Truth spilled out smdh

[keaij]

So my baby`s dad being nice somewhat and last.night posted pics of him his son and his son`s mom aka the girlfriend he said he never had. I dont want him at the birth of my child, bit not sure what to do. Do I let a liar see a new life come into the world or not ? I am so mad I can`t explain my feelings but I`m not surprised. It`s funny he was acting all scared the other day because he saw a lonely pregnant girl text me and apologized, but all I hear are apologizes it`s getting old. One min he is nice the next he is mean, now that I`ve seen the girlfriend I will not be communicating with him for the next 6 months. What do you ladies think should he come to the birth or just get child support papers. I have everything the baby needs he always kept saying wait, but I can`t depend on him and my child needs a place to sleep after birth so I got everything. He needs to be responsible and even if it`s child support that`s fine with me.

[keaij]

Thank you for all your advice and some comments I will not respond to due to.the fact that I know none of you. Thank you to the ones with helpful commons :-)

[armywife93]

I am 100% against trying to keep a child's father away from them unless its totally necessary( i.e. he abuses you or the child, is a drug addict, etc) . in my opinion you need to keep the issues between the two of you separate. If he wants to be apart of the baby's life whether you're together or not, it'd be wrong to not let him. A man should see his child. And when your baby grows up and decides itself that it doesn't wanna see him, then that'll be his choice. But don't rid your baby of a father just because you two didn't work out. That's selfish.

[aprilblessing]

Sounds like the typical male that is all about "LIES". Who doesnt want that happy love story? Seem as though thats what you were aiming for..... but remember you cant change a man, its either he wants to be there or not. Let him make that descion, your not missing out... he is! As far as having him in your delivery room, thats a hard descion both parents I believe are suppose to experience that happy moment but not when one parent is full of it; that moment is to be shared with special people, your support system. Girl please do your thing, leave that man alone. Sounds as though your doing a great job without him! Worry about the baby coming not a worthless man thats not caring what bit about you .

[Netta90]

Just focus on your unborn baby! That's it. Don't worry about him he not worth the stress, don't deny him from being in his child life tho because some women long for their child's father to be there so let him for your child sake, but let him be otherwise

[dianajay]

Sounds like your the side chick. You stay complaining about this dude. Either let him be in the babys life or leave him alone.

[dianajay]

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[Whitney_G]

Not to be rude, but it seems like he doesn't wanna be with you and you don't wanna take no for an answer. You also come across as jealous. I read another post about how you hated his son... His two year old son, just because this man posts pictures of them two together. That's petty in my opinion. If that behavior upsets you that much, then you wouldn't still keep him on your Facebook. All you doing is upsetting yourself. Be the bigger person, stop with the unwanted contact, take him off Facebook and file for the child support. He will either be fine with not being there or realize that he is making a mistake but I'm sure he feel suffocated by you at times. Just back off and he'll make up his own mind. You can't make it up for him.

[keaij]

I feel like I have known a stranger for 2 yrs

[keaij]

To answer some of you`ll answers I just found out he has a girlfriend today, I have known him for 2 yrswe were close friends lived on different parts of town and I never really took him serious just a friend he made himself seem like he was a college student about to graduate and I find out he is just a customer service rep not knocking customer service reps. He said he had been single for 3 yrs and he had one son so I took him for his word. Everyday Im learning something new about this person smdh Im so lost right now.

[Amy1830]

I personally don't think a man has some undeniable right to be there when the mother gives birth to their child if he hasn't been there for the mother during the pregnancy. For me, I feel that I've done all the work and am the one giving up my body and growing another human being so when I give birth to my baby that is my personal moment with the child I made. My fiancé and I are together so it will be our moment too and I know it will be special for him as well. But if for some reason we weren't together or he was disrespectful to me I would not want him there or feel that he deserved to be there. After all, until the baby is born what has your ex done for you or that baby? That is YOUR moment.  He can come see the baby at the hospital nursery after it is born. Giving birth is emotional and personal and you two aren't on that level anymore so you may feel uncomfortable having him there and it may stress you out.

[abbb01]

As far as I understand u guys aren't together and not on the best of terms but he still seems to want to try to be there for baby? If so I'd let him know when baby is being born but just me personally I would have him in waiting room until baby is born. It's ur time since u have to push a watermelon out u need to be able to focus and not have added stress. I had my son at 246am and by 330am he was getting held by 5 members of the family

[SaSa28]

Dont do anything you think you may regret when it comes to the delivery of your baby. Its a once in a life time experiance for you and your baby. I personally have made a rule for my self no men, other then my doctor in the delivery room. Its worked well for me.
If you dont trust him, trust that you never will and do yourself a favore get the child suport and keep focusing on you and baby.

