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Do I have the right to not want my husbands mom in the room while I am givin birth but want my mother. She has not been able to experience her grandchildren being born. I take that back she has been to three births that were stillborn. But my husband says what she wants to be there to support me. Apart of me wants to say what support do you need. You experience no pain nothin of this pregnancy changed your body and you don't have to be spread wide open for the baby to come.
You should be able to have your mother there without your feeLing bad. My mother was there for my first and my mil was called after my son was born. While the baby is part of you and your husband it is still your body.
I feel at a loss. I would love for my mother to be there. But I don't want to make hubby mad, however I strongly feel like that's what the waiting room is for. If he needs support he can go out there an be with them I'm the one pushin an delivering I need the support,
My sister has had complications during all her pregnancies. An my mom was there for support of course.
I won't allow either mom in the delivery room. Only my husband. If he can't, then my sister. The moms can fuss all they want, but you really want someone in the room who won't drive you insane while you're in labor.
I said no with my daughter and this birth will be a no as well. My husband can't stand the sight of blood or medical procedures so he will not be joining either. My mom will most likely not be able to attend because she lives farther away and has had some medical issues come up so she no on that one. So my best friend of over twenty-eight years will be there when I have this c-section. And that is o.k. with me.
My boyfriend wants is mother in the delivery room as well but the hospital I'm delivering at only allows two people which will be him and my mother. Ask your husband, what kind of support would his mother be able to offer you as the person whose actually giving labor?
It's totally fine! I didn't want my mother in law there but I wanted my mom and hubby there. Now we have a 2 yr old so when I have these next babies my mother in law will watch my 2 yr old. :) I just told her in a way that wasn't offensive. I just said that this is my first time and I'm insecure and don't know what to expect and the more people.in there the more nervous I'll be. She understood
Don't feel bad I know my mother in law is just like that my brother in law re married and for Christmas she said that she could only put stalking up for her "real grand children" and that his stepdaughter was not blood so she didn't matter! I had my first by then and she is the only girl I have 3 nephews on my hubby's side they live in another state! But she cant drive 20 min for my daughter and she told me to make sure I go into labor when she can be there! Lmfao she's got real problems I laughed in her face and told my husband in front if her "well I guess she's on the don't call till after bailey is here list" voice ur opinions and later if or when u feel bad then u can but now I'd not the time for everyone else! Screw her if she doesn't want to be fair and loving to all!
She was there for 3 still births? I know it's none of
My business but that's such a deep loss i can't even imagine. How did that happen?
My business but that's such a deep loss i can't even imagine. How did that happen?
It's frustrating. I just want to scream. He doesn't understand. I already feel some type of way on how she is with my child over his niece and this baby. My first child is not his biological child. She doesn't do as much wit her he says they still got to get used to each other. I'm like well when she gets one grandchild shouldn't she get all of them. On Facebook you would think she only has one grandchild but I'm not supposed to feel some type of way. I'm sorry for ranting but I don't know what to do or how to say it. And labor is around the corner fingers crossed.
No mother in law in birthing room you will be uncomfortable and stressed. Mine was in the room for my first And she cooed him like a baby while I was in labor. I did it natural and did not want kids he did..I said he was crappy for asking me to go through that and she told me not to talk to him like that... like he was in labor...
We're choosing to have only my husband & the delivery team in the room with me-but that's mostly because both of our mothers have passed away. If they were alive, they would both be there with us. My stepmother was a little bit disappointed, but she understands.
Having my mom and husband in there!!
I'm only having my husband in the room for delivery. And before my sister is the only one other than my husband that is allowed. My mother stresses me out beyond anything else in this world and hubby's parents live too far away. And even so post-birth they won't be allowed in until we have had enough mommy/daddy/baby bonding.
You are aloud to have who you want in the room when ever if you only want your mom and hubby in birthing room then you just let the nurses and doctor know ahead of time and when it comes time too give birth they will kick everyone out
During my first pregnancy my mom was in the room....few months later I moved to texas. Few years later I had my second son while my mother in law was in the room only bc she worked at the same hospital he was delivered at and I was loopy from drugs lol. This time around I don't care who's there as long as they don't annoy me! You hve the right to decide who is in YOUR room! It's you and your partners baby...but you'll be doing all the work so they'll listen to you first! ;)
I believe I'm going to do the same it's my first child and I really just want it to be me and my fiancee. My co worker promised her 9year old that they could come visit me at the hospital but I don't think I want a school age children holding my newborn as I am a teacher and I know September is when the first bugs go around schools.
I wouldn't want my mother in law there its so uncomfortable. The only reason my mom was there was because I didn't care at that point and was drugged lol. But its personal so no on the mother in law
Ugh he doesn't need support in the room maybe waiting in the waiting room so he has someone to tell the good news too! My mother in law was there while I was in labor but her and my mother I asked to leave when I needed to push! U want who u want he really should have no say and u don't want 4 people in the room with u and the nurse and the doc and everyone waiting for the baby! That's alot of pressure!
It's your choice, you can make arrangements with the hospital and nurses that only people on your list can get in. Or you can set it up to where only people with a special code can get it....I'll be going in as completely private, so even if people call looking for me or show up, they will tell them no one by that name is here. And only the few I allow will be told that I'm there.
Yes you totally have a right. I know I wouldn't want my mother in law in the room. She's a great lady but I wouldn't be comfortable. I don't even know if I want my mom there. I told her if she stresses me out then she'll have to leave the room
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