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Any single moms to be?
I'm 10weeks pregnant and the father of my child kicked me out today. We've been living together about a year. He isnt the kindest person or the most helpful. He has told me several times to have a abortion he doesn't want a kid with me. Since I got pregnant. I haven't been myself. This is my first baby and I've been extremely tired & feeling nauseous the whole time. This last week I've been feeling better, he would always put me down saying I'm lazy and compare me the his sons mother. He said I don't give a **** that your pregnant. And started to throw my stuff out. This is the second time he kicks me out this week. The first time he picked me up and put me outside. It was a hot day I had no shoes on. He is unbelievable. This time he just started to throw my stuff out. I don't have much family. I have my grandparents who have family living coming to live with them. He started stuff with my moms family today and I can't go there. My dad can't help me I'm luck if he allows me to store my stuff in his basement. It's very stressful. I have no other family. I lost my job. My dad is kind enough to jet me stay the night tonight. I don't. Know what to do at this point I'm in a very stressful situation. I have nobody to talk to. I have a godmother but she can only help me so much.
Any advise? Please no rude comments, I'm going through enough as it is.
Any advise? Please no rude comments, I'm going through enough as it is.
You can just leave it blank, tell them he isn't around....which seems will be the case. Is there a county close with open housing? It's crazy that they are closed out where you live. Maybe try to work on things with your Dad? It is his grandchild too... may be your situation with him can be fixed?
I was like minded at first... I wanted my baby's father to still be there at first. But, then I realized I wanted that for my own selfish reasons. He isn't necessary for your child to have a good life, especially if he's the type of person he comes off as. Your child needs to be surrounded by love and positive people. It's really all up to you, but if he acts like this and already has a kid.... another one won't change him. As for his mom... she sounds looney toons, a child should only call their mother Mom. She is grandma..Grammy...memaw..nanny...nana...she has her pick but Mom is not an option.
I was like minded at first... I wanted my baby's father to still be there at first. But, then I realized I wanted that for my own selfish reasons. He isn't necessary for your child to have a good life, especially if he's the type of person he comes off as. Your child needs to be surrounded by love and positive people. It's really all up to you, but if he acts like this and already has a kid.... another one won't change him. As for his mom... she sounds looney toons, a child should only call their mother Mom. She is grandma..Grammy...memaw..nanny...nana...she has her pick but Mom is not an option.
Thank you for the support lady's.
I don't know how it feels to be in position any of you are in but i hope things get better for all of you.. I know there are programs that will help such at wic or food stamps. Good luck with everything:)
I don't know how it feels to be in position any of you are in but i how things get better for all you.. I know there are programs that will help such at wic or food stamps. Good luck with everything:)
Gunna be a single mom in a little over a month :)
It's very hard and stressful. I don't want to sleep in my car. I'm scared to go to a shelter. But I seriously need help.
So Ima have to just roll with the punches and at the end of this nightmare I hope I come back stronger than ever.
So Ima have to just roll with the punches and at the end of this nightmare I hope I come back stronger than ever.
i live in San Jose Ca. The house list here is closed its been closed for a long while now.
I know about the wic program and I'm looking into that.
I stayed as long as I could. I tried working things out to be a family and he took advantage. He went to jail for domestic violence with me a month ago. And they let him out because I didn't cooperate with them. And they didn't have a case. He left a red mark on my arm and they took him in for d.v. They have a zero-tolerance here for d.v.
But on the other hand. I didn't think he would be so cold. I have a lot of my stuff still at his place. I have to try and find somebody to help me move it.
I'm not a cold person, he is the reason why my dad won't let me move back. And he throws that in my face. We were once best friends. Then as soon as we got together everything started to change as the time went by we started to turn into enemies. I didn't want my child to grow up without a father figure but I might be best without him. It's very stressful. I've cut all my friends off because they just We not good friends. I feel pretty much alone in this. I'm scared. The day he went to jail he threatened to take the baby away. In my past I have a history of trying to commit suicided. And losing my child to him is a complete nightmare. He threatened me the other night saying he will take the baby away.
I personally don't want my child around his mom.
