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surrogate mommy
So my one girlfriend is having a hard time getting pregnant because she has cysts that don't let her carry a baby. I've offered to carry her baby once I'm done with my pregnancy. She didnt say that was the route she wanted to go in, i was just throwing it out there for her. Did I do the right thing?
That's nice of you because not many can do that, i know i couldn't. I think I'd get attached to the baby and wouldn't want to give it up.
I think it's a wonderful offer but maybe one made in haste? Some don't have a problem with that but others can't handle carrying another child and then seeing with someone else for the rest of their lives. Not only that but you might have made her feel a tad incompetent as a woman depending on the way you worded it. I was told I'd never have kids before I finally got pregnant and my best friend offered to be a surrogate. I appreciated it and loved her even more for the offer but at the same time I couldn't stop crying because I felt like such a failure that I would have to count on my friend just to get a baby. I turned her down because in my mind it would have been too painful to watch her go through everything I wanted.
You didn't do a bad thing at all. You offered out of love and that's what matters but I would sit down with her and see if she'll talk about it. Maybe there are other options she wants to try that will keep you in the supportive best friend role rather than making you into something more?
You didn't do a bad thing at all. You offered out of love and that's what matters but I would sit down with her and see if she'll talk about it. Maybe there are other options she wants to try that will keep you in the supportive best friend role rather than making you into something more?
Yes you did and that was nice of you.
How old is she? Maybe give her some time to think it over. You are a great friend for offering! I was ttc for 8 yrs before i got pregnant. My sister offered to carry my child if i was unsuccessful after 10 yrs. I'm 32.
That's really considerate so I would think its tg e right thing. She may be hoping she will be able to carry her baby but if she cant she is lucky your willing. You mentioned it I would let her think it over and yall should talk about it.
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