[soon2bmomof4]

You can't force a man to be in his child's life. So if you have a baby daddy who wants to be there for his child in any way I wouldn't take that away from him. If your not comfortable with him in your room then ask him not to come in your room. But if he wants to be there for the birth you should allow it. He can visit in the nursery away from you. I hate seeing females use their child to get at their ex. Whether it's not allowing them to be in the life bc they are either jealous that they aren't with them or moved on or whatever reason. The only reason that is a good one is if they are drug addicts or neglectful. It is not just your child it is his as well. My husband's ex won't let his son come visit bc she hates that he remarried. My husband is torn apart bc of it and the only people it's hurting is your child and that man. Is it really worth it. Every child deserves to know their father and be able to be a part of their life. Note if the father just plain don't care and don't want to be in their life that's a different story. Tell him when you go to the hospital. Let him make the choice whether to come or not. Don't make the decision for him, but just set up rules. I hate my ex's gf with a passion, but that doesn't stop me from allowing my children to go visit him even though they come home and tell me ALL about the woman. Time to be the bigger person. No offense intended but it's just a big pet peeve hearing women talk about this bc I've experienced it first hand and seen the damage it causes when the parents can't be adults. Either way though child support is a must!

[Jaja65]

It depends.  What did he lie about? Were you and him dating and he was seeing someone else at the same time? Even if so your saying he apologized maybe you should just let it go and move on and be all about the baby. And if he doesn't come through as a father then collect your CS and keep it moving. I would definitely stay off his fb pg all your doing is setting yourself up for emotions and it's not worth it. Try to calm down and reason with what you're doing because you want to come across as doing what's in the best interest of your baby.... don't want to come across as being bitter.

[canadiana]

If you don't want him in the room with you, don't let him in the room. I can't imagine myself being comfortable with someone that stresses me out hovering over me at a time like that. If he's going to be paying child support, you should let him see the kid every so often if he wants to. But as for the birth, if you're not close, I wouldn't let him be I'm the room. That time is for people who care about you and support you. They're in there for emotional support, and if that's not what he's going to be doing for you, why have him in there? He'll just be in the way.

[Dakidd2512]

If he wants to be apart of his child life don't take that away from him if u don't want to be with him then u leave him alone

[newluv]

If you dont wanyr him there im the room with you for the birth you dont have to allow him. Traditionally, the men were not present. And that moment is all about the mother and bringing the baby into the world without extra stress and negative energy.

[ntrinaculookin]

Ok let me understand...now u posted this so don't get offended...did u know he had a gf b4 u slept w him bc u had 2 have know he had a child right?? Now r u upset bc he's not w u or what bc that's what it seems like...I may b wrong but from reading what u wrote that's what it seems...now do u not want him @ the birth bc he's not w u?? If so then that's wrong but if he's verbally abuse that's different...example I have a friend who literally starts arguments w her bd & he dishes it right back then she can't take it & throws child support up n his face even tho he does 4 his child...Some type of communication is going 2 have 2 take place unless your just going 2 oust him out & get CS but is that really what u want??

[lallee33]

If he wants to be there let him either in the waiting room or delivery.  After it is said and done only deal with him when it comes to your baby.  Stop stressing over this dude, stop going to his fb page, only text him when you need to go to the hospital and or come from dr vsits.  Just let go!

[ale091988]

I have read some of your previous post and it doesn't seem to me that he wants to be as involved as you will like him too, and you do not need the stress right now get child support because you did not make the baby alone but if he is gonna act that way and not be there for you do not look for him he lied to you and maybe he even have feelings for thatother girl! His loss anyways!! Enjoy and you can do bad all by your self! :-P

[asmith21488]

At the end of the day if he wants to be there for the birth let him hes the dad....regardless of how his relationship effects you the only one hurt in the end will be your kid. Id just ignore him and if he wants to be there he should

[babymama1992]

I dont understand... is this man your partner and been cheating or were yous never together and hes just your babies dad?

[singermomtobe]

Do what's best for you and baby. Men always flip-flop. If you feel you can deal with him in the deliveryroom, then go for it. But if you cant stand the thought of him being there, then don't invite him. No need to stress out and worry about other people's feelings. Worry about how YOU feel. Its your day girly.