baby shower troubles

[vanessacz]

So I'm still a good bit away from shower time. Only 19 weeks today. However the topic has come up about my having a shower. The only issue is that the individual who wants to give me a shower dose not want to do a traditional one. She wants to do an online shower.
First off I don't honestly understand what that is or the point of it. To me that seems greedy to just say here people get online and buy me stuff. To me a shower is more about the coming together and celebrating the joy of pregnancy (least is always has been in my family). Yes I understand thats the main time you get gifts for the child as well, but to me its not the most important part.
What are your girl's thoughts on this? Honestly, I do not like the idea at all and would prefer to do nothing over doing that. Which means my husband and I wouldn't even register anywhere bc I do not see the point in registering if there is no shower. But I cant stand the thought of just telling people to go online and buy stuff.
And honestly my feelings are hurt bc every woman in my family has gotten a traditional shower, so why should I be different?

[vanessacz]

Thanks girls. My husband is trying to tell me to stay calm bc im emotional these days but I know it would hurt my feeling regardless.
And I dont know if I could bring myself to ask someone to throw me a shower or if I could do one myself, still seems a bit greedy to me.

Im just so glad to know im not the only one who this would upset!

[rosealie23]

I think it's greedy also.. it's telling people ok buy me stuff but I could not even take the time to make a small party for you to come to with a light lunch or snacks and a drink of some kind.... it sounds rude a shower is a celebration that you are invited to and can bring a gift if you would like.... tell her she is crazy and rude and you can tell her I said it... have a normal person give you a shower that would make you feel good or I know it is against tradition but if that is all she is willing to do throw your own... I did my sister in laws and she was going to do mine but my husband took over... he wants over the top and perfect for our first shower and because this is the only boy out of six tries.

[juju2015]

I do agree with the first comment. Me and the father to be  is planning our owb baby shower because I was dealing with a similar situation. Plan your own shower at your house.

[lkaykirk]

I didn't know you could do an online shower. In my case we registered and will have gifts sent to us be my family is all over the us! But we will have showers. How does an online shower work?

[SeabeesWife2013]

If an online shower is the only way (like in our case being military we aren't with family) then it's ok- but if you're surrounded by family you can plan a shower without it being too difficult - I agree with the above statement tell her it's too impersonal for you and you'd be happy to get someone else to plan the shower instead

[luvindashy]

An online baby shower??? Is she kidding?? That's so impersonal, I would never even think of suggesting that to a mom... Tell her "no way!" Ask someone else to plan your shower if she doesn't want to.