stay at home moms....

[babysept2014]

Just curious as to how so many stay at home moms make it work!? Like does your husband or partner have a really really good paying job? Is there any things you do on the side? Tricks of the trade???
This is baby two for us and I've been home for about three months or so now due to a tough pregnancy this ho around. But we are really struggling. I don't know how so many people make it work.
My husband's been looking for a second job for s while now but no luck yet. We've used up all of our savings an have nothing left. I want to be home with my kids so much but I don't know we are going to survive this way.

[babysept2014]

Part of the problem is, if I were to find a job it wouldn't pay enough to cover daycare plus give us the extra we need to be okay. Plus I don't want my kids being raised by someone else, I want to enjoy that time! Plus be home to take care of everything here.  
I worked fulltime with our son until just like four months ago, I missed so much with him. I've explained all this to my husband more than once about how I feel an that it doesn't make sense for me to work just to pay a sitter.
He was very reluctant to finally agree to get another part time job to help meet our expense needs. He says he wants me to be home with the kids an all but doesn't want him to never be home with us. I understand that as well but its the only thing that makes the most sense for now. It wouldn't be forever!  But now that he's finally looking, no one will call back for job.

[lexus3232]

My husband handles now everything thank god he has a good job.. but it is hard sometimes he does whatever it takes so we r ok till im ready to work ..

[knufrio]

Right now for us its a matter of saving. I know we could afford for me to stay home but we still want to be saving a significant amount of money. Before I got pregnant we were on a pretty strict budget so we could save for a down payment on a house (we have a house already which we don't want to sell when we buy another so we can't count any equity we have in our current home). We live in NJ and homes are expensive. I will be going back to work at least part time after baby but another thing is once we are in a new home (probably in about two years) and we have another child, we would like to get an Au Pair, so its just more stuff to save for.

[uvamom2boys]

I have a home daycare so I can be home with our kids.  We are on baby #5 and I've been home for 6 years.  It's hard but we have paid off quite a but of debt and don't go without.  You will find a way, but it may mean changing your lifestyle.

[M0M3]

I used to work full time & when my husband got the job he has now, he told me he doesn't want me to work at all. I'm a stay a home mom now, have been since I got pregnant with this baby. I'm high risk and my doctor was against me working as well. My husband makes very good money so it's not a problem. I feel guilty sonetimes tho because I dont work but he'd rather ne at home with our children. He was raised that way. He doesn't believe I should work.

[elvendork]

The tipping point is does your job pay enough to cover the cost of childcare and still add extra income? If not, you might as well stay at home - if it doesn't drive you crazy

[27mommyoftwo]

I've been a stay at.home mom for almost 4 yrs. my hubby.is a carpenter and wintdr is alittle tough sometimes but we own our own house. My.inlaws gave.us a lets just say giant amount for a down payment as.our wedding gift. so our mortgage is.only 800. A month with the taxes.included. we also have tsn acres so we have.giant greenhouse Nd we grow all our own fruits n veggies so it saves.a lot of money. we also have goats sjeep and tons of chickens. we are in the.process of getting a farm name so we can sell all our stuff too which will help. hubby is also a beekeeper so he.makes really good money this time of the year. i know it isnt that easy for everyone though!! When this baby.I'm pregnant w now is in preschool i.plan on getting my real estate liscense its what.i really want go do.  good luck mommas!!!

[babysept2014]

Thanks much ladies. We've cut out about everything we can expense wise.. I will have to admit though we eat out more than we should just cause this pregnancy has been so rough, I either absolutely don't have the energy to cook or don't want a single thing we have so I won't eat... so to make sure the baby is getting what it needs we do get cheap takeout too often... bit that still doesn't make up the difference of what we need monthly so I need to find something I can do, just have no idea what!

