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He beats me
The father of my child is staying with me on house arrest. Whenever he gets mad he beats me. Not hitting my stomach he doesn't leave bruises or marks but it's causes pain. He is also verbally abusive. My question is alot of times he slams me on the bed and that's the only thing I'm really concerned by. Is that harmful to my son? He can beat me all he wants just as long as my baby is OK. I only have 9 days til my due date.
I would find any way out if I were you. It could get worse && he could take his anger out on your son once he arrives. Do whatever you can from today until your due date to get away. && yes,, him slamming you on bed can harm your son. It can cause your son to be born with shaken baby syndrome if the baby daddy does it enough.. My prayers are with you && your son.
Its_A_Boy2012 After you give birth to that baby, who you will love and protect with an instinct you don't even know you have yet, you will care enough to get out of that situation. Don't think for one second that if he beats you that he wouldn't beat the baby too. It's all up to you. You can change this.
Get the hell out. If he has no qualms about laying a hand on you (pregnant or not) do you think he'll hesitate beating your child? That's not a good environment for your precious baby, he needs to be surrounded by love, not your abuse.
I have to say that I do not think the child is ok or will be ok in the future same with you. I have never had a partner beat me but I did have my own brother put his hands on me. I was only 16 or so weeks pregnant and he put his hands on my mom and o stood there and he started choking me and was swinging back to hit me in the stomach and to kill his own niece. He blacked out and didn't know what happened. I ended up calling probation after my husband convinced me to (he was 10 hours away). I now don't have any contact with him at al and probably will never forgive him NOT because what he did to me but what he could've done to my child.
Its always not easy to leave or do the "right" thing but things do need to be done. My own brother is rotting in jail right now paying for the things he has done. I wish you all the luck in the world with whatever choice you make regarding this "boy" and I will keep you in mind and in my prayers. God bless.
Its always not easy to leave or do the "right" thing but things do need to be done. My own brother is rotting in jail right now paying for the things he has done. I wish you all the luck in the world with whatever choice you make regarding this "boy" and I will keep you in mind and in my prayers. God bless.
In regards to your question NO your child is not safe. Now, he does NOT need that kind of father and that man isn't even close to a 'father'. A father doesn't beat his pregnant wife, a father doesn't put their unborn child in danger. It doesn't matter how long it is, what makes you think he won't do it the child? The man my mom married after I was born beat her as well, and then did the same to us for years upon years - I HATE my mom for doing that to use, could you handle your son hating you for being in that lifestyle? He doesn't care about you and could obviously care less about your child. What in this situation is right? Are you happy to be beaten and hit each day? Do you want your son to grow up thinking women are there to be hit and beaten? I hope you come to your senses and get out NOW before he gets worse.
Please get out..the baby could've been harmed already..if he beats you especially when pregnant he doesbt care about you.vtrust me I am a survivor of domestic abuse. Nearly ended up dead..he will probably end up killing you. Please get out..someone who does that isn't someone you should bring up a child with! Your child will be better off with no father than a violent one..go to the police or a womens refuge ..but If you do noting I dread to.think what could happen to you and your child..
Please please get your self out. U said he can hit u but as long as the baby is ok?...NO that's wrong. I no its hard to leave the father of ur child but u are not safe....and ur child is not either. I was in a abusive relationship and trust me it gets worse. If u still want to be with him...make him go get help.
I can't believe you said he can beat me all he wants! No one should put their hands on you! Leave him, he doesn't deserve you!!! Your life and your babies life are more important.
for the women who is saying negative **** about her post need to shut the hell up if havent been in her shoes then you have no right to judge do yall think yall god or something????? nobody has no right to sit up here and bash someone else's life this website suppose to help people not harm people smh yall judgmental people make sick to my damn stomach and yes im pissed and if you something to say then say it to me .
Yes I am the female that says I would do it on my own and yes this is the sane ******* which bought a car before buying his own son a car seat but I thought he changed from all the visits in jail when I used to go see him but I guess he is worst. I really want my son to have a father and if you check my previous post you will see I have expressed this MANY TIMES. No one knows my situation sorry didn't mean to make this post blow up how it did. I just wanted to ask was my baby safe from me being slammed would never ask my doctor because that's too risky.
No it's not OK if he beats you, have a self respect, how can you love a man like that who treats you like a s**t. I had obusive ex too and left him the next day he raised a hand on me....before he was verbally obusive but that was the end, now I am married with a man who loves and treats me like a Quinn, we have a 2 year old son and expecting our second baby...all I am saying there are many wonderful people in this world, you can't say if he is not gonna be obusive to your baby, and you can't change him Believe me!
If you have never been in a violent relationship please stop. ahs a survivor of domestic violence I find some of your posts disgustingly mean and I wish people would learn its obviously not as simple as just leaving. I was threatened and told my family would.die if I ever left. I was only fifteen and stayed because he also said he'd kill me if I left so please be more sympathetic. That being said to the original poster you are carrying his Child ..even if he never hit your child..do you know what happens when q child is brought up.around domestic abuse? They suffer watching their parents..why is a man who beats you better than bringing.this baby into.a happy abuse free home? You will one day find someone else who will be a good role model to your child..by hitting you when you're pregnant he doeant love you..nor respect you..or your child..and I promise when he says he will change that never happens. Abusers are always abusers..get out now or I swear one say this scum bag of a man will take it to the next level and will kill you.