She is on drugs, she drinks, she put in his sons head that grandma is a bad word. And he is suppose to call her mom. And his mom he is suppose to call by her actual name. She mentally screwed up her kids. And she is doing that to her 1st grandchild and I don't want her to do that to my baby.
I will not allow that!
If his name isn't on the birth certificate ? When they ask about the father what do I say?
What can he do?
I'm a worry bee. Always have been.
His name isn't on his first's sons birth certificate because he was in jail. But the bm still has him down as the father with child support. But she never want throw with it. & there is a possibility that his 1st son isn't his. He thinks it's his brothers kid.
I know about the wic program and I'm looking into that.
I stayed as long as I could. I tried working things out to be a family and he took advantage. He went to jail for domestic violence with me a month ago. And they let him out because I didn't cooperate with them. And they didn't have a case. He left a red mark on my arm and they took him in for d.v. They have a zero-tolerance here for d.v.
But on the other hand. I didn't think he would be so cold. I have a lot of my stuff still at his place. I have to try and find somebody to help me move it.
I'm not a cold person, he is the reason why my dad won't let me move back. And he throws that in my face. We were once best friends. Then as soon as we got together everything started to change as the time went by we started to turn into enemies. I didn't want my child to grow up without a father figure but I might be best without him. It's very stressful. I've cut all my friends off because they just We not good friends. I feel pretty much alone in this. I'm scared. The day he went to jail he threatened to take the baby away. In my past I have a history of trying to commit suicided. And losing my child to him is a complete nightmare. He threatened me the other night saying he will take the baby away.
I personally don't want my child around his mom.
She is on drugs, she drinks, she put in his sons head that grandma is a bad word. And he is suppose to call her mom. And his mom he is suppose to call by her actual name. She mentally screwed up her kids. And she is doing that to her 1st grandchild and I don't want her to do that to my baby.
I will not allow that!
If his name isn't on the birth certificate ? When they ask about the father what do I say?
What can he do?
I'm a worry bee. Always have been.
His name isn't on his first's sons birth certificate because he was in jail. But the bm still has him down as the father with child support. But she never want throw with it. & there is a possibility that his 1st son isn't his. He thinks it's his brothers kid.
Yes I'm a single mom of 2 kids and I'm pregnant with baby #3. I haven't been in the position of not having a place to go, but you do what you feel is right. There is alot of help out there for women with children with no where to go that will probably help you out a bit till u get back on track. But only you can decide what is best for your family.
My child's father kicked me out the day we found out, after finding out. It was November....freezing cold and nowhere to go on such short notice. I will tell you this, a police officer told me he legally could not kick me out without an eviction notice and even then could have it appealed in court. The first night I had to refuse to leave because I had nowhere to keep warm. He threatened me and our unborn child if we didn't leave, so I called 911 and reported it. Thankfully, because I did, the housing authority got me into a place fast because they counted it as a domestic case. Verbal assault is still assault and you should never take threats lightly. I would say stay there until you have somewhere to go, but it seems that would be dangerous for you. I couch hopped until I got into a place. Your baby's safety is number 1 right now. Go sign up on housing as soon as possible. It is not free but it is very cheap. Sign up for food stamps and Wic. There are churches and other places I know that will help you get on your feet. Look into local support. I went to a local place called CareNet. They offer classes that in turn give you mommy bucks. They have a store in the basement full of diapers, wipes, clothes, strollers, anything you can think of. Your insurance should cover a breast pump when you get closer to delivery. You do NOT need that boy in your life if he acts like that. Regardless of who his other baby momma is, he also should not disrespect her. That just shows you how he will be towards you later as well. YOU can do this on your own, and who knows...someone else might step up to the plate. I got fortunate enough that a past love still wanted to be with me and to help me at my hardest times, but even if he didn't come along... I would have made it.
Start signing up for all of those things immediately. Do not put his name on the birth certificate. Get prepared and educated on being a new mom, and enjoy your pregnancy. No foolish, immature boy has the right to take that from you!!!
Start signing up for all of those things immediately. Do not put his name on the birth certificate. Get prepared and educated on being a new mom, and enjoy your pregnancy. No foolish, immature boy has the right to take that from you!!!
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