plz help

[zaazz]

hi people!! this question is for a close friend of mine!!plz answer it for me asap!! my friend has had protected sex on january 19 after her periods started on 1st so that is with exactly 18 days gap in it!! but she has had protected sex... now what has happened is that she had late periods after the unprotected sex... almost 20 days late..but she had started to freak out from the first day of her missed period.. and when she did get her periods it was very normal the way it was supposed to be...she did do a hpt which came negative... now again its march and she is again 18 days late from her period and she has again started to freak out again..she keeps on telling me that she wants to suicide and all...i have tried taking her 2 the doc bt iv failed..she just doesnt wanna come...pls help me out cos i really love her alot and i cant see her in this pain... plz tell me is she pregnant???pls asap!!

[Mumita]

If she is NOT eating, if she's over exercising, if she's ultra stressed out, she could have amenorhea which means that she's not having her period which your body does naturally to prevent getting pregnant in a hostile environment.  It seems like your friend needs to see a therapist.

[JoyRenee]

Your local authorities are who you should be contacting.

[zaazz]

That is my priority joy and iv been with her joy...just that she just keeps on telling me to find out whats wron with her!!! iv bought her home and she just cries and cries coz the guy she did it with turned out to be a loser and he left her!! iv tried doing everythin... just that now she just wants to know whats wrong with her!! pls help so that i can make her understan d problem... and i can divert her mind and give her assurance!!this is tensing even me out and iv turned here as my last option!!

[JoyRenee]

I think she's stressed out. She needs to seek a guidance counselor. If your friend wants to commit suicide, THAT should be your priority; not trying to figure out her cycles or if she's pregnant.

[zaazz]

guys thanks alot for your advice..sorry for double posting!! but she tells me that she has had only protected sex and this was the 3rd time she's done it!!so can it be possible that its her body reacting in a weird way or somethin!!she also tells me that she has never had unprotected sex...and guys i really appreciate it alot!! please reply to me after dis post as to wat could be wrong with her thou she's had protected sex!!

[slzerbst]

First off none of us on this from can tell you/her wheather or not she's pregnant, we aren't in her body, we aren't a HPT, and most of all we aren't a doctor.  First thing that she needs to do is take a HPT and if it's negative she needs to go and see a doctor because there could be something terribly wrong with her and/or her baby.  For example she could have a tubial pregancy(etopic), cyst on her overies or in her uterus, ect.  My point is there could be many other things wrong with her, not just pregnancy, so I would suggest that she goes and see's a doctor and if she's not willing to step up and talk to her mom about going I would try and take her to a planned parenthood center(they may be called something different where you're from).  that way they could due an ultra sounds, blood test and many other things that they test for.  

In addition that, if she is this scared about being pregnant than why is she having unpertected sex?!  Most school offer condoms if you're having sex, or she could just go to the store and buy some.  My point is is that if she's old enough to be having sex, unpertected, none the less, then she's old enough to take the consequences that come with it.  And that means not just pregnancy, but STD's and HIV!  

[MaryjoF]

It sounds to me like she's under some stress and that is what is making her periods irregular.  It's a very common thing.  Not everyone is perfectly regular and it doesn't always mean pregnancy.  If her home test was negative after 20 days late, I'm gonna assume she is not pregnant.  I had 2 negative home tests but I was only one day late and 8 days late.  I tested again after 14 days late and I got a positive.  If she doesn't want to go to a doctor, there is no way you can force her.  Just try to support her and stay calm.  If you actually think she could go through with suicide, I would go over her head and get her some help.  At the very least a hospital would keep her for 72 hrs and make sure she's ok.  If I had to guess with just the info you've given, I'd say she's not pregnant, just stressed out.