No one needs and deserves a man like that...if you are afraid of him, tell a friend or a family member for help and call a police on him. Leave him for your sons sake...
I will never understand situations like this! He's wrong for beating you and your wrong for tolerating it!! Not trying to be mean, but your baby should be ur first priority!! Staying with someone who beats you says you are just as selfish as he is!! I can't imagine what ur thinking or dealing with, I just know I would NEVER put up with a man hitting me, or ever give h a chance to hit my baby!!! You are the voice for ur baby, that precious innocent baby can't speak up. You are responsible!! If anything does happen to your baby, it would be on your shoulders!! Don't give him the opportunity to harm your baby or yourself again!! Be strong and do what's right!! He's a loser who deserves nothing from you but a kick out the door! How he is treating you is not love! Show your baby love by sending the jerk packing! Sorry if I seem harsh, but I had to voice my astonishment at your post!
i don't think you know for sure that he wont hit the baby. he slams you, what do you think he will do when baby is crying all night? he'll get mad, and who will he slam then? or shake, or throw because they are so tiny?
he has no compassion, no respect and no love for his child. you are more than a punching bag. you have created a baby, you are a goddess and miracle worker. you are a mother and your only job is to take care of your child and show them how to live. is letting their father beat their mother a way of living? it is not!
you may feel right now that it is okay if he hits you to sacrifice yourself for your child. but 1) your child will see this and follow suit 2) who says he wont start on the child when the child makes him mad?
you didn't do anything to deserve being hit and yelled at. if he can't manage his anger then that is his problem, not yours.
don't be a martyr cause nothing good will come of it. protect yourself and your child.
if i were you i wouldn't go back to that place after delivery. ask your parents if you can move in and call the cops if he shows up.
he has no compassion, no respect and no love for his child. you are more than a punching bag. you have created a baby, you are a goddess and miracle worker. you are a mother and your only job is to take care of your child and show them how to live. is letting their father beat their mother a way of living? it is not!
you may feel right now that it is okay if he hits you to sacrifice yourself for your child. but 1) your child will see this and follow suit 2) who says he wont start on the child when the child makes him mad?
you didn't do anything to deserve being hit and yelled at. if he can't manage his anger then that is his problem, not yours.
don't be a martyr cause nothing good will come of it. protect yourself and your child.
if i were you i wouldn't go back to that place after delivery. ask your parents if you can move in and call the cops if he shows up.
Yr baby may apear ok wen hes born but hearing his mum feeling his mum going through hell is not going to be good. Let the so and so rot in jail. It wont stop, it just gets worse, iv been there.
Hes could be hurting your baby now by hitting uwhile pregnant. Imnot here to judge u. But u need to get out n get help. My ex use to beat me n when I finally got away I felt so much better. I know u want ur baby to have a father but he needs help. If ur baby grows up wit that there gonna think its ok. Please jus think about gettin help it wontget better jus worse dontbe a statistic. Good luck. Stay strong n take care o! Th at babay
This absolutely has to be a lie this is way too discusting to post something like this especially when your pregnant. Have respect for you as a wwomen and that beautiful creation in your belly. Women like you deserve to be called DYFS on. You should be ashamed of what your saying. God bless your child
A man should never put his hands on you no matter what kick his booty our im so mad just reading your post im actually crying also I saw my mom go through being beat and I hate for a man to put his hands on a woman!
Im sorry 4 sounding so rude n blunt especially since ur going thru wat u r but r u completely stupid if he does that 2 u while ur pregnant imagine how he'll be when ur not n like has already been said wats 2 stop him frm hitting ur bby n him being a bby it wnt take much 2 kill him u should really get away because alot can happen in 9 days n believe me I understand wanting ur bby 2 have a father cus I grew up without my dad n thats all I wanted was 2 have a father 4 them I have bby #2 on the way n im not with his dad cus he slapped me a few wks ago n his *** was gone that night I want my boys 2 have a father but not one like that cus no man who beats u is worth losing urs or ur childs life or having him takin away by cps because u wnt leave that sorry excuse 4 a man
I know its hard but you need to get out of that situation and relationship. Not only is it harmful to you, but if state finds out that this is happening and you still subject your baby to that exposure, they will take the baby away and put it in foster care. my sister was in an abusive marriage and the state took all her kids away. She now only gets to see them for 4hrs a week supervised.
Are you freaking kidding me!? He can hit you all he wants??? What's wrong with you? Why in the world would you think it was ok for a man to hit you. You do NOT deserve to be treated like that! He is so messed up that he would hit you and you're just accepting it!? Get him out asap and get a restraining order. How would you feel if you saw your dad beating your mom? Pretty devastated right? Your son will feel the same. And if he hits you what will stop him from hitting your son? Please get out for your own good. There are so many great guys out there who would take care of you and your son and love you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
You need a restraining order so he will
Have to do his house arrest at some other house! Get rid of him fast! If a man hits a woman he will hit his child!
Have to do his house arrest at some other house! Get rid of him fast! If a man hits a woman he will hit his child!
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