not crazy for thinking that things will be different when it's our children.

[rosey3216]

Yeah, my bfs family is quite trashy and Podunk as well... Sorry to say. I can kinda understand about the jeans I guess if they are brand new she doesn't want them ruined before even wearing them to school. Because with kids they should have some clothes to be able to just play around in and not worry about them getting ruined. But she shouldn't have made a scene about it in front of everyone, especially on christmas eve. Anyways, you need to make it clear that you don't agree with talking to your kids like that and make sure that you agree on rules and stuff that you are going to set for your kids. Because if you say curfew is at 8:00, and then they go ask dad and he says "be home by 9," its just gonna make things complicated. Just an example. But he might just be that way at his moms to avoid confrontation with her. Idk. But I'd still talk to him (calmly and not there) about it. Best of luck to you