VENT Grrrr

[eveesp]

I'm so frustrated right now and i just need to get this off my chest. Not pregnancy related but man oh man this baby makes me have some fire in my eyes!!
My husband works at his mother's restaurant and is there 6 days a damn wk!! Sunday is the ONLY day he has off. Yes he has a sister who can help out, no she doesn't. Tomorrow his mother, father, brother (visiting), and niece are going to MN to go to the mall, we live in IL. Did we get an invite? No! When i asked him mom why, she said that he needs to work, i then told her well my husband would like a day off to go somewhere. She told me we could go on our own, another words not with them. This just ticked me off, she treats him like crap and works him like a darn dog. He gets NO benefits from working there, NO paid vacation and 1 day off, it's BS if you ask me!! I'm just so p'd off,i can't stand my mil right now and want to tell her off. I just had to vent, it's late and i don't really have anyone to talk to. Thanks!

[eveesp]

Thank you everyone, i had a talk with the hubby last night and i expressed my feelings to him about the situation. He said that he is going to talk to her because she did hurt his feelings. I don't depend on her a lot, my baby goes to daycare and she watches her only once a wk for an hour. We have another baby due in Nov, but this baby will go to daycare with my daughter as well.

[LovinMama13]

Ultimately it seems as though the hubby needs to get a different job, or tell his mom he can only work P/T bc he picked up a second P/T job that allows him more flexibility. I understand the in-law thing. The best thing to do is network out in a different direction so you aren't dependent on family for company and recommend your hubby find a P/T job and only work P/T for his mom - which could make her fire him, but "familiarity breeds contempt", so finding fresh people for your lives can greatly benefit you. :)

[lalesley]

That ***** and i totally understand my inlaws live across the street!  Lately its been weird...my fil mowed the lawn and then got after my hubby about it. my hubs and i work 40+ a week...his dad is on disability and his mon doesnt have a real job she sews.  we have also been talking about my hubs going to part time to raise our son and mil doesnt like that either. grrr its not her kid!

[cristina3065]

Wow, I agree that is very frustrating. Unfortunately it's his responsibility to stand up and speak up to his mom. I have issues with my father in law but it's more along the lines of playing favorites with his kids and grandkids. I've voiced my opinion to my husband and he knows exactly how I feel. He also knows that if it were my dad he'd be getting cussed out but that's his dad and unfortunately it's not my job or my place to set him straight. I wish it was! So I feel ya on this, it is frustrating and makes you angry. Keep talking to him maybe he'll get the strength to have a good talk with his mom. Good luck! :)

[tomorrow264]

I can understand your frustration and would be upset to if my husband's family treated him that way. He needs to have a talk with him mom and stick up for himself. I know its hard to speak up to one's parents but he needs to because people treat you the way you let them.