How to tell your mate. "I'm Pregnant"

[Suge0208]

FTM.....I've known for a week & this wasn't planned. We're extremely close yet still free to see other ppl since neither of us was ready for a relationship but now......I'm sitting here like "what now"???    Advice.

[shastas84]

I have to say to just be ready. And then when you sit him down, just treat it like a bandaid. You know how you just rip it off and be done. Just tell him and get it done. Then tell him you'll give him some time to process it all. But be ready for whatever his initial reaction may be. And be ready to answer any questions he might have.

[julz25]

Makes a lot of sense. I am in a similar situation. Just hope for the best and don't pressure him too much.

[Suge0208]

That's understandable. I guess I just want him along for the experience.  Makes sense?

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, it is not possible for a guy to be as involved as a pregnant woman is, so don't get your heart broken on that one.  You've got the baby with you 24/7, it is hard to match that level of involvement.

[Suge0208]

We're the best of friends & I'd hope he'd be just as involved as I am.  *fingers crossed*

[Suge0208]

He does know he's the only one I've been intimate w since we've met so that won't be a question. We've joked abt a baby, and living together,  and marriage sooooo.....but we all know it's funny until it's real life  Lol

[bbm1188]

Depending on what role you want him to play in this, it can be scary Im sure telling him. You should tell him asap and I would give him time to think and take this in. Guys can be fickle about this, some seem excited then as time goes on they end up not, Being ready  and then it can be the other opposite wherethey come around where they werent sure to begin with or excited. Just be prepared for anything since yall arent commited to eachother. Pregnancy can be rough on any kind of relationship so hang in there. Good luck :)

[AnnieBrooke]

The other thing is, if you are still free to see other people, you're going to have to specifically tell him he is the father.  You might as well get it out in the first sentence, "I found out this week that I am pregnant and you're the dad," or that will be his first question.  It can be insulting to be asked, so you're better off just saying so.

[tomorrow264]

That's tough. I guess just come out and tell him. Things like this my mom would say "prepare for the worst but hope for the best". I wouldn't wait too long to tell him because you don't want him to think you were trying to keep it from him.