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He beats me
The father of my child is staying with me on house arrest. Whenever he gets mad he beats me. Not hitting my stomach he doesn't leave bruises or marks but it's causes pain. He is also verbally abusive. My question is alot of times he slams me on the bed and that's the only thing I'm really concerned by. Is that harmful to my son? He can beat me all he wants just as long as my baby is OK. I only have 9 days til my due date.
He shouldn't put his hands on you period!! Your son needs his mother!!! Mad or not he has no right to beat you Exp when your carrying his child....please find a way out of that situation...It's only going to get worse from here.....this is just my personal opinion....I would kick his butt out!!
Do u want him to beat u in front of ur son?? That's the big question u should ask ueself. By u allowing this behavior is letting him know its ok and he WILL CONTINUE to do it once the baby gets here which may increase stress.. also what if he slams u while u have the baby in ur arms?? I would evaluate ur situation because its not healthy and yes slamming u can hurt ur baby so please get help
Put him out!!!!! U say he doesn't leave marks what's going to happen when u are not carrying his baby if he's beating u now?!?!? Your baby shouldn't be around any of it.
My goodness my heart just sank. I am having my son monday and I cannot imagine what your going through. You have got to get out this situation. Let his parol/probation officer whoever it is, know. This isn't okay regardless if he's mad or not. Your son should be #1 of course as taking care of yourself, your the only one he can rely on. I am going to pray for you bigtimeeee
Thank u ladies. Jennkenn2000 prayer is excatly what i need. Please pray for me. Thank you.
Oh my goodness! How could a person do such a thing? Do you think it's ok that he does that to you? could cause harm to your baby. Omg please tell someone like a family member or the police. Nobody deserves to be beaten especially pregnant. He has no heart and men that do that have some emotional and mental problems. Please put him out or leave.
If hes there on house arrest then you should call the police and tell them to come get him because it is not ok to put his hands on you. The baby won't show signs of abuse until he gets here I'd something was to be wrong with him. You don't have to and shouldn't be putting up with that so my advice is to get rid of him NOW.
Don't bring your son it to a home of violence. Get out NOW! right now he takes it out his anger on you which isn't right but what if he takes it out on your baby who can't defend for its self. At my hospital,when I went into l&d they ask if you have ever been abused, or if your scared of somebody.
You need to get out and away from this man. It is never ok for him to verbally abuse you or physically hit you no matter how mad he is. I am worried for you and the baby. Tell the police, tell the hospital, tell somebody and get far away from him. It can only get worse. :( good luck and stay safe
U nd to leave him for u and your childs sake. It will only get worst. I went through the same thing with my ex and I was 7 months pregnant and he caused me to loose my baby bc he pushed me on the corner of the dresser one day and wouldnt take me to the doctor or er cause he was too scared and I was in so much pain I blacked out that night. And when I woke up I was in the hospital my mom said I had lost the baby. Everyone told me to leave him but I didn't. It took me loosing my baby girl to finially leave him. Now I'm pregnant again by another man and he asked me y I have this nasty scar on the side of my stomach. And everytime I look at it I think of my baby and all my pain. No man or person is worth the pain.
My technical bio father was abusive. Careful not to leave marks as well. My mom had a stillborn and had to give birth in the back of an ambulance. Didn't even get to see her child or know the sex. I don't hope that for anyone, so if he's abusing you, please get him out of there. You shouldn't even have to deal with the verbal abuse. Just think..what is going to happen once baby is here and he is in one of his moods and baby just won't stop crying? You can't hover over baby 24/7 and even if you could, he could push you out of the way. If you don't wanna throw him out, then you leave. He can't chase you if he's on house arrest. If you have no one to turn to, there are shelters that can help. Please think about this.
I don't want him in jail and I know he won't hit my baby. I'm not going to say it's OK he hits me but it's never longer than 3 minutes and my son is healthy. I want him to have a daddy and if I must Get beat then that's ok
That's the thing. It's not ok for you to get beat by him. It's not!!! Please please you have to realize if he hurts you then you never know what else he may do. You gotta do what you gotta do. Your son wouldn't want you to get beat by his father. Just think of other options rather than you thinking it's ok to get hit.
I hope you're right about him never going to hit the child, but you can find someone better as a father figure. That baby is going to grow up thinking it's normal and perfectly fine to beat on people. But if you're not looking to get out, then no advice can really be given. No one will know for sure if your baby will be completely okay or not. Just something you'll find out whether immediately or a little down the road.
Sweetie if he hits you who is to say that he won't hit the baby. You need to get help. Your son does not need that type off father in his life. A few things can come from this he could beat you severly end up being hospitalized, or even beat you to death. Do you want your son to grow up thinking its ok to treat women that way? If you had a daughter in your situation what would you want her to do?
You NEVER know WHAT he's going to do just because he is mad...it doesn't take longer than three minutes to seriously hurt someone!!! He could very much so hurt your baby...you have nine days left....you should really get out while you Can....Your son can have a father but that doesn't mean you have to get beat....where are your morals??? You should want more for yourself if not you then your
son!!!.......
son!!!.......
Ive been in your situation..although I wasnt pregnant....im sure you love him..because I adored my ex even though he hit me...with a baby involved your situation is much worse.....im sure your thoughts are that it will get better...but it wont...it can only get worse..you have to let him go.obviously hes not happy and doesnt love you or he wouldnt do this to you.he is by no means a real man.i will also be praying for you.you have to find the strength within yourself to let him go!!
I don't understand why you stay with him are you not living with your mom anymore. You were Sooooo strong. You gave advice to other women saying f#$k the guy snag that you'll do it on you're own off you have to and now you saying that you need him. Isn't this the same guy that didn't care enough to go to any of your doctors appointment or check on you. He bought a new car and outfit instead of anything for the baby. You says that you will protect you're son no matter what.well that includes while her is inside of you.
You need a restraining order so he will
Have to do his house arrest at some other house! Get rid of him fast! If a man hits a woman he will hit his child!
Have to do his house arrest at some other house! Get rid of him fast! If a man hits a woman he will hit his child!
Are you freaking kidding me!? He can hit you all he wants??? What's wrong with you? Why in the world would you think it was ok for a man to hit you. You do NOT deserve to be treated like that! He is so messed up that he would hit you and you're just accepting it!? Get him out asap and get a restraining order. How would you feel if you saw your dad beating your mom? Pretty devastated right? Your son will feel the same. And if he hits you what will stop him from hitting your son? Please get out for your own good. There are so many great guys out there who would take care of you and your son and love you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
I know its hard but you need to get out of that situation and relationship. Not only is it harmful to you, but if state finds out that this is happening and you still subject your baby to that exposure, they will take the baby away and put it in foster care. my sister was in an abusive marriage and the state took all her kids away. She now only gets to see them for 4hrs a week supervised.
Im sorry 4 sounding so rude n blunt especially since ur going thru wat u r but r u completely stupid if he does that 2 u while ur pregnant imagine how he'll be when ur not n like has already been said wats 2 stop him frm hitting ur bby n him being a bby it wnt take much 2 kill him u should really get away because alot can happen in 9 days n believe me I understand wanting ur bby 2 have a father cus I grew up without my dad n thats all I wanted was 2 have a father 4 them I have bby #2 on the way n im not with his dad cus he slapped me a few wks ago n his *** was gone that night I want my boys 2 have a father but not one like that cus no man who beats u is worth losing urs or ur childs life or having him takin away by cps because u wnt leave that sorry excuse 4 a man
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