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Please help I'm. outta ideas
Hey ladies I hope ur all well, my sister is due 8 weeks before me and this question is about her, me and her fiance r worried about her drinking, she is about 28 weeks and likes to go out for drinks with the girls from her work, which is fine but this is a weekly thing, she already says she has a can or two at home after work some days buy she sometimes hides it from her fiance because she says she knows he'll moan, he's completely besotted with her but what ever he says or does is 'wrong', ok he worries too much about little things regarding there daughter like having a cup of tea because of caffeine n stuff but this I can understand his worry, she won't listen to any of us cos she says that she knows people that drank when pregant n the baby's fine but is it worth the risk cos it's not just one she has, she can't just have 'one' it'll b 2 or 3 cans of lager as far as we know n that's prob 3 x a week, he's trying me all d time worrying about it n stuff but im outta ideas what to do cos ok it's nothing t do with me but I do think she drinks too much n she doesn't see that it can harm her baby, any suggestions would b a great help, sorry it's so long
She sounds more like a dependence than an addiction. They are different. However if she just seems reckless than yes you need to take action. I still think she should see a therapist because she almost seems as if she's afraid to let go of the life she had (drinking with friends, partying, etc.) If this is her first child its gonna be a huge change and she might have difficulty adjusting to it
I see what your saying, she doesn't want to harm her baby, but at the same time that's what she's doing but she doesn't see that? Hm, the only way is if you talk to her doctor & have her doctor tell her wha her risks are. If she's honest with her doctor they won't take her baby away. But if you do not tell your doctor & they find out she's been drinking it's going to be tough, sometimes they take test without you knowing & see if you will tell the truth
I don't think she is addicted to it because she can go without if she really wants to (she doesn't withdraw) she just doesn't think that f as will happen to her she thinks lil lexi will b fine cos of the others she knows that have drank and kids r fine, she loves kids I just think she's being ignorant because she thinks it will all be fine! Do you see what I'm saying?
You may have personal experience with meth but alcohol is different. Not all addictions are the same. I know it seems like alcohol is a less lethal substance than other drugs but its also the only thing that you cannot withdrawal from without close supervision (for addiction not dependence) because it will kill you. I know that seems hard to believe and like I'm making excuses but I'm very familiar with the psychology that goes along with addiction and what she needs is help. She should see a therapist or be enrolled in a program to help with her problem
Help? You can't help a person who doesn't want to be help, I was addicted to meth for 6 months, and quit when I was pregnant, yes I relapased once when I was pregnant, I hate to say it but I don't deserve my baby either if I put my baby through that. But I helped myself because of I wanted my child, don't talk about how a person with an addiction have no control over their actions because that isn't true. I knew what I was doing, and I knew I had to stop.
I have been trying to keep out, it's not my business I'd never tell anyone how to bring there child up but she just doesn't stop and that is my sister! Her fiance just said she drinks non alcoholic beer everynight n then goes to the pub every week, he says it's the act of drinking she is hooked on and if he tries to talk t her she just turns on him! She said she's not breast feeding when lil ones born cos she'd quite like a drink!
I agree MommyToBe_01! Its very sad for the baby
MommyToBe_01 she needs help... Having her child taken away isn't the right place to start. People with alcohol issues really don't have control over their actions. She needs help so she can stop drinking. I know it sounds like an excuse but its true. Addiction and dependence aren't to be taken lightly and just telling them to atop won't work. For them alcohol isn't a want, its a physical need just like water is to the rest of us.
Yer i think we all need t sir down n have a chat, I don't know exactly how much she drinks but her fiance practically begs her t stop n she jus says itll b fine n dat d more u tell her not t do somat the more she'll do it! I think she thinks cos she works in a nursery (and is very good at her job) that she knows everything about kids but we and lol know that's not the case! I don't want to report her or anything cos I know she doesn't want to harm her unborn but I think it's a case of her thinking it will b fine and that f as won't happen to her! I'm thinking of a scare tactic any ideas?
How can she say "she doesn't want to harm her unborn baby" that's exactly what she is doing.
That is not right, I know she's your sister but she is also wrong, and you're wrong if you think she's not trying to harm her un born. I think if you rrally cared and wanted help for your sister you would talk to her doctor, and cps so she can have her child taken away after birth. This is horrible.
That is not right, I know she's your sister but she is also wrong, and you're wrong if you think she's not trying to harm her un born. I think if you rrally cared and wanted help for your sister you would talk to her doctor, and cps so she can have her child taken away after birth. This is horrible.
Yer i think we all need t sir down n have a chat, I don't know exactly how much she drinks but her fiance practically begs her t stop n she jus says itll b fine n dat d more u tell her not t do somat the more she'll do it! I think she thinks cos she works in a nursery (and is very good at her job) that she knows everything about kids but we and lol know that's not the case! I don't want to report her or anything cos I know she doesn't want to harm her unborn but I think it's a case of her thinking it will b fine and that f as won't happen to her! I'm thinking of a scare tactic any ideas?
I'd say the best thing would be get everyone together to talk to her so she can get help. The fact that she's hiding it is a sign of alcohol dependence, which is very difficult to stop on ones own and usually requires the assistance of a therapist and occasionally meds. The more you grill her about the side effects, what she might be doing to the baby, and FAS the more shell probably try to hide it.
Good idea ^^^. Certain states are starting to charge women when they abuse drugs while pregnant. I wonder if alcohol is included.
That's so sad :(. I don't really have any suggestions for you that I think would work, sorry. Maybe watch a video together all about children with fetal alcohol syndrome? Does she truly think alcohol doesn't affect her baby??
Call cps. That is awful! She needs help to stop. He needs yo be pro active and get someone else involved. If she gets angry so be it, that baby can't say NO so someone has to
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