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fckin mother-in-laws!!!!!
I just need to vent but my mother in law is driving me up the freakin wall!!!!!!!! She has moved in with me and my bf because she couldn't afford to live on her own anymore.... but since she has moved in she tries to run the place as if it were her own!!!! She doesn't load the dishwasher right so the dishes don't get clean and I end up having to wash them by hand a second time!! I've asked her nicely and told her how it works and the woman just don't listen!!!!! We gave her our whole basement and she will still not leave us alone my bf smokes and she comes upstairs complaining about smoke!!! I don't even complain and I'm the pregnant one!!!! She constantly treats my bf like her husband not her son she wants him to do and be everything her mechanic, decorator, mover, PC tech, lawyer, therapist, friend, son, bank, errand runner, counselor, shoulder, doctor, nail tech, servant!!!! And I'm going bonkers!!!!! He's tried telling her but she just cries and cries and gives us the silent treatment for days I swear she is more moody then my prego butt I just don't know what to do anymore because if we go places for her and ask for gas money she freaks out and get super offended this is her 4th grandchild and my dads first and she is getting mad that my dad is buying the baby things first like his first Teddy bear and toy she has no right to get mad in my opinion!!! It's his grandbaby too!!! If she wants to by the baby things then she needs to stop wasting money on her stupid **** and spend it on real things!!!! Aaaaahhhhhhhh I just wanna scream!!!!!!!!!! And punch her in the mouth everytime I see her!!!!!!!ok phew end of vent thank u ladies for letting me share :-)
Kendradawn88- my mother and i have a really rocky relationship. We cant conversate for 10 minutes without it turning into an argument. I love my mother in law like a mother. She got me a gift this year for Xmas and on the tag she wrote " to Angie, love mom:-) " I cried lol.
Me and my bf have been together almost a year and a half and before she found outbound was pregnant she was nice we went out to lunch we hung out and talked she stayed out of our relationship she cleaned she didn't bother my bf for anything not once! Then she finds out and became so needy and such a beast!!! This morning she came into our room to wake up my bf to help her tie her shoes!!!!!!!! No knocking first just walked right in!!! What if we had been naked??? We are telling her today its time for her to get her own place I'm going nuts and the stress isn't good for the baby... I don't kno why she is jealous of me my bf is her oldest but he has already had a kid why didn't she get this way with the first one???
Zombonnie...holy crap...my mother in law was totally cool too until i got preg with my daughter who just turned two...it wss like she did a complete 180 when she found out and its been a long almost three years...its only gotten worse...i think its because in her mind thats the moment she felt she lost CONTROL of her son...ridiculous. im 20w with #2 and her and i dont speak...its so weird how they flip like that...mind you my hubby and i were together for two years before our first pregnancy and she was fine!!
Keep telling her and let her cry and cry and then at least she wont speak to you or bug you for a few days! I know how u feel. my MIL used to live with us too and it drove me mad!!!
Sounds like she is jealous in a way. I guess because u and ur baby have all of her sons attention. You said she has a job, why can't she find her own place to live? If she can't respect boundaries maybe its time for her to leave. Good luck.
is your BF her only son or youngest maybe that has something to do with the way shes being towards you, especially if your pregnant she may feel like your taking away her baby..i dont know just an idea :)
Ya I try to ignore it and so far so good.. but cant promise it will be the same later in my pregnancy when the hormones are way outta wack Hahahaha!!! My bf is amazing tho and totally lets me vent and even joins in at times :-P she knows the smell of cheese makes me so sick so she'll even come up here to make grilled cheese sandwiches and she adds cheese to everything she makes I think so I can't eat it or maybe in hopes I get sick plus she has a kitchen downstairs y come up here and make me sick its weird because before I was pregnant she was so cool and I loved her but after she found out it all has changed its not her first grandbaby either its her 4th and its the second child my bf has but my first I think she mad I don't ask her questions or go to her for my pregnancy question's but there are just somethings I don't wanna talk to her about besides her oldest is 21 alot has changed since back then I have a sister that gave birth 2 days ago so naturally I go to her with my questions... I definitely don't wanna ask my mil if having rough sex during pregnancy is bad... she just doesn't get it
Zombiebonnie, I apologize. I just read your post where you said you've tried everything to talk with her and so has your hubby. I wish I could tell you what you could do:( She sounds awful and completely intolerable! I'd probably lose it, especially with pregnancy hormones. Like I said, hopefully it is definitely NOT permanent. Mamaof4410, It's wonderful isn't it? I have a 3 year old little girl too and I'm almost 28 weeks with a little boy:) I've had so many health problems with this pregnancy and she has been a Godsend. My ribs are separated now and it's hard for me to do some things but she helps so much. She helps with my little girl, she asks all the time if there's a certain food she can make me, she'll tell me to go get some rest when she knows how badly I'm hurting.. etc. I honestly feel so thankful. I know it may sound bad but she's been more of a mother to me then my own. She's the kind of momma that I want to be like;) I'm glad you get to experience that as well.
I am sooooo sorry!!!! Mother in laws sometimes can be a handful. Mine is the exact same except she is really really mean demanding spiteful rude and to top it all off LOUUDD.. I hand to learn how to ignore her n take small doses of her. I had to learn what to do to keep from arguments for the sake of her son (my fiance) and my nephews. It ***** I know trust me I truly feel for you.
Kendradawn88- my mother in law and i are the same way. I call her mom also. My mom wasn't involved at all when i was a child and my MIL is so different. She lives with us and we get along great. She helps me with the kids, and everything. She stays out of mine and hubby's relationship to. I couldn't imagine having an evil mil. I would dread all visits let alone live with her!
