still not excited about pregnancy?

[emilydrusell]

Im 32weeks and 2 days. Ever since i found out that i was pregnant i really wasnt all that thrilled. At first i thought it was just my emotions, or confusion from the dr when thwy told me my husband couldnt have children and it would be difficult for me to conceive. From 23weeks to 30 weeks i was taking sertraline at 25 mg. (For depression with the pregnancy)  this is my first baby and im only 20.. so idk if that has somwthing to, do with it but the longer im pregnant the less and less i want to be pregnant and have this baby.. could i juat be getting cold feet? Has anyone else gone through this? Kinda feeling alone, my husband, his family akd my family are so,excited because this is the first grandchild/great grandchild. Really needing some advice.

[thenewmrs_b]

I actually have a friend who never wanted kids... I mean from age 5 when I met her she never liked babies and it was known she wouldn't have any. She ended up pregnant 6 years ago... at 20 and she was very off during her pregnancy but always claimed she was fine. She went I to labor and called me and said she didn't want to have the baby. Long story short she has a beautiful 6 year old girl that is the light of her life. Her connection didn't start instantly but somewhere in the first week or so I could see her change and she was in love. Don't try to force a connection though. You have to let it happen naturally and as the other mom said maybetry to talk to a professional good lick and keep us posted

[Cx3mama]

Your feelings are very real and very normal. It may be a good idea to talk with a professional (I.e. therapist) who can support you during this time. Remember to reach out and ask for help. You are not alone.

[brit333]

I'm having a hard time feeling attached. This is my second and I'm having a hard time feeling I can love another baby. I think when it's your first it's so much to take in. But when you hold your baby something changes inside you. You instantly love them and the looks they give you are amazing. And honestly breastfeeding will help you to bond that much more. In not gonna lie it's not easy at first and has its challenges but have a good support group you can call if you need help. If your mom breastfed that will help and even your mother in law. They can give you good advise. Try and contact a lactation consultant now if you have any questions or concerns. It is not easy at all to be pregnant. There are so many hormones running thru your body it's ridiculous :-) it does take a little while for them to level out after having baby too. Breastfeeding will also help combat depression. Your body will release hormones while you nurse that help calm you. Do as much skin to skin as you can right after baby is born. When I had my daughter they put her on me right after she was born and she nursed within 20 minutes of birth. Maybe try doing something for yourself tho. Go get a pedicure or massage or something that makes you feel good. Like I said pregnancy is hard and it takes a lot out of you and it's normal. Everyone handles hormones differently. Have you done a baby registry yet?? That sometimes helps to get a little more excited. It really will get better tho.

[abbyjacks]

I kinda know how u feel, this is my third and I'm not thrilled either. I love my babies but the timing and the change is what's ***** with this one. Maybe it'sjust the fact that ub know everything is going to change when baby is born  if u want it to or not. I think when u hold ur baby u will feel very different about everything.I feel this way sometimes too but I know these thoughts will be in the past once he's here. Hope u feel better.

[emilydrusell]

I stopped taking the medication because of after 30 weeks it can cause,the baby to have withdraw symptoms. And your not supposed to take it while brest feeding. But idk it makes me feel even worst that i dont feel attached to my baby. Im just like oh there ia a human inside,of me. Thats cool. Idk i think alot of it has to,with me not,wanting children at all.

[thenewmrs_b]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I definitely have my days where the hormones are crazy. if you don'tmind me asking, why did yyou stop taking the medication if you were still feeling down? Honestly it could be nerves.. everyone reacts differently to the stress of being a mommy for the first time! Maybe you'll feel different once you hold that beautiful baby:-) and you can always talk to us here... sometimes you just need to get it out