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[renechips]

Pre-pregnancy I never felt that I deserved the praise my husband gave me over my body. I was 5'3 and 118lbs in pretty decent shape. Once I reached my 2nd trimester I was so confident in my body and had never been so happy with it even with my stretch marks. My husband compliments me all the time and I accept what he says with gratitude. I'm 39 weeks pregnant now and felt sexy until last morning when I walked in on my husband watching porn. The night before I was practically begging him for sex but understood that he was tired. When I realized what he was doing last morning it shattered me. He hasn't watched porn in years. I'm scared for him to see my body now especially when I give birth. He's supposed to be my support during labor and birth but now I don't feel confident that I want him there. I've been trying to sleep all night but I keep having dreams of having an unassisted homebirth all alone because I don't want anyone to see me like that. I went from being happy and on top of the world to guilty over letting pregnancy change my body and no longer being desirable to my husband.

[pookie127]

God bless all of yall ! Without the good lord , we wouldnt be blessed with our beautiful babys.

[oct3014]

I agree knufrio! Not all ppl believe in God so to them it's not a sin or considered evil. I do believe but still dnt see it as horrible because like you said men will lust for women no matter how it's done. Sex is everywhere we turn so when it comes to explaining this type of things to children its unavoidable. Just like masturbation, children do it and dnt even realize what is happening they just know they get a certain reaction from their bodies they enjoy when it's done. So that's going to be a subject you also have to explain to children. Any type of sex will always catch the eye of both men and women it's just life and something we have to be comfortable with and even more comfortable with ourselves

[expecting6thbaby]

You are a moron I was not talking about masturbation I was talking about porn.  My sex drive is higher than any man's and about relationships I never wanted just one. I never wanted to get married and have kids that was my husband. Apparently you don't know much about being in a relationship.  Any woman that tries to justify a man watching porn dose not want to have to find ways to keep their guys satisfied.  My husband had an issue with porn not masturbation. He has no use for that I want to have sex more than he does and want sexual play more. He don't even have enough endurance for me much less to want it when I don't. His excuse for porn was that it was not fair that I was more sexually experienced than him. He feels like he missed out on something. My response to that was I never asked to be married or to be in a relationship with him or anybody else.  It's not natural it's a problem if he's not. Happy we can put a end to it. It also does not matter if other believe or not because as a family we do and I think the original poster does also and you can't support or help her with advise if you don't.

[knufrio]

Not everyone believes in god or the bible and honestly all men lust after other women whether its through porn or guy talk between them and their friends it happens and you must accept it. Porn doesn't drive men to cheat, nagging whining, overbearing wives drive men to cheat. A man's sexual drive is far different than a woman's. Men have it wired in them to spread their seed, it's simple evolution that the more offspring they have the more likely they are to pass their genes on successfully. Women on the other hand have always looked for protection from a mate and that's why we lean more towards monogamy. As for the arguememt about explaining it to your children? Masturbation is natural and children learn it at a very young age so if you are finding it hard to explain then I suggest you practice.

[expecting6thbaby]

I agree.. it don't help a relationship if you need that then your relationship needs help. I can do kinky and role playing but not porn.  They do it as teenagers because they do not have routine access to sex. Once married they have routine access and should no longer want it. It is not natural it is sin.  Lust is cheating in your heart and that is. How the bible states it. What kind of parent would bring or let someone else bring it into their house with a new baby or child. I have 5 girls and will not allow my children to be exposed.  I asked my husband if he could explain it to our girls and he looked at me like I was crazy. I told him if he can't explain it to our girls then keep it our of my house and if want that he can stay out to. To the most part things have gotten better but I am still making him get help and also US as a couple. If you can't include or explain it to your children it is not natural.

[tabs4life]

I agree with Pookie127. Porn is a gateway to other bad thiNgs. Cheating and way worse things.   Ladies don't let ur men become subject to the evil plans tht are just waiting to devour them.  Porn leads to other bad things and i would try to shut it down now.