***sorry didn't mean to hit post*** Anyway, I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I can't imagine how hard it must be..Hopefully it's just temporary and you won't have to deal with that forever. Like I said though, I would try to sit down and talk with her and let her know how you feel and how much stress its causing you. Then maybe you and your husband could try and set some boundaries with her to make life easier for everyone. Congrats on your pregnancy and I hope things get better for you:)
Oh I don't think I could handle that Zombonnie, Have you and your husband tried sitting down with her together to talk and set some boundaries? I hear a lot of people say it doesn't work living with your families.. etc, well me and my husband live with my MIL and I love her! We get along great and since I've been pregnant she's been so helpful. It may make a difference though that we basically have an apartment downstairs with our own living room and even a refrigerator, so we aren't always around each other and hubby and I have our own time together. It works out great because she doesn't try to get in our relationship or anything. She helps me and I help her. My mother was bipolar and manic depressive when I was growing up and didn't get help until I was almost 18, so we never had a good relationship until recently and I was physically and mentally abused by her growing up. When I met my mother in law I was amazed at what a wonderful Mother she was, it was like I finally got to experience what a real Mom was. Maybe that's why I love her so much and we get along so well? Any
I have had many talks with mine...I WILL NEVER BE IN THST BOAT EITHER!! she told me...if i dont like the way she treats people including myself...then dont talk to her!! I will never be like her and i will never respect anyone that treats people that way for no reason!!
Yea I couldn't deal with the jumping into the arguments. I would go off on her. I would say something like..you're going to try an counsel us but your still single?!
I couldn't take it. And its going to get worse after the baby arrives because she is going to tell you everything you should be doing and if you do one thing its going to be wrong. My grandma and my sister in law that has only one baby is like that. I wish I could help you lol. Being pregnant is tough enough without this extra nonsense!
I couldn't take it. And its going to get worse after the baby arrives because she is going to tell you everything you should be doing and if you do one thing its going to be wrong. My grandma and my sister in law that has only one baby is like that. I wish I could help you lol. Being pregnant is tough enough without this extra nonsense!
We have tried talking to her I've tried talking to her alone he tried talking to her alone we tried talking to her together its the same result everytime she cries and cries and cries for hours and givebus the silent treatment for 4days the its right back to the same old ways like we never said a word we will even be in our bedroom lights out door closed and she comes knocking at the door for him to check the mail or for us to talk about work pectoral ask if he let the dog out!!! Really u can't be a grown up and let the dog out if your curious its not even her dog!!!! If we fight she jumps in and tries to counsel us its definitely not helpful it just makes it worse
No I will not be in the same boat... because I'm not crazy! This woman is off her rocker like today... again she has 2 bedrooms a bathroom and a full living room and kitchen down stairs. She doesn't like "scary" movies, well me and my bf were up here watching a scary movie so she came upstairs while talking on the phone sat at the kitchen table and had a very loud conversation.... then 5 min in she came into our living room and asked us to turn off the movie because she hates them sat back down at the table continued her conversation for 20 min after she got off the phone went back down stairs..... wtf was the point in that???? Then yelled for my bf to go down there to help her pick out an outfit to wear to work tomorrow!!!! She is 46 years old and can't dress her self??? keep in mind she is very capable of doing these things on her own she isn't disabled or slow
Mine lives with us and I'm sooooo glad I don't have this problem! We are both clean freaks so she cleans as good as I do! Its like another me in the house. And as far as DH and i go if we do have a little disagreement, which is like never, she stays completely out of it. Doesn't ask questions or anything. I couldn't imagine living like that. I would pull my hair out! Or hers:-) good luck to you.
Try talking to her and your bf at the same time. Be honest. Thats the only way any of theses issues are going to get resolved. You can't put two women under the same roof. One of them is constantly going to want to be the woman of the house. Its your house. She needs to respect it.
Try talking to her and your bf at the same time. Be honest. Thats the only way any of theses issues are going to get resolved. You can't put two women under the same roof. One of them is constantly going to want to be the woman of the house. Its your house. She needs to respect it.
Remember that those mothers raised ur bf/husbands. Show some respect......... U will all be in the same boat someday when ur children are talking bad abt u:)
Lol. Im lucky to have a great mother in law. Maybe you all need to have a screaming match with her to make her undetstand. Tell he she'll have to go if she doesnt stop.
Im right there with kfrasher! i see my MIL way too much and she talks to my BF almost EVERYDAY on the phone!! She also does what she wants in my house and it drives me bonkers!
My mother in laws aren't that bad lol but I still wouldn't want to live with them. I'm really sorry it sounds like you're super stressed.
Omg...i would die if i had to live with my MIL (aka) the wicked witch of the west!!! i am so sorry you have to deal with that on top on being preggo!!!
Can I join!?!?!? My mil was living with my brother in law she came for her usual weekend.visit with us not knowing she was.fighting with my brother in law. Needless to say she never left and ended up living with us for two years!!!!! Two freaking years! She thought it was her house. Did everything her way. She has no income.so we paid for everything. She.smoked like a pack a day and my husband kept buying.for her. I felt bad.for him bc he didn't know how to say no to her since he has a small family as it is. Then she said she was moving to tenn and the day she was moving was the day she.told us she was going to live with his dad! Um couldn't she had done that 2 years ago? Then just last week my husband had to take off work to take her to the doctors 2with hrs away pay for the gas the parking her food and then she had the.nerve to ask foe him to get her $40stuff prescription. I was sooooo mad. How dare she mooch off him
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