blah just need support.

[violet_roze]

Okay so I am just five weeks today, I am super high risk due to health issues. I have experienced nothing but exhaustion, a severe headache for three days and I am also a first time mom. We are moving in with my parents in July,  hubbys mom just passed away a tiny bit over a month ago and neither of us have had time to grieve for her. We are so thrilled to be having a baby I just don't know how I can handle taking care of myself let alone tc of my parents, who are both disabled and the housework once we are moved. I tried bringing it up to hubby he just says your not alone yet still has a list of expectations that are solely mine. I feel so alone.

[violet_roze]

Yeah i took care of my parents my entire life as an only child they became dependant on me. I only agreed to move back in with them bc hubby has told me it won't be that way where i have no identity outside of their caregiver i love my parents but 19 years of solely being known for being there kid i need/ed my own identity. I am in college now,  going to be a mom, i don't want to go back to the past.

[violet_roze]

My dad is supposed to have help coming out x2's a week from the VA, but they have not yet started, mom refuses help from anyone but my dad or me she is developmentally delayed so very leery of strangers. Hubby is quitting his job and will do all the cooking but expects me to do all the cleaning, i am also a full time college student im just scared.

[DirectGirl]

You are clearly a wonderful woman with a big heart. You are such a blessing to your husband and parents. Do what you can, and don't feel guilty about what stays undone.  You will have a month or so of feeling those symptoms, but hopefully they will lighten up quickly. Chin up. Also, ask for help if you can, and let others be a blessing to you. I'll say a little prayer for you.

[DirectGirl]

You are clearly a wonderful woman with a big heart. You are such a blessing to your husband and parents. Do what you can, and don't feel guilty about what stays undone.  You will have a month or so of feeling those symptoms, but hopefully they will lighten up quickly. Chin up. Also, ask for help if you can, and let others be a blessing to you. I'll say a little prayer for you.

[sprmom87]

Sorry to hear :( have you looked into seeing if there is any affordable assistance availible to help with the care of your parents, or even yourself? If you are in the states, health and human services might be able to provide possible resources to look into.