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not sure this is what i want
im 6 weeks pregnant and havent been able to get out of bed due to not being able to eat and drink. I have severe leg pains and stomach pain. I also have polycystic ovaries.
Im not sure if i want this baby at all and i dont know what to do iv spoken to my mum and closest friends but they all just say the same things to me :(
Im not sure if i want this baby at all and i dont know what to do iv spoken to my mum and closest friends but they all just say the same things to me :(
It could mean absolutely nothing and just be normal first trimester symptoms or it could mean a threatened miscarriage. You should contact your doctor.
It is normal to have pains in the beginning...your uterus is stretching at an increasingly rapid rate and in doing so is pulling and stretching your ligaments. It is also comming in early pregnancy to have your symptoms come and go. Speak with your doctor.
It is normal to have pains in the beginning...your uterus is stretching at an increasingly rapid rate and in doing so is pulling and stretching your ligaments. It is also comming in early pregnancy to have your symptoms come and go. Speak with your doctor.
i just said my sickness has stopped im not even 8 weeks. I get really bad pains too. What does it mean?
good to hear u r feeling better.pliz appreciate the special pple in your life,ie boyfriend.i've seen cases whereby women get pregnant and the boyfriend refuses responsibilty and leaves them to deal with it on their own.now u have a supportive guy who loves u,who wants this baby and cares for u.don't take such men for granted,they r very few.so pliz deal with ur emotional issues first b4 u mek drastic decisions.the sickness will pass but don't let this baby and the father pass too.
Only YOU can make a decision. It sounds to me like you may be suffering from some depression. I think it would be extremely wise for you to speak with your doctor about it. Let him know about what you've been feeling. It could be that with proper treatment your feelings will change, that you will be more upbeat. I think you need to sort out what's going on in your head BEFORE you make any decisions that will be permanent. I would also suggest that regardless of your decision (abortion, adoption, keeping the baby) that you educate yourself thoroughly on what's involved with all 3 of those options BEFORE you make the decision. While, it IS your body and your decision, you should also consider the fathers feelings. If you decide you do not want to keep the baby, would he take the baby and raise it? If you decide to keep the baby and raise it yourself, if at any time you feel it's not want you want the child can always be put up for adoption.
As I said I think it would be a wise decision to speak with your doctor and possibly begin some counseling BEFORE you make a final decision on anything. A first pregnancy, even planned ones, can be very frightening and for some women can cause initial feelings of fear and regret. It think talking to someone (a professional) who is not biased to your situation would very beneficial in helping you to sort through your feelings and determine the best course of action for everyone involved. Good luck and please let us know how things are going.
As I said I think it would be a wise decision to speak with your doctor and possibly begin some counseling BEFORE you make a final decision on anything. A first pregnancy, even planned ones, can be very frightening and for some women can cause initial feelings of fear and regret. It think talking to someone (a professional) who is not biased to your situation would very beneficial in helping you to sort through your feelings and determine the best course of action for everyone involved. Good luck and please let us know how things are going.
i went to the doctors yesterday and he said theres nothing he can do why cant he help me?
you shouldnt make your decision on how you feel about the father. that baby is also part of you, and has a beating heart for you. pregnancy (especially unplanned) is never easy, not for anyone. But like all these women have said, once you feel and see your baby on u/s, there is no way not to love him/her.
If you are in that much pain, and feeling that bad you really should see a doctor, just to make sure everything is looking ok so far in the pregnancy. As far as how you feel with your boyfriend, it really could just be hormones. Men have come on here having problems with their girlfriends/wives hating them and newly pregnant, and we tell them the same thing we're telling you it really can be hormones. I assume this is your first pregnancy, so you don't know for sure how your hormones will be or how your body will react to it completely just yet. Ashelen gave you really good advice about talking to someone. Maybe your doctor is a good choice. You mentioned that everyone keeps telling you the same thing, try talking to your doctor and go into the office ALONE. He/she is there to listen to your concerns, and although he/she may not be a therapist, he/she can help. I've had moments with my son and now this baby (I'm 15 weeks pregnant) where I wondered, what the heck am I doing? Do I really want this? I know it's just my hormones getting to me, I wouldn't change having my son or this baby for anything. Talk to your doctor, before you decide anything, see if he/she can help you first.
all iv been doing is thinking.
He kissed me and i felt nothing, he would try and cuddle me and it just didnt feel right anymore.
I am in so much pain and going to lose my job i dont know what to do!
He kissed me and i felt nothing, he would try and cuddle me and it just didnt feel right anymore.
I am in so much pain and going to lose my job i dont know what to do!
Please THINK! Thats the best thing at the moment, Think.
because you really 'don't know what you've got till its gone' Both baby and boyfriend!!
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because you really 'don't know what you've got till its gone' Both baby and boyfriend!!
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Are you sure it's not hormones and stress that could make you not want him? Or do you truly just not have feelings for him anymore. Pregnancy does a lot to a female and at times you can make a lot of wrong choices because of them. Try giving it time. Don't make any rash choices. Think long and hard about everything.
Ohhh... Cant you work out some sort of Custody thing if you decide to keep it.. Or you can give him full custody rights and stuff.. basically have him adopt your baby type thing and the baby live with him?? Or something. But I know how it isto have a termination and how much you regret it after wards and how much it knock you for six, and you'd do anything to have your baby back after its gone. The old saying, 'You dont know what you've got till its gone' is actually true!!
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Take it from someone who has had a termination because I was very ill (With anorexia) and in a bad way anyways with family issues, it was the biggest mistake of my life. And I wish I never got rid of it. And I have to carry that regret around with me for the rest of my life. But i did do it for the best of my baby.
But its your choice. You wil grow to love your baby. I have been ed bound for 3 weeks due to migrains and not being able to lift my head off the pillow. But at the end Im going to have a lovely babyy who is going to make me smile and forget how ill it madee me.
Just have a good think about it before you make any choices, you might live to regret. I know this is very hard... but as it progresses you might start to change. What does the father think of your choices and feelings, and what is his input on your pregnancy.?
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But its your choice. You wil grow to love your baby. I have been ed bound for 3 weeks due to migrains and not being able to lift my head off the pillow. But at the end Im going to have a lovely babyy who is going to make me smile and forget how ill it madee me.
Just have a good think about it before you make any choices, you might live to regret. I know this is very hard... but as it progresses you might start to change. What does the father think of your choices and feelings, and what is his input on your pregnancy.?
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You will be fine... You should talk to your dr and see if they can give you something. Also find a close friend that you can talk to for support
You should probably not make any drastic decisions when you are in that state of mind and not thinking clearly. I think Ashelen gave you excellent advice - you may want to talk to a professional about this; you sound really depressed... At the same time, nobody can force you to have a baby that you don't want. Hope it all works out for you, whatever you decide.
I understand. It's hard. I still get to that point when I get my sickest. There were days I detested my baby because of what it was doing to my body and how I felt. Only you know what is the right choice for you, but think hard about each decision. If you aborted because you felt sick, it could haunt you for the rest of your life.
Believe me once you feel a kick and see an ultrasound you will want it. And you will love it more than anyone. It will be the only person that will love you forever no matter what and it will be the only person that you will love no matter what. Words can't justify it.
ya you could put the baby up for adoption that way the baby will have the best possible chance in live and you'll be ok
my friend was the same when she found out but now she's very happy wit her son please don't make this decision out of temper or upset take your time and make sure you look after yourself it'll all get better so many people want childern you are blessed weather you know it or not hun it'll all work out xx xx best of luck xx xx
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