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How to accept gay pride gift...?
My sister-in-law is gay and has a g/f who has a 2 year old son. She told my husband and me that she is going to get us a baby tee-shirt that says 'I love my gay aunt!' We both accept and support her lifestyle, but we don't believe she should be allowed to use our baby as her gay pride poster child. She and her g/f don't wear gay pride clothes nor make their toddler. I need help on addressing this issue when she decides to give us the gay pride babywear. I don't want my baby's picture on FB in the tee either.
I absolutely agree with you GeekMom!!
My son wore a shirt when he was little that said "My uncle is awesome... and single!" Same thing. Same same same. If you don't think it's the same thing you have more issues with your SIL than you realize. A T-shirt, one of dozens that your baby will grow out of almost immediately, doesn't make your kid the "poster child" for anything. My son also wore a romper emblazoned with the logo for Magic Hat, the brewery my sister works for, even though I personally don't drink. Does that mean I want my kid to be an alcoholic? No, it means I appreciated my sister's gift of a cute outfit that my little guy could crawl around in and spit up on.
Not every piece of clothing is remembered forever. Not every outfit is cause for careful consideration about what someone else might think. Not every moment is photographed and catalogued and on display forever. It's just a shirt. It's not some enormously profound social statement. Say thank you, be gracious, and use it. Your baby will grow out of it in no time and you'll never have to think about it again. If you make a bigger deal out of it than it's worth you may do serious damage to the relationship and highly regret it in the future. It's not a big deal - don't make it one.
Not every piece of clothing is remembered forever. Not every outfit is cause for careful consideration about what someone else might think. Not every moment is photographed and catalogued and on display forever. It's just a shirt. It's not some enormously profound social statement. Say thank you, be gracious, and use it. Your baby will grow out of it in no time and you'll never have to think about it again. If you make a bigger deal out of it than it's worth you may do serious damage to the relationship and highly regret it in the future. It's not a big deal - don't make it one.
And I agree with aw219 it's just not necessary anymore but hey a joke is a joke
It just sounds like a bit of fun maybe your taking it a tad vit seriously? Im sure your baby won't look back at the pic in 16 years and say 'how could you' lol.
We shud not discuss about our principes just to plaid to others..nothing simpler and clear than :NO!
I am pro lbgt but just think it's weird to identify yourself that way through your new niece! What does it matter if you like men, women, or your hand? She will always love her aunt. I have 3 gay uncles and never had to wear a shirt advertising they are gay and they know I am proud of them and love them.
Give her kid a shirt that says "I love my straight aunt!" Or "my auntie is into s&m!"
Ok that's a bit far, but it made me laugh.
I'm sorry. I am super pro gay, just wouldn't expect my family to advertise my sexual preferences on their baby.
Just take it and maybe put it in a little frame or something.
Ok that's a bit far, but it made me laugh.
I'm sorry. I am super pro gay, just wouldn't expect my family to advertise my sexual preferences on their baby.
Just take it and maybe put it in a little frame or something.
I disagree that the original poster should tell the giver that she does not want a t-shirt that says "I love my gay aunt" but would accept one that says "I love my aunt." That would be the same as saying you have a problem with them being gay, or would sound like that to the giver, anyway. I am not big on babies wearing message tees (not even ones that say "Daddy's Rock Star") no matter what the message, since clearly the baby didn't pick it out. It seems like it's all about adults using their baby as a prop for something they themselves think is funny.
That said, you do get them sometimes as gifts, and then it becomes a matter of what you do tactfully with a gift that is not to your taste. My sister is a firefighter, and she sent my son a firefighting-emblem onesie. I took a photo of him in it sitting with his toy fire truck and mailed it to her. He never wore it again, but she didn't know that. This was not because I had anything against Maltese crosses, but because the quality of the tee was rather thin, and it didn't fit too well, and he had a lot of other clothes.
You might be jumping too far ahead on this if you think a picture of your baby on Facebook in the tee is being planned, but if so, so what? Is your baby as recognizable as George Clooney already? YOU certainly don't have to post the photo on Facebook.
Anyway, thank the giver and make the gift go the way of all unwanted gifts, after taking a photo of the baby in it if you think it will make the giver happy. Can't tell you how many ugly corsages I have graciously worn to parties over the years in order to make the giver happy.
That said, you do get them sometimes as gifts, and then it becomes a matter of what you do tactfully with a gift that is not to your taste. My sister is a firefighter, and she sent my son a firefighting-emblem onesie. I took a photo of him in it sitting with his toy fire truck and mailed it to her. He never wore it again, but she didn't know that. This was not because I had anything against Maltese crosses, but because the quality of the tee was rather thin, and it didn't fit too well, and he had a lot of other clothes.
You might be jumping too far ahead on this if you think a picture of your baby on Facebook in the tee is being planned, but if so, so what? Is your baby as recognizable as George Clooney already? YOU certainly don't have to post the photo on Facebook.
Anyway, thank the giver and make the gift go the way of all unwanted gifts, after taking a photo of the baby in it if you think it will make the giver happy. Can't tell you how many ugly corsages I have graciously worn to parties over the years in order to make the giver happy.
Omg that's such a cute gift! I understand your concern though (and I'm a huge lgbt supportee). I think it was more of a novelty thing. Something your baby can wear to a family outing but not like a serious outfit. Even the "grandma let's me get away with everything" type slogan shirts are kind of eh....no one expects the baby to wear it all the time, but maybe just once to show face will be enough? I think you should just explain to her (if she asks why your baby isn't wearing it) is that although you love and support her, you just didn't feel comfortable having your baby wear something like that. Offer that if she wants to buy you a "I heart my aunt" top, that'd be really nice and you'd love it if your baby wore it!
Do what you would do if she gave you a plaid polyester shirt for the baby. Thank her sweetly and set it aside.
Just say thx and never put it on.
Does she expect your baby to wear it ? Maybe its just more of a novelty?
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