is any on carrying a military baby?

[mandyleighb89]

I keep telling my bf that I'm horrified about him missing the birth. He missed his first son's birth due to deployment . Although he'll be in the states for the birth, he'll be in school. He said it can take up to two days for him to leave after he gets told I'm in labor.
I decided to move in with his mom threw out his schooling. So I'm not completely alone.
My question is how do I deal with feeling guilty that he's not able to see the birth?

[jsun1739]

My husband has his pre mob that is three weeks long a month before I am due.  He then will leave within a month of finishing. So there is a strong chance that he will not be home right when I go ino labor. It stresses me out but it is the military life.

[mandyleighb89]

Do you think the hospital would allow it to be filmed?

[laurrren]

My husband is in the military and has missed two births, the second by just 12 hours thanks to his school. Three 8 month deployments and many months of school later, we are pregnant with number three. I wouldn't change anything about our experiences. It was rough at the time (delivering without him), but I am incredibly stronger because of this! And he is doing such amazing work, I am so proud of him. Our lives are so much better because of his career. I know it's easier said than done, but just try to keep a positive mind about it. Unfortunately, the majority of military spouses have dealt with the father missing a birth or two. It's just another sacrifice we make as a military family! Good luck :)

[thenewmrs_b]

I'm in a similar spot with my husband... He travels a lot and his job has been more than great to us over the years buy he travels a lot and has s trip he can't really miss coming up and I'm petrified he won't make it back for the birth if I go into labor. Being a military wife, my mom told me that yes it ***** but there is always new technology like Skype. Its not the same but its better than nothing. Hang in there and know that you're not alone

[Maleka87]

I don't think you should feel guilt..  it is what it is. He's got a career, and is furthering his education so he can best care for his little family. That's no one's fault.... I'm just saying don't burden yourself with unnecessary guilt. Try to think of someone who could coach you through birth,  someone who makes you feel safe...and who you trust. They could sub for Dad until he can be there. Don't stress yet. ...it may not happen :)