am i doin the right thing

[engaged_to_eric]

im 16 and engaged  my bf is 20 and im planning on finishing school and we both want a baby but im going to finish school.. do you think im doing the right thing

[KeyD]

Having a baby definently changes your lives. I no longer live for myself but for my DD. She is involved in everything--either you plan for her to go with you or you arrange for a sitter (which unless you rely on family) a sitter costs money. I am glad to hear ur plan to wait. Even once you think ur ready take a look at how much everything baby related costs--diapers, carseats, clothes....If ur planning to have a baby then u need to be able to afford it.

[Diana702]

I am not trying to be rude! BUT ARE YOU CRAZY!! How are you going to support this baby? do have a job? if you do i bet it doesnt pay much! you are 16 you are still a child yourself!! were are your parents?? Not only that your boyfriend is 20 that is called rape in most states!! Finish school! trust me its a diffrent world when you are 21! your not even old enough to vote and you want a baby? Again are you Crazy?
Why do you want a baby? dont you feel loved? i will pray for you! be smart, think about it!! again sorry not trying to be rude, just honest!!

[kjbutcher]

having children should be an exciting, fun, rewarding experience.  Not having the appropriate education, money, housing, circumstances will absolutely make it a miserable experience.  you are absolutely making the right decision!  make sure all of your ducks are in a row for your own life before bringing another into the world.  btw, take some time to enjoy where youa re in your life too.  I am glad to hear that your moms are involved.  they will not stear you wrong.  you dont want to be a mother youself when you realize this!

[engaged_to_eric]

again thank you all
me my bf and both af our mothers sat with us and we talked about it and we know what we are going to do..we have a plan but yess im still going to wait

[Riot_Queen]

DEFF finish school girl!
Good for you for making the right decision!!
There's too many girls that come on here TRYING to get pregnant so young and don't realize how a baby can put a hault on your life.
You need to get an education so you can get a good job so that baby can have everything it needs!
I got pregnant at 18.
I was gunna be a cop.
Hadda put it on hold.
Found out I was pregnant about 3 months pregnant again about 7 months after I had my daughter.
I was gunna go apply for the sherriff's department after my daughter's 1st birthday which is this Saterday, but can't yet again because I'm having a baby on my 20th birthday.
So I gatta wait after HIS first birthday to go apply.

I'm bummed and wish I hadn't wound up pregnant again because my dream lays in law enforcement, and it's frustrating having to wait.

Again, I'm very very glad you decided to wait!
Good luck on your future!!

[engaged_to_eric]

everyones advice was wonderful thank you all now we know what we both need to do and what we are going to do

[happy_mommy]

I was 16 and in love and wanted a baby.  We waited because I was so young!  Once i graduated HS we moved in together, we have been together for 4 years on November 5th, and i will be almost 30 weeks.  We did find a lot out about each other once we moved intogether.  You have to think how much a baby is and how much time he.she will take.  With school and having to work it can be hard.  I have friends that accidently got pregnant at 16 and although they love their child it was the hardest thing ever.

So ask yourself this...
How would you family feel?
Can you work go to school and raise a baby?
How long have your boyfriend and you been together?
DO you live together?
Can you afford to live together?
Will you have to live off the government?

I'm on government insurance but not foodstamps, and although it is there for people that cannot fully support their family I have heard once you are on them it is hard not to become so dependent on it.

You really need to think about this, a baby will change yourlife entirely.  You can get married and not grow up right away, but you have to grow up for your child.

[luv2bmommy]

i think the best way to get to your goals in life is first through visualization, visualize what you want to give your future daughter or son. your undivided attention, without having to share your time with him/her and school. birthday parties and christmas you know you will be able to provide because you and/or your future husband have a secure career. Not saying that as a young mother you are doomed to fail at these things, i was a young mother myself. but i am in a better place now than i was then. i think you are doing the right and mature thing, and applaud you for it! Its ok to know that you want to be a mother some day, theres nothing wrong with that. Spend your time securing that goal for you and your boyfriend. :)

[tarajanes]

Yes hun,finish school first.get yourself a good education.get yourself a good job,and enjoy life first.there is plenty of time for babys.I have a 16 year old,and would be devastated to find out they were planning a child.there is so much out there.there are many women here who have had babys at  a young age,and can give you some strong advice hun.once you got a good job,same as your boyfriend you can both build a life together and a home,which will provide a good enviroment for your baby.all the best.

[neasyc]

yes it will be st all round good luck

[trynerd]

hi i would defo wait hun get school over and done with first. Are you even living with your bf ? because if not i suggest finishing school then if you are still together move in i can guarentee that you will find much more about each other. Enjoy your time together first because when a little one comes along things will change. Im 20, at university studying nursing and have been living with my partner for the past few months and im currently 11 weeks pregnant and if it wasnt for the support of my boyfriend i certainly dont think i could go through this on my own even the early pregnancy symptoms can be a problem and make you feel lonely. So make sure hes going to be there to care for both you and the baby.

[smjmekg]

Definitely wait!!! Finish school so you can give your child a better life, by being able to better provide for your child. You never know what's going to happen. When you graduate HS and go to college you may be single again. I'm just saying, you're young...1~~enjoy your free time 2~~you may change your mind and not want them until you're older...don't grow up too fast, you have a long life ahead of you and plenty of time for kids, think about you now, because when you do have kids...there's no you, it's them.

[Victoria01]

Please finish high school and go to college before even considering having a family. Things will be so much easier for you if you do and your future children will benefit greatly from you waiting until you are older and can provide for them emotionally and financially.

[LauraB78]

YES... FINISH school, and college.. You need to be educated in order to get a decent job in order to provide for yourselves before you ever consider having a child..  You are not old enough to even BE CONSIDERING having a child.. I pray you are on birth control and using it correctly.. You are still a baby yourself.. Geez....