[Jaci1024]

My husband is actually in the process of getting a promotion which will be double what he gets now which would be SOOOOO amazing.... But for now I cut coupons a lot, we don't really order out for food I cook a home cooked meal every night, we don't live beyond our means which is hard for some people to do. We don't go shopping everyday and buy things for our selves that are material items. We buy what we need. We have a 4 year old and I am due with our next and last baby which should be here in about 10 1/2 weeks. Also yard sales and thrift shops are great places for things you need for a quarter of the price. I do have my own little side business but it really only is during the summer which doesn't bring in that much money but it's a little extra so we can have a few extra BBQ's during the summer with family and friends. Good luck!!! Also I just want to point out I'm not saying that every month is perfect we do have some months where it is tough. YOU WILL SURVIVE!!!!

[KieaRai]

My hubby has a very good paying job but I honestly hate staying at home. He asked me to quit working because one of the kids I nannied for kept kicking me in my belly. I've never been without a job. I was a very independent person and have never had  to depend on someone else for money so it's a weird feeling since this is also my first child. I didn't have to work because he makes more than enough but I wanted to because I get bored easily and it's what I'm used to doing. So now I just try to make his day easier by keeping the house clean and dinner ready when he gets home. He's been putting in 16 hour days just to get extra time off so he can take a month off for the baby and not have to worry about money.

[knufrio]

Babysept2014 I'm very glad you posted this because I wondered the same thing. I don't want to be a stay at home mom but I only want to go back to work part time for a little while, partly because I want to finish up a second degree. My husband has a very high paying job in NYC and yet it still seems like it'd be difficult to manage all our bills, a child (including part time day care), and keep up our current lifestyle while still being able to put a good amount of money in our savings every month.

[rebeccaann11]

I'm a stay at home mom. my boyfriend has a great job. I hope everything works out for you guys hun.

[angelama14]

I'm staying at home now. My husband is in the military so its not the greatest pay, I worked at our other 2 duty stations but after we moved here I got pregnant while I was looking for a job, and I stress out easily so we decided it would be best for me to stay home while pregnant. Like some other ladies said, it's not always easy but we make it work. I go through our finances constantly to budget and make sure we have enough and then some.

[thenewmrs_b]

I've stayed home with my daughter for her 3 years and will cont. To stay home with her..  Like someone said we have our months where money is tight but I decided to start a side business making cakes to help off set the cost of baby #2... Are there any side talents like baking that you could do? A friend of mine loves animals and started a dog walking service

[luka_n_baby2]

My husband has a really good paying job, he is also one to pick up as many extra hours as possible. Works at least 70hours a week. We don't have the nicest things, get to eat out all the time or buy anything we want but my son is spoiled and we make it work. I use coupons on groceries and we wrote out a budget for the month. I also write down what we are eating every day for a month so I can get groceries and not buy random things. When you have to you make things work. Good luck!

[babysept2014]

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[babysept2014]

Thanks ladies. I've been trying to see what I can do to help but it seems to be an impossible task. Part of our problem I know is we're still paying on my car, that would help a lot but other than that there's not much we can give up. I don't want to have to go back to work but if he can't get another soon I'll have no choice :(

[mommybrandyozuna]

I stay at home with my 3 yr old daughter and now pregnant with daughter#2 I haven't worked in 3 yrs and we make it just fine its not always easy and there have been time we went with out the little and big things but now it's all ok my husband does have a really good job and does whatever it takes for us to be happy! This is our last baby though cause with 2 girls it will be hard! Our cars are paid for and we rent rite now but we just put a offer on a house and fingers crossed we get it our monthly payments will go down for formula and all the baby things we will need! We don't qualify for any assistance of any kind and have to pay 20% of all doc and hospital bills! We have just learned to make it work my daughter doesn't need day care but we do have her in competive cheer and that is were most of our "extra $" goes! It's hard in the beginning but I've seen every step every breath every laugh and been there for my daughter's first everything and that is priceless and can't wait to spend quality time with both my girls I love staying at home and no will not work until my girls r in school and the hubby just has to figure it out! Ur not alone!  I'm here if u ever want to talk!

[keaij]

Look for a work from home job. I know uhaul is always looking for people and I have a friend that does barnes and noble customer service from home.

[keaij]

I dont have a husband or partner I work from home doing my own business, so I leave for college thats and shoppimg etc.