stay at home moms

[cbreeziw]

Are there any ladies out there who are stay at home moms, I'm use to having a job, I road 2 buses and walking just to finish my medical assistant schooling for 8 months then riding a bike 2 miles to and from my externship for a month, I worked really hard to finish school, but it was really hard for me to get a job after I finished, then I got pregnant, the father pays for all the bills feeds and takes very good care of me, and money isn't an issue, but we agreed, (mostly my choice) I would be a stay at home mom. I have friends who are very supportive but have great jobs, and I'm starting to feel sad and useless, and my boyfriend is supportive in my choice to work or not to work, and I really want to stay home but now I feel like if I don't work I'm not doing as well as my friends. Any advice home mommies

[Mogpog]

Lucky4317, I know exactly how you feel. My commute is at least 1.5 hours one way,  and that's on a good say sometimes it can be 3 hours coming home because of traffic. This is our first child, and I stop working next week and will be staying home with her for foreseeable future. My commute length and trying to find child care partway between my work and my husband's was not worth it to me. I would rather have those 3 hours to spend with my baby not going to/from work

[LiselMarie]

I currently work full time but we decided I will go back part time after baby arrives (mostly to keep health insurance coverage, it's still cheaper through my job than what we can get through the marketplace). I don't think I could handle being a stay at home mom (props to those of you that do it!!), and this feels like a good compromise.

[Lucky4317]

I am currently working full time and plan to work until few days before my due date. This is my first pregnancy, I am really undecided on what to do once baby comes. I don't know if I wanna be stay at home mom or work part time or full time.  Commuting to work now is very hectic takes me 2 hours to get to work and  2 hours to come home. I am already exhausted.  My husband left the decision up to me. So, I am very lost. Maybe you ladies can help me.

[bebexbella]

im a stay at home mom. before my first i worked full time and two jobs because my husband had difficulty finding on.  and i worked one job until 3 days before i went into labor. we both decided id stay home and watch the first and once he turned a little over one and stopped bf i started work again for a little bit and took turns having off days with hubby.

i stopped working altogether with the second mostly bc my hubby was away on duty for 6 mos.

it difficult being a stay at home mom because u need to keep ur child entertained and i try to keep him healthy and mentally stimulated with books and very little to no tv. and this winter was soo bad we barely went out which was the worst! and with the hormones from the second... it was a test of my patience and will!!! but it definitely is worth it i think because i see that i raised my child to the best i can :) good luck!

[b4b]

I have been a stay at home mom for 8 years now. My fourth is due in 7 days and believe me, you will find plenty to stay busy once your little one arrives. Make a point to get out of the house, it is really easy to become a recluse. Find other moms and enjoy your child. One con is that everyone assumes because you are a stay at home mom, you can take care of all their running and other stuff. Good luck!

[Mogpog]

I don't have any advice because I am kinda in the same boat. I hold a really good job that I worked really hard for and deserve, but there are a lot of cons to staying working so I am glad to be at home with baby. But I do have moments where I worry I am giving it all up and will regret it, and won't be able to get back to where I am professionally. But when I think of being home with baby instead of having to send her away to daycare it brings a huge smile and to my face and flutters inside. Reminds me of why I am staying home :-)

[Tevesie]

I totally understand! Well sort of I am actually on my 2nd day as a stay at home mom. Currently 36+6 weeks pregnant and also have a 4 1/2 year old but it is kind of nice. I feel weird not woring after always working full time for the past 10 years since out of h.s.I'm glad my fiance has given me this opportunity and I'm definitely looking forward to be able to be there full time for both my daughters. We all have our days but all will be ok. Good luck! :)

[GabbertA]

Why should it matter if your doing as well as your friends?? I could be working and making a ton of money with my career. However, I love my husband and child very much and when the baby is born we decided I would stay home with the baby. And I cant be happier. Make a choice based on whats right for your family not to impress your friends.

[cbreeziw]

Thank you so much this was very encouraging and helpful :)

[xkat22]

I've also decided to stay home. I'll have the baby in November so nowadays I'm looking for ways to stay busy, working out, cooking but I'm sure when the baby comes I'll have a full time job being a mother. I think its lucky if you can be in a position to not have to work and be there with your baby.

[SecondTimeMom15]

I'm a stay at home mom and completely understand what you're feeling. I worked very hard to finish school with my first child being young, and now that she is 5 and in kindergarten, we have baby #2 on the way. We have decided that I will remain a stay at home mom for the next few years, and I am completely happy with that decision. However, it definitely comes with challenges. Especially when several of my girlfriends have great jobs and are putting their degrees to use!

Here is what I have discovered being at home: stay busy. Yes, it's easy to say because some people wonder, what do you do all day? Well, I keep house, take care of kids, help teach/educate your child, find mother groups to get involved in, etc. Our local library is huge and has several mommy and me activities that are free. This is a great way to get out of the house and meet other local stay at home moms. This will help keep you sane! Sometimes you have to create the business, and trust me, there is plenty to do.

Probably the hardest thing to do, but you must do it, is keep time set aside for you every now and then, and you and your partner too. these two things are vital in helping you maintain a positive attitude and sense of self-worth. There are a million other things, but that's what I've got for now!!