lost sex drive and advice

[connorsmommy112011]

Ive lost mynsex drive. We haven't had sex since I was 6 weeks along and I'm 23 now. Husband is starting tonact like an ******* towards me. Treating me like ****, snide remarks, stereotypical douchbag comments about "get in the kitchen" "why isn't this made" etc... Why would I want to have sex with you if you're treating me that way? Hes rude, unappreciative, inconsiderate. I clean all day everyday after myself and my toddler and hr comes home from work and shrows his **** around leaving more mess. My sciatic nerve pain is so severe and paralyzing and he just doesn't understand it. I dont complain about it often because I can't do anything about it. Ive talked to my midwife about it and she said stay off it, baths. Sleep. But obviously I can't all the time I have a toddler to chase and no one to help me. I'm not being a stereotypical lazy navy wife, why is he all of a sudden acting like a stereotypical ******* sailor? Should I just boink him and get it over with? Being TOUCHED makes my skin crawl. To the point of gagging. I was the same way when I was pregnant with my son. Please tell me I'm not the only one going through this.

[Veronica555]

Id suggest being intimate in other ways. Im sure he misses you in that way but doesnt know how to deal with it. He cant control that your no longer attracted to him currently because of how you feel. Put yourself in his position, it probably hurts, and he probably just feels like hes losing his woman. Id say givr him a ** lol. Just one day rip his pants off and blow him. Then just go about your duties

[ReneeM1987]

Don't worry you aren't the only one. I haven't had sex since i was about three weeks and this week I'll be seventeen. I don't want to be touched! Haha

[TimTamDownUnder]

Have you tried being intimate without actually having sex? If youre in pain when you have sex what about other things like oral sex or just using hands? It doesnt always have to be penetration. Im not trying to stick up for him or his nasty behavior,  but he is probably just sexually frustrated and being a male, he has no idea how to express himself and probably has no idea how hurtful his comments can be, especially to a hormonal pregnant woman!! My advice is to find a babysitter and go on a date night... it may be all you both need to start things in the right direction again :)

[Amy1830]

I definitely would not have sex with him. Sex should be wanted equally by both of you. And if you gave in and just laid there and he was able to get off like that then something would be wrong with him. Besides, if he is being mean to you then he definitely doesn't deserve to be intimate with you.

[fenxy]

I'm the same I havent had a sex drive through my whole pregnancy so far I'm 32weeks. I have been diagnosed with spd it is so painful sex is painful no matter what position we do. Unlike u my partner has been supportive but still trys it on, I feel really bad because we were everyday without fail before I became pregnant. I think you need to speak to your man and tell him he needs to treat you with respect after all you are carrying his child. I wouldn't give in to him it will be like rewarding bad behavior. He needs to realize that putting on baby weight makes u feel unattractive and carrying a baby is the hardest thing in the world. You deserve better dont put up with it hun x