Fortunately my labours with my 2 weren't horrible. The first was pretty well text book 5hrs second was transverse and wasnt picked up till Due date last midwife appointment. I had to stay in hospital cervix wasnt dialated at all so they had to use a ballon thing over night to stretch it. They turned bub through my belly at about 8:00am started the drip to induce contractions and than she was here at 12:45pm. I think the best thing you can possibly do is breath i used gas at first but it just made me feel sick and my face numb which isnt what i needed numbing so i was lucky enough to go drug free through both.
Oh, well. It's different for everyone. But there are some things that lots of women probably have in common. I always wondered if you really KNOW you are in labor. As in, I wondered if I'd not know and have the baby at home. LOL No, I think in general, most everyone KNOWS. It's undeniable this cyclic pressure, baring down, pain that you have. The contractions for me intensified as they got closer together. There was no mistaking it and we KNEW. Labor was not like in the movies either. LOL It is not glamorous and very messy! Blood and gook for sure. (I won't paint a picture, if you've been through labor, you know what I'm talking about). I had fantastic labor and deliver nurses though who cleaned up like it never happened, so fast that it was like it never did. they keep pads under you for that reason. It's not . . .deep breath . . . unusual to have a bowel movement during delivery. Hope your husband is out using the bathroom or something at that moment. LOL But again, the nurses immediately get rid of any evidence it every happened. I was in full pads for several days post delivery catching all the after blood. And I also didn't realize that you almost give birth for a second time removing the placenta. I was asked to push again.
So, there is just a tid bit of info. :>) luck to all