Need some advice...

[mommyof32016]

I'm 13 weeks pregnant with my exs baby. We were only together for a month and a half (it was an oops we used protection and I was on the pill) the day after christmas I was having some depression. He never asked what was wrong, or tried making me feel better. He grabbed his keys, wallet and phone and left without saying anything. About an hr later I text him to ask if he was mad at me, he said I wanted to ask you the same. Then started accusing my 10 month old sons dad of getting between us when the only time I talked to him was about our son, then he blamed me because after working 10 hrs a night, and being 7 weeks pregnant I was tired and went straight to sleep when I got home. About an hour later I noticed on Facebook he changed his relationship status to single and added about 5 different girls. I blocked him because I didn't wanna deal with the drama, the next day he said he was coming to get his stuff, when he did he didn't say anything to me, I text him asking if he was still going to be involved in the baby's life and he said "you'll hear from my lawyer after the beginning of the month" I said the lawyer won't do anything sense I'm legally married to my sons dad still so the state considers him the bio dad until dna test is done, he's still fighting for shared parenting for his daughter (been going on for over a year because he's an alcoholic and dosent wanna admit it or get help, I've seen him drive drunk behind me and didn't realize he was drunk until he swerved, he fell asleep sitting up playing with my son and an hr later was puking his guts up after telling me he wasn't drunk, I could smell it on him at this point) most lawyers will only take one case at a time. He said yea well see. The next day I messaged his mom and told her she has a grandkid on the way and he was keeping it from her and his whole family but they deserved to know. He text me later that night saying he called the cops and court (this is at 9:30pm) I said it would be great if you just don't text me unless it's about out unborn child, he said I don't care the cops are away of the situation, I said ok fine I'll call the cops he said go ahead I'm not in ohio, he ignored the call from the officer, an hour later I get a text saying lawyers are on the case so I call the officer back and they said he didn't answer so they'd call him again. Two weeks later I get a text saying quit hacking my fb (I literally just woke up) I told him he was told not to text me if it's not about our child he said I have proof and a witness. I said ok because I just woke up and the only person around me is my sons dad who can't stand you and is sleeping. He said see you in court I told him if he text me again I was calling the cops and telling them to press harrasment charges sense he got his one warning. On Tuesday I found out the sex of the baby, he hasn't text me at all sense he left asking how the baby is, asking about dr appointments, or anything about the baby... Tuesday I found out I'm having a girl, the only person I've told is my sons dad/bf. I'm not sure if i should tell the baby's dad or just not say anything and use it to my advantage of him not asking about the baby if he does take me to court?

[SiincerelyCindy]

No, if he doesn't ask abt the baby then there's no need to tell him anything. As far as using that against him in court, it doesn't work like that. Believe me, I wish it did, but it doesn't. Just don worry about it. Focus on yourself and the baby and if he takes u to court, you'll deal with it then. And there will be attorneys there that can help u with all that. Congrats on ur new baby!

[dixielove]

If your sons dad/boyfriend is backing you up(it seems that way) then you dont need him. I wish you the best of luck.

[babyonboardxox]

Im gonna be blunt... you got pregnant a month or so after you started dating this guy and youre legally married to your sons father... thats wrong in so many ways...

Also, you got pregnant after being with this guy for a month or so... theres another thing... you dont know this guy properly and now look at what hes doing...


Then he accuses you of your husband getting in the way and u end up back with him a month after ex leaves.... that in any ones eyes states that you moved on too early... and you still love hubby enough to take him back no matter what.

Good luck though.... hes not gonna step up... your ex sounds like my 18 month olds father... i have a restraining order and a protection order against him...


Also, he hasnt asked or seen my 18 month old since she was 2 weeks old... he didnt even care for anything... he spent the last of the money we had to buy diapers... on alcohol.

[mommyof32016]

I tried telling him, but he won't reply if he wants to know, and found out he's telling people at work that I'm a stalker and I'm the reason he's moving (he lives an hr from me now, he's moving 20 min away) you'd think if I was saposedly a stalker he would move farther lol. Oh well he's only making it worse for himself

[Zawjatu_yusuf]

Surely a very complicated situation...I always wonder why do people have sex out of wedlock?it only brings harm and grief..wish you patience and strength...xxx

[mommyof32016]

It's a long story with my sons dad, we been through alot and after my ex left he proved he changed and was the guy I fell in love with 3yrs ago

[mommyof32016]

We didn't get back together until a month after he left.

[TashaRileyAlyssaRich2016]

Ok if I've read this right u said the baby dad accused ur sons dad of getting between you and him and you deny it but now your back together with your sons dad  ???