overbearing mother

[bebe5709]

I am 28+3 with our first baby and my mother is very excited, like borderline crazy excited. I thought she was going to back off after the first couple trimesters went OK, but last week I was having some braxton-hicks contractions and she basically told me if I didn't spend the weekend in bed, then my baby wasn't my first priority. This weekend my hubby and I are dog sitting for his parents and both my mom and grandma are convinced I can't handle it. They went as far as to tell me I am not taking care of myself and it is going to affect my baby, which to me sounds like "you don't care about your baby." I have been so careful this past 7 months, following all the rules, sleeping more, working shorter hours, I don't get why my mom thinks I am doing something wrong. Just because she had a hard pregnancy doesn't mean I can't enjoy mine. Anyone else having similar issues? Or is my mom just psycho?

[whisper3rdbaby]

My mother also gets a little crazy. With my 1st pregnancy I lived close to her and she made me go to L&D for every little thing. Even now she tries telling me what to do and what not to do. That I'm not being responsible because I don't rush to doctor for every little discomfort. Drives me crazy but her craziness saved me from premature labor in my 1st because what I was sure I was normal BH and normal pressure turned out to be the start of premature labor. Good Luck! They do tend to forget every woman, pregnancy, and baby is different. Sometimes though listening and considering what they say can pay off just can't let them get you stressed and if ever you think there could be something to what they are saying never hurts to ask doctor.

[Jrob0530]

Mom is driving me nuts. She's constantly making excuses to stay at my place and all over what I eat etc.. She haven't missed 1 ultrasound appt & just pops up for Dr. visits.
I recently had some work done on my place and all I hear is don't lift this, you shouldn't be doing that it's driving me up a wall. This weekend I have plans with a friend to go to a Mothers of Multiples event and she spazzed acting like we have lunch plans. I invited her to come with us but she's laying on a guilt trip kind of thick so I agreed to be back in time for a late lunch. Recently i went by her place & her basement us baby palooza she said whatever you don't end up needing we can put in her nursery. WHAT?!? Ladies my Mothers lives over 1.5 hours away it's not like I frequent her home. My father suggest that I "don't argue with that kind of crazy" lol

[strongmomma14]

I agree w eubermom 100%. My mom has been overbearing also...not to the point of some of the other ladies posts but constantly telling me to eat more and then in the next sentence to be careful what I'm eating as I don't want to get too big. I have only gained 5 lbs and am almost 30 weeks. I know she is looking out for the 2 of us but I do find it kind of annoying at times. She is planning our baby shower and is also driving me crazy about what she wants etc. I'm just letting her have her field day with it...she has 1 other grandchild, who is 13 & a boy, so she is excited for a granddaughter and just to finally have another grandbaby. Best wishes to you all!

[uebermom]

If she's like that now, I don't imagine things will change once the baby is born. I'd set the boundaries now if I were you. Let her know that you love as nd appreciate her, that her insights are always welcome, but that its your turn to be the mom now. She already got her turn. :)

[KerisJane]

My mum is like an evil dictator,  she has told me im not going to find out the sex of my baby, any names I wish to call my baby she is telling me im not calling him/her that name or she is just going to call them something different as she is not having a 'designer baby'
a few times when she has been drunk she has told me that she is going to take my baby off me and things for no apparent reason..
my fiancé mum on the other hand doesn't even speak to me, hasn't seen my scans, doesn't ask my fiancé if we are okay or anything.
So one is overbearing and the other is neglectful!
there's just no happy medium.
good luck! X

[SamanthaGutierrez]

My mother.in.law dsnt let me do ANYTHING & shes Always telling me to eat aaah sooooo annoyingly fustrating

[rasharasha]

id say you r lucky enjoy every second ;-)

[canadiana]

I think they're both just excited and nervous. You hear all these things lately about what you can't do during pregnancy, fish is dangerous, smoking is dangerous, lifting is dangerous... and lots of it is relatively new stuff that your mother and grandmother didn't know about when they were pregnant. To them looking at that stuff they must be wondering how they managed to have healthy babies at all! I can see that it's really frustrating for you, and I hope they back off, but their smothering is most likely a flailing concern for your wellbeing. Remember too that not that long ago in their eyes you were a baby too. Your grandmother was probably the same with your mother when she was pregnant. Good luck! I wish I had a good answer to help you!

[newjulymommy]

My mom is crazy too! She upright n told me that no matter what i do in her eyes i will not be doing things right in her eyes ever  i was like uhhhh thanks?