feeling depressed rant

[Prego87]

So I don't think I'm having a baby shower thrown for me.. I'm so sad and feel like I don't matter to anyone enough to do it. My mom offered to pay for it but wants me to find and get everything.. I'm on modified bed rest. Nobody has been by to even visit me except my mom and dad. So I feel like who am I suppose to invite let alone come. This is my 2nd child 7 years difference so I'm literally starting from scratch. My mom through my 1st baby shower for my 1st son and my husbands family never does anything for us, but always want to invite everyone they know with a million kids.I feel so  sad and hurt to see the lack of friend's and family support. Anyone else been through similar Experience?... Sorry for not making sense, I'm crying and could barely see the keys. Damn hormones!!

[Prego87]

Thank you everyone..  I feel like I can handle a small get together with no pressure of getting all the decorations. That also sounds good for a co-ed so my husband could be by my side for support. You ladies gave me great idea's, it really ***** to feel no one cares especially for your 1st baby. I'm sorry for those of you going through the same but admire your strength to carry on and do your own.. I would give you all big hugs. Bless you all and good luck.

[Schmalzy]

Yeah I am.. No one even offered to throw me a baby shower (I have two older sisters,  mom,  mom in law,  lots of friends and no one offered :() and its my first baby. Sometimes you can't rely on others.. I've noticed that in my life time So I decided to plan it myself.  I'm just gonna do it very simple. Have a BBQ in our back yard.  I know my family will come for sure and a few of my friends. . But probably not everyone I invite.  Oh well.. I always say the people who come are the people who matter. If I were you I would just invite close friends and family and have just a small get together.  That's what I'm going to do.  I was going to invite the guys to come as well but my husband doesn't think we can afford food for everyone so I'm just gonna keep it small and sweet. I hope everything goes good for you and you start feeling better about it.  :)

[AnnieBrooke]

My Italian sister-in-law says they never have a baby shower in advance of the baby's arrival, it would be considered bad luck.  They pile in when the baby comes and everyone brings presents.  Why not have a party after the baby arrives?  Your mom can pay any costs, and you will be up and around and able to manage the parts you can't do now on modified bedrest.  A welcome party for a second baby is quite appropriate, more adult in a way than the shower you had for your first one, in that it is not acting like you don't know what a baby is.  They're usually co-ed and usually a lot of fun.  

[MrsAmos]

Think positive !!!! Maybe everyone is just busy working. Think of it as me time! I love being alone at home. Call the ones who came to the last one or just not have it if your feeling down. Just have people bring your gifts to you.

[dandi2014]

oh sweetie, calm down and wipe those tears away. <3
I'm sure your friends and extended family will come if you invite them.
Not sure where you live or the culture you have, but many cultures love to celebrate a baby with a baby shower...
And even if it is just a small babyshower, view it as more intimate and personal? :)
I'm myself not having one by choice as I'm not brought up with babyshowers and it isn't really a part of my culture.
So even if you end up not having one, just think of it as not a necessary thing.
I'm not having one, many of my friends doesn't have one -and we turn out just fine :)
Just meet your friends up for coffee once the baby is born to show it off instead :)
it will be fine.