Nurse making me feel Uncomfortable

[Christon1]

So I'm almost finished with my pregnancy and right at 8 months pregnant. My weight has been good during my entire pregnancy, but I've noticed these last few months I've been gaining weight and I'm right at 28lbs total weight gain for my pregnancy and everytime I get this certain nurse she always makes a comment about weight gain and tells me I need to watch what I'm eating. My doctor nor any of the other nurses have mentioned this before but she always managed to mention my weight. My baby is measuring right on weight and they tell me everything is going well. Am I reading too much into this one nurse or is she being rude?

[lousie_1986]

Nothing wrong her mentioning it if she thinks it's an issue and you are above average on her charts, it's just a health professional making sure you know what's going on. Advising you to cut down on eating probably isn't her place though, because diet is such a varying, dependent, holistic issue that you can't just look at a chart and suggest that someone eats less and expect that to fix everything. So if you feel healthy and your doctor sees nothing wrong with it I think you should politely let her know that your doctor is well aware, considers you very healthy and doesn't think you need to watch what you eat.

I put on 40 to 50lbs every pregnancy and lose it all within 4 months of birth. 28 seems pretty mild to me, and if you weren't overweight to begin with, absolutely seems like nothing to worry about!

[TuesdayRockOut]

I think each health care provider has a right to each of their own opinion and its up to you to listen to them all and come to your conclusion.  It might not be what you want to hear sometimes but I'd rather have that then someone who holds back their opinion.  It sounds like you have come to a reasonable conclusion on your own already do don't take the nurse's comments so personally.  Her approach might not be the best but think of the intention behind it.  I agree with the other poster to ask your main doc if he/she would agree and maybe provide some feedback to the doc about the nurses approach and how it impacts you.  The doc may choose to have a follow up convo with the nurse if they work well as a team.  Good luck!

[susamor]

I don't think it's the nurse's place to make a comment about your weight. I would write a complaint and give it to the superviser after speaking to doctor about it also. I don't think it's normal for nurses to say something and make you feel bad about it.

[AnnieBrooke]

I don't think gaining 28 lbs. by the eighth month is that serious of an issue, unless, of course, you were already overweight to begin with, or if your blood pressure rises a lot.  Definitely ask your doctor.

[phenana]

I think alot of times we need that jerk in our lives, hardly anyone will tell a pregnant woman they're gaining too much or looking too fat and it isn't doing anyone any favours. When you struggle to get it off you'll wish someone had pulled you aside and said hey you're getting a bit big how's your eating? Every pregnancy nobody has said anything to me about it, and every time I look back at preg pics I think what kind of friends didn't say anything?! Too much weight gain is unhealthy but its taboo to tell a pregnant person they're getting fat so even drs won't do it lol

[dasart13]

I've only gained ab 35 this pregnancy, whereas with my first I gained 50. Granted I was extremely underweight when I got pregnant with my first, but either way nothing was/has ever been said to me either time.

[haydenava85]

I gained a lot with my daughter. My Dr never said a word but this certain fill-in nurse practitioner sure had plenty to say. I was so mad, still am because a year later I lost it all and more. The dr that delivered my baby was the on call Dr (not my normal dr) and when I saw her after I had my daughter, for my 1 month check up, she told me I only lost 16 lbs and we really like to see at least 25 lbs by now... she definitely weighed more than me. Imo, both these woman were being highly insensitive and rude. I'm pregnant now, at a different clinic. I know I have gained a bit too much weight already at 29 weeks and I'm scared by the end of this I will have gained a lot. My clinic is all women staff with a mix of midwives, nurses and Dr's so they rotate me so I have a chance to meet everyone... not one person has mentioned my weight gain. They all just say oh it's not too bad (when I voice concern). I would say something if you have the guts too. I regret not doing so lol.

[mags242001]

I think she is trying to give u good advise. Your the one that will have to deal with the gain after the baby maybe she is trying to help u. U have gained quite a bit of weight n if u keep doing that the delivery will be harder for u..she is trying to look out for u. Some doc don't mention anything cuz they don't care how much u gain cuz they don't have to deal with it. I gained 17 lbs last pregnancy n this is 11 total I'm 7 months. Try to just see it from that angle.

[Christon1]

Thank you ladies!

[Mimilove3]

The good thing is that usually our doctors nurses aren't the one's there when we deliver feeewwww! But next time u have her say something like " don't worry to much becuase my doctor said me and baby are right were u should be" u can also ask to get another nurse and they need to respect that. Good luck oh and dont worry to much I've  gained a little more that u have and my doctor said we are both healthy. And thats the important thing! Gaining 25-35lbs is what my doctor says is good :)

[AnnieBrooke]

I wouldn't bother to say anything to the nurse, I would say something to the doctor.  Pretend innocence -- "Nurse Jerk always tells me to watch my weight, every time, though I am weighing just fine.  Do you think I should be watching it?  You have never said anything, nor have any of the other nurses."  Hope the doctor reads the nurse the riot act.

[dasart13]

Well damn. You're nicer than me bc I would have already told her to kiss my ***.

[Rissahanshew]

She's being very rude I would confront her about it.