Father to sign his rights over

[keaij]

I let my ex know that when I have the baby, that as long as he signs his rights over, I wont ask him for anything. ( child support, diapers etc) He refuses to answer when I say that and he stops talking completely.

Is there a way his rights can be taken from him so I dont have to deal with him ? I dont get why he doesnt answer when we dont get along anymore and he knows I can care for my baby alone.

[Bigapplefamily]

Oh and my ex is not on her birth certificate but that alone does not negate his parental rights. The abandonment however, does.

[Bigapplefamily]

If he never attempts to see the child after a period of time it is considered abandonment and they no longer need him to sign his rights away. They will take them away. I'm going through this now with my first daughters father who never met her. My husband wants to adopt her and we do not need my ex'a signature to do it. My affidavit that he has not tried to be in her life is enough after all this time.

[CaRiLYNN91]

Don't put him on the birth certificate.  Boom, no rights legally.  

[natnat_86]

Say you dont know who the father is

[originalgommers]

Your baby has the right to know who his/her father is. Denying the ex rights will just turn your child against you in the future as your being selfish in this decision. Grin and bear him and try to be civil. I know its hard, i cant stand my step childs mother but for the sake of his happy life i just make nice and pull my hair out later. When he is older he will have happy memories of his parents acting as one instead of negative ones. Remember the baby will suffer more than you if you get your way x

[mckaylas_momma1018]

Nope... he has equal rights to the child whether you want him to or not... he may want to turn and run... but chances are if he is a little bit older he will want to be in his child's life... and from what it sounds like his lack of communication when you bring it up sounds like he is not into the whole signing away rights.... even if he does sign away rights. .. if you file for government assistance they will make you go to child support enforcement regardless of his parental rights... it takes 2 to make a baby and 2 to support a baby- both emotionally and financially

[keaij]

Thanks for your insight, my baby wasnt planned I decided to keep her and I dont fight around kids :-)

[KieaRai]

Well that's the way it works... sorry :(
It took of you to make it and both of you have equal rights to the baby. Denying him just bc you two don't like each other isn't right. If he was unfit to be a father and abused the child I could see wanting to cut him off and the courts would help you then but not being compatible with eah other is a personal issue that you'll have to compromise on.
He has rights as a father. Having kids is great but there's a reason it's suggested you try to plan births with your spouse. Bf and gf is a temporary thing... shouldn't have had a kid with him if you weren't prepared for this possibility.  Not trying to be rude but this isn't the type of thing people should be coddled on either. If he won't sign over rights youre going to have to learn to play nice and not drag your child into the middle of your fight.

[keaij]

:-( I hate this

[KieaRai]

No. He has to sign them over willingly. If he still refuses to pay child support they may limit his visitations until he pays but that depends on the state. If he doesn't sign his rights away then he has to pay child support... there's no ifs ands or buts about that if he wants to be labeled as the father. If he doesn't want to be on the birth certificate you can get in trouble for lying though.... so he either pays child support and you have to deal with him in your life or he has to sign his rights away willingly. You can't have both.