single teen mothers

[bingo9518]

any of you ladys a single teen mothers advice , its hard for me because all my baby father does spend his money drink smokes and says we are going to be together and fix things and nothing happens idk what to do thou he lives with me and my parents I wish I can kick him out but I am a very quiet person and dont even have the balls to , I am loney because I don't have friends I can't work thou I dont get money from him ?? advice ladys I tell him to stop messing with my head if he wants to do his one things then why cant he tell him instead of telling all lies

[NikkiPrego]

I had my 1st 2 weeks after my 18th birthday. Her dad was just like that. Get him out of there. You think hes bad now? Wait till that baby comes. The stress of the new baby, the arguing, next thing you know hes hitting you and endagering your child. It doesnt get better. If you honestly want things to work, which I've been there too, give him an ultimatum. 30 days to get a job and get himself together or hes out and paying child support. Then if and when he fails to do the requirements,  its on his head not yours.  You cant feel bad if he had the chance but didnt care about you enough to get it done.

[Brianamz97]

I'm not sure if this will help. I'm going to be a teen mother. I'm 28 weeks and my boyfriend is also in the picture. Things got rough a few months ago and he was sneaking around. I finally told him that he needs to step up and be the man that my baby and I need in our lives. I told him that if he wants to stay then he needs to fix things and prove to me that we are his focus and priority. Since then, he's been more than faithful and loving. Its taken many talks and may take more situations of me not trusting him. We also attend a Christian pregnancy center and get parenting classes. I would talk to your guy and see what he really wants. Expect the worst, but prepare yourself if you find out that he doesn't want to be in your baby's life. If that's the case, the your better off. You need a wonderful life for your baby, not one with a careless dad. I'll keep u in my prayers(:

[mommy_twobabies]

If he wants to be with you like he says then he'd be working to provide for you and your child. Being a single mom is work but that baby makes it all worth while. They will love you now matter what. They come first. Don't stress yourself out

[bingo9518]

thank you lady's its very helpful.

[ReddBaron1373]

I agree with the previous comments, kick him to the curb. He is acting like a child and that is something you don't need, you will have a real child soon and don't need an "adult" around acting like a kid. Other than the uncalled for stress that he is giving you it's also the simple fact that you wouldn't want bad influences on your child. If you want him to be a part of your child's life then you need to tell him that he needs to grow up and act like an adult and treat you right and treat your unborn baby right so whenever it does come you guys will be ready to raise another human being right. Now he's acting like he needs mom and you are not his mom. You don't have time for that. Plus it sounds like he isn't doing anything for you and the baby. He lives with you and your parents, he spends his money on smoking when he needs to start providing for you and child. Your patents don't need another baby in the house, especially one that isn't theirs, I'm sure they love you amd your baby and don't mind to much to help take care of you and your baby, but not this lazy guy. You can do yourself, your parents, and unborn baby by kicking him out and see if he is even worth letting back in to your sight. I'm sorry this is happening to you right now. No one needs that stress but no one needs to experience a run-down human as a partner or a father. No kid needs that as a father. I hope you choose right for you AND your baby. You must do what is best for the future whether he wants to or not.

[KristiGG]

I agree.  I think you are just teaching him he can do what he wants.  If it was me I would kick him out, you aren't speaking for yourself but for your baby now.  Tell him he has to change and prove he has if he wants back in your life.  Then you need to grow a healthy baby and find a way to support the two of you without someone else's help.  As you see he isnt going to help you anyway.

[ntrinaculookin]

Baby it's time 4 u 2 grow up...u r about 2 b a mother of another human being...Open your mouth...I'm surprised your parents r allowing this behavior n their house...u can do bad by yourself...U have a lot 2 learn being so young & we all go thru it...word of advice put yo foot down & send him on his way

[jamiek63]

There is a forum specifically for a younger age group. I bet you can find advice or young ladies in the same situation as you in that forum :)