Don't know what to do

[Amanda4388]

hi I'm due in five weeks and I was just wondering if any other ladies had their mum and partner in with them when they gave birth I've told my mum she is coming in with me and my partner she's over the moon with it, but I sort of changes my mind I think it will be nice just me and my partner and my mums a heavy smoker so I don't want her going back and for all the time, I really don't know what do you help please !!!

[TylersMommy022415]

I'm having my mom and husband in the delivery room with me. I think that I need the support from both of them in order for me to feel like I can do it. Also I think I'll be more comfortable

[Cass_plus_one]

Was just me and my husband and I really cherish that we shared just this together the two of us I think it has made our relationship so much better in just him seeing the true strength that having a child the entire process Ray from start to finish I think maybe having your mom there he may not get to play the role that he should play and if your mom is a smoker and you're concerned about her going out for a smoke or smelling like smoke because that might bother you . you might be bother by the smell

[kylir]

Personally i think it a a moment between you and your husband and no one else should be in the room but the doctors.. if you changed your mind just tell her she might understand she might not but its only the one time that you and your husband can share together she can come in after..

[jessi_te]

I had my mom and cousin in there with me the first time. My second dad didn't want to be in there so it was just me and my mom. She got to cut the umbilical cord. She loved that. She's like really you want me to. She smokes to. But she didn't smoke at all at the hospital

[momMaggie]

I just had my husband.  My mom asked me several times if she could be there, but I wasn't comfortable with it so I just kept telling her that. But my mom is kind of pushy and I felt like she would try to fight me on doing what I wanted especially if I chose an epidural and she would have irritated me in general.  I didn't call anyone when we went to the hospital because I was afraid she would just show up and come in or that my in laws would. I know she was disappointed, but she got over it and it never created a fight or argument. Also, I told everyone who came to the hospital to visit who smokes that they had to have clean clothes and a shower and not smoke before holding the baby. So if you want her there just ask her not to leave while you're in delivery. If it doesn't bother you she could smoke before and after just tell her you don't want her leaving during.

[kitcat2015]

I'm only going to allow my husband.  They only allow two additional people in the delivery room.  I don't want to deal with my mom or my MIL because it adds more pressure to an already stressful situation.  They will drive me insane.

[tastiizombii]

I had my mom and my grandma in the room for my first two. I don't know who will be in the room with me other then my hubby this time. Our first together.

[Amanda4388]

I think I am going to have her with me, cos she's my mum and I would want her their I was just wondering how many women didn't have their mums their

[hunterdee]

I had my mother inlaw in the room cause my mum couldnt make it, she is a smoker
she didnt leave once during or after to go out side for a smoke she waited till she went home.
if u feel really strongly about it tell her  
otherwise she wont know.

[lovinmyboys28]

Yes I had my mom and my sons father in the room with me at my sons birth and mom also smokes. I enjoy having them in there for support. I'm not sure why ur thinking of changing ur mind.